here is the situation, we stop dating 2 months ago, the reason we stop dating is that she's dealing with emotional problems due to her last relationship of 8 years in which her x confess that he cheated on her the whole entire time. in which she's not ready for anything serious. so we stop but 2 weeks ago, we bump into each other and sparks reignited, we hung out the entire week and weekend, then into last week she became cold, toward the end of the week she began to ask me to hang out, we hung out this weekend so i decided to get her something for x mas, i got her something not cheap but not expensive something that she will love. so last night i went to give it to her, she said NO NO NO i cant accept this, I said don t worry about it, its just a gift, i brought everyone gifts so its not a big deal she said Yeah but i didnt get u anything (i knew this) and i told her dont worry about it later on she left me a message saying i dont know how much to thank u
what do u think about this
2007-12-17 03:53:12 · 12 answers · asked by simple J 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's hard to except gifts from someone when u can't give them something in return. I would never want someone to think I was out for the gift let alone the money. She's probably not use to being treated the way ur treating her and as it may feel good to her she's also scared. It's actually shocking to some of us that there are good men out there even after u've been sh*t on for so long. Good for u for being one of them good men!
2007-12-17 04:02:35 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Pure Evil♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's in emotional turmoil and doesn't know how to handle the situation. She is going to need time to resolve her problems with her past relationship before she can deal with another emotional relationship. She liked the gift but she was afraid it would mean you're trying to get back together and she's just not ready. Give her space; give her time. If she ever gets ready, she'll let you know. Meanwhile, go on with your life. Maybe you'll find someone who's free to love you the way you deserve and want. Good luck!
2007-12-17 04:08:37 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend is very insecure and confused right now. You are a person she is leaning on for support, and then you give her a gift for which she is not prepared to reciprocate. This adds embarrassment to her other problems. She is not prepared for a relationship with you, but she wants you around for the support she receives from you. So while you are being very kind you are also placing her in an awkward position.
2007-12-17 04:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by K K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means she really appreciates what you did and feels bad that she didn't get you a gift, too. She still leary, though, of getting too close to anyone, so take it slow.
2016-04-09 21:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She means what she said. She just feels bad for not getting you anything. She's just being humble about the gift and your feelings for her.
2007-12-17 03:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should leave her alone. she is obviously not over her ex and needs time a space to get over him before you start doing anything with her. i'm sure that she knows all this also, that's why she did not want your present.
2007-12-17 04:31:21 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she dosent know if shes coming or going, dosent know what she wants and still dealing with the x factor, i say you give her the present and sign off, SAYONARA.
2007-12-17 03:57:44 · answer #7 · answered by suehellen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really thinks she appreciates the gift that you gave her and it was unexpected.
2007-12-17 03:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by Toogood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it was sweet of you to get her a gift and she was embarrassed to be empty handed... i wouldn't worry about it...
2007-12-17 03:59:33 · answer #9 · answered by Avia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you tell us what it is that you got for her....
2007-12-17 03:57:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋