Well i dunno if you all read what i wrote before . But me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years . My family loves him , and he lives with me. He has a job and GED and i go to school and have a job . I am not trying to get pregnant but there's a possibilty i can be . My boyfriend kinda came in me . Stupid huh ? i know i know . I don't wanna have a kid and tell him or her they were an accident . I have been taking care of kids all my life . my mom gave me a real bad life cuz she was on drugs and i had to be the mommy watching babies , giving em baths, feeding them . All my brothers were raised by me except the oldest. But i have experienced bein a mommy . I still do . I live with my lil cousins . I know i can do the part with teaching them how to walk run jump talk etc. I have before , i just don't know what I am gonna do , or how i should do it . Anny more suggestions besides wait ? cuz if i'm pregnant then i am pregnant an keeping it . I am against abortion and adoption .
2007-12-17 03:21:57 · 47 answers · asked by jazmyn a 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
sweetie it is not the end of the world if you have a baby, i would not advise it if you can wait then great but accidents happen, i had a baby young, and try to talk young girls out of it but if it happens then you just have to make the best of it, as i said i was a young mum, but i still got my education and went to university, i won't lie it will be hard work and at times you will be so tired that you just want to give up, but it is about making the most of what we are given, my son is nearly 15 now and i do not regret him coming into my life but if i had had a choice i would have waited, i tell my son that although he was not planned he was the best accident i have ever had and he thinks that it is a cool way of putting it, so it does not matter if you plan a child or not what matters is that you become the best mom you can and make sure that accident or not the child is the most loved and cared for child in the world, even at your age if you can overcome the prejudice and have the support of your family then your life is not over it is just starting a new chapter and you can still have a life, i hope it all works out for you best of luck honey, and remember you have shown you are a strong person with the life you have had, you can be just as strong if you are pregnant and still make your life work out the way you want it
2007-12-17 04:13:29 · answer #1 · answered by fruitcake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, go to Planned Parenthood and find out if you really are pregnant or not. If you are not pregnant, get on the pill ASAP! At your age I would recommend using condoms as well, even if you are in an exclusive relationship. You never can be too careful. Planned Parenthood gives these out for free.
If you are pregnant, the people at the clinic will be able to help you know what to do next. If you are determined to keep the baby you will have to make sure you are taking care of yourself. No drinking, smoking, drugs, etc. Take vitamins and visit the doctor regularly. Do you have an adult in your life that you can trust? If it's not a family member, how about a teacher at school? Find an adult to talk to about all of this.
No matter what, stay in school!!! Go to college! Get an education! That is the best way to take care of you and your baby. Never let anyone tell you that you can't finish school or make something of yourself. I'm sorry you had to deal with a lot of adult issues while growing up, but you can change your life for yourself and your children. School might be hard, but keep going and study hard. Even if your boyfriend tells you to work more or to stay home with the baby, just remember that once you have graduated college you will be able to have a good job that you like and take care of your baby the way someone should have taken care of you when you were younger.
Good luck!
2007-12-17 03:37:10 · answer #2 · answered by Natty 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really don't see why you are asking this question when you already know the answer yourself. If you have raised and cared for that many people in your life, then the last thing you would want to do is have a child of your own. The truth of the matter is no one is really ready to be a parent at any age. But having someone there helps make the situation better. For you i would say just to raise the child the best way you know how to. You know what kind of life you have had and you don't want that for your "possible" child, then do something about it so that your child doesn't have to go through the same things you did. And if you are not pregnant then take precautions so that you don't have this kind of scare again.
2007-12-17 04:38:32 · answer #3 · answered by ♫♪2 kids+1 wife=magical♪♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me start by telling you a little bit about me. I am a 17 year old mother of a 13 month old. My boyfriend "came in me" and I, too, was against abortion. When I got pregnant I had to move into a maternity home because I was 16 years old and could not get on Medicaid because of my age unless I lived with a dependent adult. My boyfriend had a high school diploma and a steady job but he STILL didn't make enough money to pay doctor bills. When I moved into the maternity home I was forced to drop out of school and was put on bedrest for 3 months. I had no life whatsoever. I had a healthy baby boy and thought I was ready, but I quickly learned that I wasn't. No 16 year old is ready for sleepless nights and nursing sessions. My son now lives with his paternal grandparents and I am a full time college student on a scholarship. I keep my son everyday after school and take him home before bed. I love my son, Jadon, to death, but I would never have had unprotected sex to begin with if I could take it all back. The stress of the whole situation was too much to bare.
You need to seek a counselor's help before you get pregnant or even THINK about getting pregnant. If you ARE pregnant, I consider you look into adoption along with keeping your child. I hope you have an adult to help you, because if you don't you and your boyfriend are going to have an extremely hard time. Best of luck to you. Think before you act.
2007-12-17 13:29:26 · answer #4 · answered by Mary K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know what makes me think you're to young to be having a baby? Read your letter again. Only someone NOT old enough to have a child would say these things. "He has a job and a GED". Well, that will get him 8 bucks at McDonald's real quick. You say your mom gave you a bad life, then maybe you should learn from it and want better for your own children. ( my mother was a drunk and I raised 4 of my siblings, 2 of them called ME mommy. I was there girlfriend) You ain't doing nothing but more of what your mother did: robbing you of your youth! Grow up. Have a LIFE before you create another. Go to college. Earn some money, Be someone your child can be proud of. Give yourself a chance to live. Learn how to control your own life before you try to control someone else's. From the letter I just read, you ain't in control of nothing. Do a lot of praying. Good luck to you.
2007-12-17 03:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by Watching in Westminster 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your family "loves" a man who has been, basically, committing statutory rape against their daughter for the last two years, there's not much else to be said, is there? *sigh*
If this happened just in the last 24/48 hours, RUN to a pharmacist and check and see if it's too late for a morning-after pill. That will throw your hormornes into overdrive and perhaps prevent conception. Now is NOT the time for false embarrassment.
Other than that -- there's not much else we can offer. If you're pregnant, you've just become another statistic. You have already declared that you won't consider abortion or adoption, so what else is there?
2007-12-17 03:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Heya, everyone thats saying dont have it will ruin your life, it doesnt. you do higher education when the child goes to school, the thing with life is that things happen which you dont expect or necessarily want and if these things to happen then things you do want may have to be put on hold. for example if you are pregnant then in 5yrs time you can go onto higher education when you are older at that time you will still only be 21/22, which aint too old to do it. if you do split up, it may be difficult but you will adjuct to it. If you have this baby tho, you have always got to put it first, the baby would be the most important thing and if you and your boyfriend split up then you need to stay in contact so that the baby knows his/her dad. Hope this helps and best of luck x
2007-12-18 09:24:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have your mind made up and you want to get pregnant. You and your boyfriend are planning to get pregnant because otherwise he wouldnt have came in you. Its going to continue to happen if you dont get on birth control. Youre so young and you have had adult responsibilities but once you have a child of your own its no joke! Its not as easy as it looks. Do you want to become like your mom? Just because you know about children and you live in a household of many kids doesnt mean you should add another child. PLEASE FINISH HIGH SCHOOL and decide on a career maybe even go to college. You have the rest of your life to have kids. God isnt gonna let you go deprived 10 years from now. Once you have a child your life is over, its all about that child...not you or your boyfriend. Please make better decisions, now that youre having sex try to get birth control to prevent pregnancy!
2007-12-17 04:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by Kay-Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to live a little first before you have a baby if you are pregnant then think about it seriously i dont understand why you are against adoption though many people cant look after their children and adoption is the best for the child. Are you saying it is wrong for a lovely family who cannot have children to adopt a child whose parents cannot or are not ready to care for it. Or do you mean its not for you whatever you do you have to put the baby first
hope this helps good luck
xx
2007-12-17 05:32:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would wait to see if your pregnant...& then i would get on the pill
your not ready for kids i know you had a hard life but that is more reason to go be a kid for a while I'm glad you got away from your mom she doesn't sound like a very good mother
talk to your bf and tell him if you guys stay together and are doing this good in 4 or more years you guys will talk about kids that will make you around 20 or 21
good luck
2007-12-17 03:32:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋