i am a single mother and i don't feel that i can get into a relatonship with n e one because i have a kid and i don't think that that person would accept me and my son i am wrong for feeling this way?
2007-12-17 03:21:54 · 40 answers · asked by britt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i always put my child first no matter what
2007-12-17 03:26:06 · update #1
thanks everybody
2007-12-17 03:27:30 · update #2
Hi. It's possible to get together with someone when you're a single mom but please be really careful. Sometimes the guy can resent the child or even be jealous of it and might treat it badly (often behind your back). Also, not to scare you or anything, but sometimes men who are only after kids will get together with the mom in order to get into proximity with the children. Keep your eyes open and know the signs.
2007-12-17 03:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by North 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-12-17 03:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fear is common and society promotes it - but there are plenty of guys in the same boat and guys who would love a family but have been late deciding this - so the only way most of them could have a family is to have "someone else's" as it were. Most guys are not hung up on fathering their own kids - though some are.
So you can shop guys who are at the playground with their kids, or guys who are out buying children's toys for their kids or take your kids out in public with you when you flirt a little. Ultimately, if you do get a night out now and then, you could even make a small button that says "Yes, I have a child" and wear it tongue-in-cheek. Guys who are not scared off will find if amusing and guys who would be turned off by that will not be wasting your time! Everyone should appreciate your honesty. Take your child out skating or to other places and flirt while he enjoys himself. Keep an eye on him, but at least any guy there will understand you and the kid are a package deal. You are offering the "instant family" package - marketing is everything, honey. ;)
2007-12-17 03:32:07 · answer #3 · answered by Amy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah, don't be disappointed. It takes time in order to find someone like that.
Good luck.
Just be yourself, but you should have some time for your significant other too, when you have found one. Sometimes your partner would not like it if you pay too much attention to your kid because he may feel left out.
Before you date someone though, let them know how you feel and let them know that your kid means a lot to you. Get to know your partner more and more and if he cannot accept your situation, then move on. There are many fishes out there. Keep fishin' if you haven't found the right one yet. You are still young and it's not the end of the world yet.
2007-12-17 03:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush yourself to date. Take your time and make sure your son is taken care of. Having a child will make you look for different things in a mate. When you date, be very open and honest about your son and what you both need in a relationship. There are many men out there looking for women with whom they can have a family. You just need to find the right kind of person... a kind man with a good heart... when you are ready. But it doesn't sound like you are ready to start looking yet.
2007-12-17 03:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by shanequinox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the term step, as in step father or step mother, would not exist if no one with children got remarried. I think the best way to enter a relationship is to be candid or honest about your situation. Don't sound desperate for financial support but instead casually reveal the fact that yo have a kid. If you keep a positive mind set i believe you find what you are looking for.
2007-12-17 03:31:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible.
My best friend was a single mom for 3 years before she got with her husband. They've been together close to 4 years now and her husband treats her child as his own. The child is now oddly starting to look like the husband and even acts like him. If the biological dad would give up his parental rights, her husband would adopt and have the child have his last name in a minute.
2007-12-17 03:28:57 · answer #7 · answered by Flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are wrong! I have three (now adult) kids, and i found a wonderful man to accept them, and nurture them. You just have to find the right man to do this though. There are men who will date you even if you have children, but are not interested in you kids at all. You need to see how they get along with your child and see how much, and what kind of attention they give them!
2007-12-17 03:32:35 · answer #8 · answered by Pebbles63 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. There are still some good men out there who see a woman with kids as a blessing and not a "ready-made family" or "baggage"
I started dating a guy when I was 5 months pregnant. We dated for four years and we've been married for eight. Even though he was 20, he was mature and he knew what he was getting into.
So don't get discouraged. There is someone out there for your and your child and he'll be good to both of you.
2007-12-17 03:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely you can. Many times it does end like you are assuming however your chances are still good. From my observation; you have to have a long engagement prior to making a committment. You MUST know ahead of time how they will be through holidays, birthdays, day in and day out living. Alot of times they get jealous of you attention. Sometimes they are put on hold because your tending to your child. There are numerous things that have a potential threat; but if they are worthy, unselfish, caring, loving etc; (everything they should be) you need to know before making a lifelong comittment.
I failed to do these in remarriage and learned the hardway. Make sure you know what your getting into before hand. Just remember, there are alot of deal breakers out there, make sure you don't end up with one. Good Luck.
2007-12-17 03:28:54 · answer #10 · answered by Keeper 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋