In my school there is this HUGE popular crowd and somehow people just get accepted into it over night, and I dont understand what they do that makes all of the popular people like them or want to be around them. Like this guy I liked last year, pretty much everyone hated him then magically he got popular and he was friends with all of the girls and he was cool with the 8th graders.And one of my friends that was just normal started hanging out w/ the cool kids and before i knew it she was one of them. I just dont understand how these people get so popular over night and what do they do???
IM CONFUSED! HELLPPPP!
does anyone know the secret?? PLEASE HELP
2007-12-17 02:52:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Popularity is a big deal in middle school and high school. I should know because I'm in 8th grade, and I guess I'm what you'd consider "popular". First of all, you need to stop thinking of these girls as popular. When I look at my friends, I don't say "Wow, these girls are so popular, how lucky am I?" I think "Wow, these girls are great people and I'm glad I'm friends with them". Get yourself known for good things. Show off your talents, dress nicely (maybe a few designer things but mostly things that look really flattering on you), get your hair and nails done, and always be clean. Join some clubs and get involved. Be nice to everyone and smile and be friendly. Confidence is key. Find a person in the popular group that looks nice and try to get to be friends with her because once she is your friends, her friends will probably accept you, too. Throw a party, thats a great way to make new friends and be more well known. Don't be shy or afraid to talk. And don't forget about your grades and all your old friends. Try to get to know some cool older kids because they won't know your social status, but maybe you can pick up some ideas from them. Good luck, and remember that popularity really doesn't matter when you get out of grade school, so be a nice kind of popular and enjoy it while you can! And be yourself!!!
2007-12-17 08:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Popularity in middle school is not an exact science, but it ususally involves conforming to some "norm" set by the "leaders". In my day it required that you wear certain clothes, shop at particular stores, and live in a certain part of town. This is an age where you are meant to establish your unique self don't try so hard to be liked by others work more at liking yourself for what makes you a special person. Because you are special! Develop your talents study and do well in school join clubs at school that interest you. Expand who you are and like yourself and you will attract true friends. Remember middle school is but a few years within a life time. The only people I still see from my middle school days are the True friends who liked me for me. Good luck!
2007-12-17 03:06:36 · answer #2 · answered by The painted goat lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yes, only if like 10% might not Because they are a popular, and they are courageous, cuz srsly if you are not courageous how would you be popular So when they go to high school, they will be popular for their own grade at the first year and later on they will join the popular kids of that high school
2016-05-24 08:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the exact same problem, but here's how I deal with it. Just ignore them. If they're mean like that, then you probably shouldn't want them for your friends.
None of my friends are really popular, and you know, I think that they're a lot more awesome than the 'popular' crowd. I've learned that the popular people aren't really that popular, cuz nobody really likes them. The people that are friendly and people like are the popular ones. Hope this helps!
2007-12-17 03:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by Hypothetic Nut Case 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. Be confident that the person you are is a nice, friendly person. Don't try to be something you are not or someone you are not. Don't change and try to behave as you think someone else expects you to behave. That's hard work and worth nothing. Just be genuine and people will automatically like you. No-one likes someone who is false. Falseness shows. Don't try and get into this 'IN' crowd because it won't work. Don't worry about it and you'll find that without trying you will be accepted for yourself.
2007-12-17 03:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by chris n 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice, complimentitive, respectful and understanding, have a good sense of humor and never run dow or belittle or gossip. Listen to others when they talk and give genuine possitive responses.
When you are view'd as being a pleasure to be around and always making others feel good and laugh and such, as you grow and mature, and those are the things others begin taking value in, you will rise to the top just by being you.
2007-12-17 03:03:30 · answer #6 · answered by savahna5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was one of those overnighters. You just need to be yourself and laugh and have fun and eventually one of those popular people will notice how fun you are and once you're in with one person, you're in with all of them.
but interestingly enough, I got bored of them pretty quickly and ended up hanging out more with the people I was close to from day one.
You live and learn and soon enough this popularity contest will be seen as immature and stupid.
2007-12-17 04:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by Blah blah blah 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I realized being popular you tend to get in more trouble. But just be yourself and just try to sit with different groups. Being popular isnt anything special.
2007-12-17 03:02:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself and you'll find people who like you for who you are...
just play it cool.... what makes the popular kids popular is that they act like themselves around everyone and that's why people like them so much.....
2007-12-17 02:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by Asija_Luvz_U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you care? lol just be who you are. you're in middle school and u have time to worry about stuff like popularity but once you go to high school being popular will be the last thing on your mind belive me.......
2007-12-17 03:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by *asian chick* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋