here is the situation, we stop dating 2 months ago, the reason we stop dating is that she's dealing with emotional problems due to her last relationship of 8 years in which her x confess that he cheated on her the whole entire time. in which she's not ready for anything serious. so we stop but 2 weeks ago, we bump into each other and sparks reignited, we hung out the entire week and weekend, then into last week she became cold, toward the end of the week she began to ask me to hang out, we hung out this weekend so i decided to get her something for x mas, i got her something not cheap but not expensive something that she will love. so last night i went to give it to her, she said NO NO NO i cant accept this, I said don t worry about it, its just a gift, i brought everyone gifts so its not a big deal she said Yeah but i didnt get u anything (i knew this) and i told her dont worry about it later on she left me a message saying i dont know how much to thank u
what do u think about this
2007-12-17 02:42:18 · 12 answers · asked by Steven 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think if you were just being kind in giving her the gift and not expecting anything in return, that's great. That's the greatest form of giving. :)
2007-12-17 02:46:05 · answer #1 · answered by gogogadgetlonglegs 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like what happens to me. I buy the gift and they freak out. I think your friend just doesnt know how to accept people doing nice things for them. Shes been so dumped on shes not really sure whats good and what she perceives as a trick. Not that you are trying to trick her.....but that is the way her mind works after having trusted her last relationship and the way it turned out. I think you are doing the right thing. It will take a long time for her to realize that you dont have an ulterior motive and that you are genuine. Keep being there for her and she will soon know you and appreciate you for the wonderful person you really are!
2007-12-17 02:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you were just being yourself and being a nice guy! It also sounds like she doesn't know how to handle that right now because of what she went through in her past. I think you are doing a great job from what it sounds like. Taking it slow and always giving her space, the moment you get needy it sounds like she will take flight so let her call the shots if you sense she is drawing back. I think a small Christmas gift was a lovely idea.
2007-12-17 02:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by Tact is highly overrated 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You were on your toes. You gave without expecting anything in return. That's the best gift of all. You didn't buy her something cheap as a "token" Christmas present. But, you never spent a wad to make her feel like she was indebted to you. I'd say your the ghost of Christmas...dare I say it... present. Great job! Happy Christmas
2007-12-17 02:50:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's wonderful. I think she really appreciated the gesture.. and assure her again that there is no need to reciprocate. In fact, I wouldn't limit it to just Christmas... For example, pick up that dvd she mentioned that she loved and then bring it over to her place and have a date night but leave it there for her to keep. Or just bring over a few treats to stock her kitchen pantry with. It is then that a gal feels like a guy is really into her and listening to her and taking care of her. It's the random flowers and tiny box of chocolates bought for no reason, or a tiny picture frame with your mug in it that will make her melt. I think you did a nice thing.
2007-12-17 02:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's happy to have gotten your gift and you only gained points in her eyes! Good for you! Good choice. Just stay a constant, reliable friend and she'll come around, don't push too hard until she's ready. Just let her know you will be there when she's ready and you don't want to put pressure on her.
2007-12-17 02:47:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she doesn't know WHAT she wants. Give her a little space and see what happens! Merry Christmas, Nice Guy! Hugs, Gina C.
2007-12-17 03:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by Gina C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow dude to be honest I really do think she likes you she's just going trough some harsh times if you trully love her just support her and love her ...and well this was a cute storry....lol i know i know i'm a guy and said cute but heck lol a guy ot to have a heart :D good luck dude
2007-12-17 02:48:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You made her day, week, month, or possible year. Seems like she is pretty interested just trying to get over goofy.
2007-12-17 02:46:58 · answer #9 · answered by Radertastic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes begining to accept tht thr are nice guys too around.. like u
2007-12-17 02:46:16 · answer #10 · answered by red head 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋