Though I am normally a holiday person, I hate it this year and can't wait to get it over with. I also enjoy celebrating my bday but this year I didn't and when my family went against my wishes and threw me a bday party, I spend it in my room crying b/c I hated hearing people talk about me being a grown woman (I'm 21) when I feel like my life is going downhill and all dreams I had for the future, even normal ones like getting married and having children will never come true. I'm arguing w/ my parents about my upcoming graduation b/c college has been the loneliest time in my life and hate my major so I don't want to get a graduation picture, ring, or attend the ceremony. I've gained a ton of weight and don't care much about my looks anymore. I hate seeing ppl happy w/ friends b/c I have none. I went from a 3.7 GPA to a 2.5. I don't want to work or do anything other than stay in bed and sleep. My parents feel I'm being lazy but I just feel like something else is wrong with me.
2007-12-17 02:41:57 · 16 answers · asked by ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
hunni, i know from experience that you are clinically depressed and need to see a specialist right away.
i think you need to take a day out for yourself, and do something that might make you happy: a day at the spa, shopping trip....
i also think you should take up a sport/ exercise regeime, you'll feel so much better about yourself, and feel really refreshed too!!!
also, i think you should join a club or something where you can meet new people, but will be under no obligation to see them outside of the club. that way you will loook forward to your night out, but will not feel the stress of having to make time to socialise when it doesnt suit you.
oh yeah- get a dog or a cat. i know im going on, but they'll like you unconditionally, and they always hav the nack of cheering you up...
2007-12-17 02:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by eden.minx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are depressed. It's not normal..but common. I have been too, but you can get over it. I hate when ppl are calling me 'woman' too, I prefer 'girl' (i'm 22). You need to get more exercise (not because you gained weight but cuz it makes you feel better), go dancing, start playing some instrument. I used to have no friends too, but then colleges came where I met lots of people who were a lot more friendly and open towards me than kids at highschool were. And I don't believe that because someone said that one counts as 'grown-up' after 21 is suddenly turning into one. One can be still be a 'teenager' and be almost 30. I am not talking about being infantile, but about ones inner self. But you have so much time left to fulfill your dreams, you don't need to worry everything will be just fine. Even if things don't go the way you wanted, you can still see that there is something positive in whichever way your life took. You should not think that anything is ruined, you are only 21, things will change. And have a graduation pic, later when you look at it when you are Happy you would realize how much for the better your life has changed. :)
2007-12-17 02:56:08 · answer #2 · answered by mokje 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's just a time of change or something in your life. For a more then a months now, I've been having the same problem. I don't want to do work, I'm falling behind in the lessons. Heck, I had no idea how my class got to Africa in History...But maybe it's a change of pace. The whole world seems to be slowing down, so I don't think it's just you. It ould be the fact that the past year(s) have been boring and un eventful so you may think that the years to come will be the same. But make sure to tl fall completely behind in your life ^^ 21 is still very young
2007-12-17 02:49:20 · answer #3 · answered by loveboundedbychains 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's okay that you feel this way. People go through phases of depression and feeling overwhelmed.
There are several free confidential counseling lines that you can call. It sounds like it would be a good idea for you to speak with someone.
Depression can also be clinical, so you may need medications, and you may find they help quite a bit.
A little step you could take is start walking every day. This will increase your energy and help you feel a little better about yourself. Even if you don't lose all the weight you want to, you'll still feel better because you won't feel like your muscles are saggy in addition to the other woes you're experiencing.
I hope you feel better soon, and I hope you'll reach out for some help.
2007-12-17 02:47:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're school should have many resources for you. I would suggest going to go see a counselor. You said a lot of stuff in your message that can not be addressed on here. A counselor will help you with those problems. There is a lot i would like to say; however, i feel like i would complicate things for you and giving you advise is only telling you what i would do, which does nothing for you. Who knows you better than you? Go see a counselor. Hope it all works out, best of luck!
P.S. Medication may not be right for you, it is always a quick fix for people; however, it may not be right for you. Get information and be informed before you put pills in your body.
Internet diagnosis is obsurd, don't listen to people when they tell you "YOU ARE CLINICALLY DEPRESSED" they know only a few of your symptoms. Please so see a professional.
2007-12-17 02:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're deeply unhappy.
Why, I can't say, but you should talk to a professional, such as a therapist.
Why you feel nothing you hoped for will NEVER happen to you, when your only 21 years old, and no one has all their life dreams achieved by then, I aslo can't say, but it does show me that you need professional help.
You don't say why you chose a major you hate, but you're an adult now, and if there's something you do want to major in, that you don't have, you should think about that.
Get help.
It's not that there's "something wrong with you" in the sense that it's YOU that's messed up. It sounds like there's stuff wrong with your life, and you need help figuring out what to do about it.
2007-12-17 03:12:35 · answer #6 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOMAN!
you have hit a bad patch, everything seems bad, you wont look at anything positive. You know what, tomorrow aint gonna be any better, lets be honest, neither will be next week, but you gotta start prioritising the things you need to change, write it down, then slowly one by one, work on it and change it around. Take your time but do it.
over time the negatives will be tackled. Its gonna be rubbish and you will hate the nxt period of your life, but eventually you will see out of this dark tunnel. Sort your life out today so you can have a better life soon.
You will eventually have to start this process, do it today!
2007-12-17 02:47:21 · answer #7 · answered by dowsann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really think about what your true problem is, and don't ever go to pills, you're strong enought to get out of this yourself. It seems that you don't want your major, change it if so. Maybe you're changing, and now you see that alot of the things that were important aren't any more. there are so many possiblities. Maybe you feel like you deserve more in life than what you're getting..... Yeah so my advice ot you is think alot, look deep into your own self and you'll figure out whats wrong.
2007-12-17 03:10:28 · answer #8 · answered by Come again 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this depressed condition, it is possible you will find the answers not interesting. Shed some weight. It may help. The best advice is a visit to your Doctor. He has a cure for your problem, at lerast he will tell whom you should check with.. Good luck.
2007-12-17 02:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by pai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are clinically depressed. You need to see a doctor and get medication.
Also, start exercising. You will feel much better and look better too!
Once your depression is under control, you will find something you are interested in and meet a great guy, have wonderful children, and live happily ever after.
2007-12-17 02:47:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋