I am married but not sure if I still love my wife. I had an 8 month affair with a woman and I still think about her. Now I have fallen for someone else and I think about her all the time too.
2007-12-17 02:27:55 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Boy this is a tough one bud...It has happened to the best of us...Only you know what makes you happy, follow your heart I believe it's the only thing we have that is truly honest!
2007-12-17 02:33:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
How can you say you love your wife and have an affair. Stop thinking with the little head and start thinking with the one on your shoulders. For once in your life be a man and tell your wife and let her get on with her life with someone worthy of her love YOU are not. You don;t know what love is or what it means to be married. Until you do don't be in a relationship. You have no right to deliberately hurt someone else.
2007-12-17 02:51:00 · answer #2 · answered by love my life 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes love is confusing but maybe only in the eye of the beholder. I am not so sure you actually are IN love with your wife. You may love her as a friend or something of that nature but its apparent something is lacking in your marriage for you to continue to go out and cheat on your wife. You know the woman you vowed to love the rest of your life? I think some people are just not destined to be married. They only follow that path b/c its what they feel they are supposed to do. You may be one of those people. Think about what you are doing and how it affects your wife. You are not being fair to her. Some people would label you as selfish. I just think you are totally confused by the concept of monogamy and true love. Get out of your marriage to be fair to your wife and then you can date whoever you want without hurting your wife.
Good luck to you and your wife especially
2007-12-17 02:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
well she's your wife she comes first find out if you love her and the 8 month afair and still thinking about her is unfair to your wife and as far as the stranger you just met she comes in last and I 'm sure she doesnt play that way be fair to her let her move on find who you want out of the other 2 good luck
2007-12-17 03:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by Lynn 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should probably leave your wife. It feels like a secure relationship, but marriage can be just a bad habit if you are not into her anymore. Tell her so that she can do something with her own life as well. It would be very unselfish of you to let her go.. so she can move on. But then you can go out and crush on women and sleep with a bunch of them.
2007-12-17 03:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not too sure what your problem is, but I hope you find out soon. Why? Because you will never be able to find true happiness if you can't figure yourself out first. Maybe you need sometime to reflect, maybe a mini getaway. No women involved. If you truly don't love your wife, you need to let her go. It not fair for her to tie down to such a person. If you do love your wife, then it is not too late to turn this around. But my Friend, you need time to think if this is the life you really want for yourself. A life of hurting people and filling unaccomplished and guilty. Good luck to you.
2007-12-17 02:36:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Love can be confusing when you think it's only a feeling.
There's more to it. Love is also action. Love is that unending devotion to your signifant other even when you may be going through a rough time. Do the things that you do when you "feel" that you are in love even if you think you're not. You'll find that your relationship will become stronger.
P.S. This means "love" your wife and leave the other woman alone.
2007-12-17 02:36:20 · answer #7 · answered by Vitiran 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
First of all, you can't fix marital problems by going outside the marriage. Sounds like you are very selfish and enjoy the thrill of gatting cought. If you are going to keep doing this, then you need to let your wife go, so she can find someone who does love her and won't cheat on her every chance he gets. Marriage is a lot of hard work. It isn't all joy and bliss. these other women are appealing to you because you don't have the marriage bond, and the things that come with marriage and responsibilities of it. So they seem appealing to you because it's a thrill. You woll do this to any woman you marry, cheat on her. Very sad, and also sad cause you are using these other women and they are insecure, and so desperate, that they are willing to take empty compliments, to be your other woman. Sad, selfish, and your wife deserves much much more!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-17 02:35:25 · answer #8 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Obviously you dont love your wife. Why can't your re-kindle your passion with your wife? Buy her a nice dress that you would like for her to wear. Treat her to the spa to get her hair, nails done and go out to dinner. Why can't you do for your own what you would do for someone that does not belong to you?
2007-12-17 02:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You were not ready to be married, you are still searching and falling in love with these different women. You need to either decide if you want to stay married, if you need you need to make a decision to be faithful to your wife. If you do not want to be married, then you owe it to your wife to divorce her. You are trying to have it both ways and this can end up hurting many people.
2007-12-17 02:32:51 · answer #10 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
question for you... what is marriage to you? why did you marry your wife? what is love to you? marriage should be a commitment, a promise to the one you love to be faithful and true until death... did you take your vows seriously? love is a choice... i feel so sorry for your poor wife, does she know about your infidelity? have you considered her feelings? i hope you use protection.... if you want to save your marriage, get counseling... get yourself right first, then ask her to join you... be prepared for the consequences of all your choices... we all have the freedom to choose, but there are always consequences for our choices... beware of the temporal pleasures that are fleeting and focus on the long term life partner marriage is supposed to be all about...
2007-12-17 02:55:58 · answer #11 · answered by Avia 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋