esp if its indian marriage couple!
2007-12-17 02:08:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
...sorry, IM not familiar with that indian custom, unless, you've
been cheating and failed to mention this to US. Then, YES!!!.
2007-12-21 01:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ew... I hope not. I think I know where you're coming from on this.
It's all about the psychology of relationships. (and has little to do with race or nationality).
There are no definites in this area. There are theories, and there are assumptions, and they are based on observations of people over time and apply to averages, so there are always exceptions.
But... if you are gushing all the time, with love and affection, and words of this sort, it assumably could make a woman feel more than secure to the point of arrogance in the relationship, you eliminate all the risk for her, and thus she could feel confident flirting, or she could feel smothered, and thus dump you.
Following this line of thinking, as a better, alternative way of behaving, I have one word:::: "INDIFFERENCE".
Do you feel secure in your relationship? Do you feel as if you are safe with your wife? Do feel as if you would be safe & secure with yourself if something were to happen to your relationship, and you were to find yourself on your own?
If the answers to the above are "YES"... then you've no need to "ACT" indifferent towards her & the relationship, but you may geniunely behave indifferently towards the relationship.
Indifference, is a sign of balance, and it sends a much different signal to a woman.
If the answers to the above questions are "NO", then it goves you something to focus on, and areas in your life to work to improve to get to a point of balance where you do not have the insecure need to gush your feelings on to your wife.
2007-12-17 10:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by blujello 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen pal , It doesnt matter nowadays about india or US or indo-us, chinese or whatever. its the same . its the nature of men and what they have been taught that has always been reflected as the image of that society.
if you talk about this probelm in a bar,pub,club, in India Or US, i am sure every male will understand what you are talking about , but they all will reciprocate based on thier knowledge of thier spouses/partners . Not yours .
So you have to know more about her .Spend time not only to care for her but also to understand and get a better ground for relationship. Women cant forget that .Needs of women will change with time. So u have 2 as well. Dont assume. Understand and make your move.
Good luck .
2007-12-17 23:33:20 · answer #3 · answered by Satya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a little about people from India but I'm not sure if you are talking India or American Indian. Either way I would say that if you treat your wife like gold & she is a good person your are safe. If you treat her like anything else you will get what you deserve.
2007-12-17 10:18:53 · answer #4 · answered by calendargirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about how it is in India - but I left my EX for NOT talking to me and taking care of my needs.
God (or Higher Power), Family, Self - put things in this order and things should be all right.
2007-12-17 10:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in india if a lady want to flirt then no body can stop her even take her in hundreds of cover or thousands of locks, but a lady won't then no body can flirt with her. This is the open truth of indian lady. you can try it ....
2007-12-18 07:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by vishal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not true it works both ways it should be equal , but you should not be flirting nor should she if you give her everthing she wants in the right manor and not going overthe board, and she does not take you for granted than everthing should be OK, You got married for love till death do you part you have to give and take , but i think it is usually we ( man) have to give rather than get, if you see my point,
So dont take to much for granted for what other people say , you should know what is right and wrong, Take care of your wife you will only get one chance in a life time , ENJOY
2007-12-17 12:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by Bharat P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im an indian girl n im married...n my husband loves me a lottttt.....well in the beginning i used to feel a bit suffocated...like he had to call me every 5 mins...thn i told him to give me some space n he did...but thn i missed him....so i guesss the conclusion is no amount o lovin n carin is evr gone to waste,,bt yea give her some space too..there is no reason y she wud dump u for loving..unless shes a fool..
2007-12-17 20:45:36 · answer #8 · answered by puts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is nonsense talking... Women dump rough, no caring guys.
2007-12-17 13:20:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anita P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if you care too much for your wife, she may feel smothered. So stop smothering her, let her be her own person. No flirting allowed.
2007-12-17 10:21:33 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋