Should I go back to my wife?

Question

I love my wife. We have been together for 4 years she is the mother of my youngest child ( I have 4 children with 4 different mothers). This is my last child I cannot have anymore children. My wife and I fight all the time because of her temper. she keeps saying things will get better and they haven't...I finally took all my stuff and left Its been 3 weeks now. Should I try to work things out I cannot take it anymore she always verbally abuses me and screams at me.

Answer 1

...YES!!! If YOU want more of the same, if not, initiate legal
proceeding to seperate...but, DO, something.

Answer 2

You love your wife very much and this does not give her the right to verbally abuse you, She has been saying things will get better and they haven't, you left because you couldn't take it any more that was the best thing you could have done before, things get physical. The both of you probably need marriage counseling perhaps this will work and perhaps it wont but nothing beats a failure but to try and hold on. God has the answer. Do what is best for you also you have feelings and heart.

best of luck

Answer 3

Of course we're only getting half the story here... You said you have 4 children with 4 different mothers... I'm being honest with you here, your track record isn't exemplary. I'm inclined to think that you are as much a problem in your difficult relationship as she is.

Soul search yourself to make sure you understand that relationships: husband and wife, parent and child, etc... are not completely about your being pleased in them. They're about sacrifice at times, compromise at others, and pleasure too.

If you go back to your wife, realize that nothing will change without your helping it to change. Talk with her. Tell her how you feel. Work out an understanding. Spend your remaining days with a mature outlook on what relationships take.

Answer 4

Being married is a good thing, But a level of respect should exist in your relationship. Abuse whether emotionally, verball or physical is wrong. Being with someone out of commitment is the wrong way to go. I myself was a child that grew up in a household where verbal abuse was rampant and believe me you do not want your daughter to grow up in these conditions.

Talk to your wife, tell her you want to work on your relationship. Both of you need to write down the good things and the bad things. Tell her that you are not going to continue in this fashion and that every day we (you and your wife) must take steps to be more loving and supportive of one another.

Set goals and work on one thing at a time. I would begin with respect. Talking respectfully to one another and set rules for acceptable behavior. Let her know that you want to make the relationship work but you can not do it alone. Let her know that you were considering divorce and that you don't want to be in a relationship like this. Ask her why would she want to be in a relationship with someone she doesn't respect and that if she is so unhappy maybe she should be with someone else to make her happy. There are two sides of this story....you have got to communicate with her. Communication is key. Listen to her, ask her what went wrong first, then talk about working on being happier together, you owe that to yourselves as well as to your daughter. May Almighty God Guide you

Answer 5

You say that you always fight because of her temper. Has it always been like that or has it changed? What else has changed? If you feel threatened and unhappy with her she does need to reconsider how she treats you. You say you love her, and of course you want to make it work, but not if that means loosing yourself... Maybe she need some treatment for that temper she has, and maybe you have to figure out how you really feel about her, is it ever-lasting love, or do you CARE for her? do you feel like this time it HAS to work as you've been with so many already?
If it makes you unhappy and unsecure it's not worth staying in.. Let her know that, and maybe she'll try harder to be the way she should

Good luck!

Answer 6

If she said she's going to change hold her up to it. Tell her the only way you will come back if she puts it into action. I'd HIGHLY recommend her reading the books, "Love and Respect" "The 5 Love Languages" "Becoming the Woman of his Dreams" and "Men are from Mars Woman are from Venus."

Tell her you will read them also because you want to make things work (if she sees that you are willing to meet her half way she might feel better about it). These books are GOLD!

Good luck and hope you can work things out!

Answer 7

Better get back for the child shake. Get a priest or pshycolog help, both of you.
4 children 4 different mothers that's awesome !.

Answer 8

The only way you are going to get any change is to find out why she is so mad all the time and why she feels she has to yell at you. For many women they think there husbands dont listen to them and so they feel they need to yell to get there point across. Maybe if you sit down and find out why she is so unhappy all the time, you can get to the root of the problem and fix it from there. If she loves you as much as you love her then she will have to work on it to. If you love her and you think your relationship is worth fighting for, then do everything you can to fix your relationship.

Answer 9

I agree verbal abuse is not a good thing, it hurts also and can ruin a good relation. Have you all tried counceling . Maybe you should stay away for a while and give her some time to think about what she is doing to the relationship.

Answer 10

If you have kids from so many different women, sounds like you have commitment issues. You need counseling. Find out all you can about abusive relationships and what you can do to help the situation.

Answer 11

Do you still love her and wish to be with her? If you do, why not try counselling and work things out together. It's never easy living and sharing everything together with another person, everyone has to compromise a little.

Good luck.