I love someone very much and they love me too, but we are unhappy. When I'm apart I am even more unhappy but I don't know if it is becuase I am lonely.... I have rearranged my entire life for this person and now I don't know what to do???
2007-12-17 01:32:42 · 12 answers · asked by Katharine A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
find the source of 'unhappiness' and fix it.
sometimes, it's just too easy.
2007-12-17 01:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by KJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are unhappy because you rearranged your whole life for someone else. You can't give up everything for someone and expect to be happy. THAT JUST DOESN'T WORK.
Sure making sacrifices for the ones you love is a part of life, but your entire life if too much and only builds resentment if the other person doesn't seem to giving to the relationship.
2007-12-17 09:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had to start over again you say that you love someone and they love you too. but the both of you are unhappy, When your apart your more unhappy. You have arranged your entire life for this person sounds like to me that you love this person more than you love yourself and that shouldn't be the case. love is about compromising not just you but the other party as well and we should never change who we are are what we are to please someone else perhaps that's why you are unhappy. Be your self and let god do the rest if you and this person are meant to be together than you will. What do you do think about your self and what you want out of life its not just about the other person but you as well.
Best of luck
2007-12-17 09:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have rearranged your entire life for someone? Not a good idea! That is the source of your unhappiness---you didn't do it for yourself! You can fix it, but you're going to have to be a little bit selfish in doing so. Make yourself happy before you even begin to attempt to make someone else happy.
2007-12-17 09:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rearranging your life for someone else was a huge mistake. You should be willing to make some concessions, but changing your entire life is too much. You've lost your sense of who you are, and you're putting way too many expectations on the other person. That's unfair and unrealistic.
In short, you've set yourself up for disappointment.
2007-12-17 09:40:10 · answer #5 · answered by DJ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes things dont work out alright and that people who are in love have to live aprt of far apart or in long distance..........but if you have rearranged your life now then go for it...........show your love to that person really and that this action you have proven that you want to eb with him and spend your time with him...you have done your part and the inittiative, let him do the rest and if he feels the same he will welcome the idea and you will be happy......be hopeful come on...just you need patience now and focus..wait till he does soemthign for you too, ok??good luck and cheer up...........it is not the end of the world...........you have just started in fact!!!
2007-12-17 09:41:42 · answer #6 · answered by E@rthGoddess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are unhappy when you are together and you are unhappy when you are apart, it's time to assess whether you are carrying unhappiness with you. Maybe it has nothing to do with the relationship. Maybe you are depressed. See a doctor about getting some antidepressant medication.
2007-12-17 09:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have rearranged my life for some one turned out they were not for me. Are you still together??? kinda need more info in order to maybe help you.
2007-12-17 09:39:25 · answer #8 · answered by CEH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can you be genuinely in love and still be unhappy, may you should discuss this with your love one and try to get down to the root of unhappiness.
2007-12-17 09:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by black&proud 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you can't be you with them, you will be unhappy. To be happy, you must be able to be yourself around them or it is all a sham and you won't be happy.
2007-12-17 09:41:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋