Is there anybody left that knows what a real relationship is?

Question

I just want a house a child and a wife,

a wife I love and she loves me, a wife who i am sexually aroused from and mentally perplexed(in a good way) by.

A person who is honest trustworthy and understanding, good with communication and a person who doesn't cheat or lie to me about big stuff of course and little stuff like if she like my shirt is ok lol.

I mean where are you people. A genuine person where she can accept my flaws and I can theirs I am just sick of all this crap from people my age or ANY age really. I'm 22 and to be honest i think people are so caught up in themselves they dont know how to treat anybody else. the media the press fashions fads everything plays a part of why we act the way we do. People play a role and I dont think they are what they seem but nowadays you never know who is lying or who is being honest with you why cant you people be honest!

Answer 1

heck I'd marry you! lol......

here's the thing....i didn't think that there were a lot of guys like yourself out there. I'd given up on your breed along with Santa, the tooth fairy and the Easter bunny! i thought that all the good guys out there went with my father's gen ration. i agree with a lot of what you say. No one cares about other people anymore. not really. i hated it when my family and friends said it was a dog eat dog world. now I'm actually starting to believe it! only here's the real humdinger....dogs don't turn on each other. ours is the ONLY species in the world that murder's its own kind. why drag dogs into this. evidently they are more humane than we are.

you just hold out for the right girl, she's out there. don't ever settle for anything less than what you want and don't let people ever make you feel like you don't deserve what you want. the right girl for you is out there. you're only 22 and I'm 18. we're still young and throwing in the towel now is like slapping life in the face.

hope it all works out for you dude. people like you deserve good things. I'm sure God sees that.

:) Go well.

Answer 2

I certainly know what one is.. I think were the problem is that most of all the old traditions dealing with life/partner/relationship and marriage is almost non existent. I think many people have also forgotten the "golden rule". I believe there have been so many people hurt from past relationships that they are afraid to really commit to a new one. There are also some people who will say they believe in the same things your do and say they have the same morals and values but you find out later that they were either lying or thought they would just tell you what they thought you wanted to hear instead of the truth..

I think people have also forgotten that you have to give and take and not just take and that a real relationship takes lots of work, many people would rather end the relationship, cheat, or just become settled and content than to put some real effort into keeping all things dealing with a relationship alive!

There are only a few of us in the world male and female that truly know anything about a real relationship. It takes two to make it and two to keep it going..

Answer 3

You are wise beyond your years to be looking for a good relationship, house, child, wife, etc. instead of just looking to get laid on Saturday night by the hottest looking psycho-woman bar skank. You aren't like most guys your age.

I was in your position before I got married 10 years ago. Here is the problem. What you are looking for is what women actually want also. Therefore, there is no challenge for them.

They don't want someone who is too easy. They want a project, a challenge. Guys who are ready to commit to marriage, kids, etc. don't seem to be a challenge to women.

So, you don't fit the bill until later in life, when they realize that these other guys are just jerks who they won't be able to change and then they get divorced and go for a guy like you to marry. You are more second marriage material.

But, I'm also guessing that you are looking in the wrong places. Don't go for the hottest ones or the party animals.

Go for the ones that have interests in common with yours. Women with good values. Join some groups to meet people. Meet them at your place of worship. Ask friends to set you up.

And be the kind of confident, successful guy that women are looking for. Don't let them know that you are interested in marriage, etc. right away. Play it a little cool.

Best wishes.

Answer 4

I do I have that I finally found someone who I love and want to be with all the time, yesterday we stayed home all day watched football, I cooked. I know what you mean it took me a long time to find a person that I can thoroughly trust and that I can love unconditionally and that can love me the same. Don't give up theres someone out there for you. You obviously know what you want, now just be patient it will come sometimes I think the harder you look the less likely you are to find it. Good luck and happy holidays

Answer 5

You may not believe this but I met my soul mate online at aol singles. We have been married now for 10 years in March. Although we do not have kids together we have kids from a pasted marriage. Don't give up at 22 maybe it's not that people are so caught up in themselves as it is todays world has everyone running as fast you really don't have the time to really get to know people. Keep looking your right person is out there somewhere.

Answer 6

Yes there are people out there. I have found my person like this, and I am sure you will too. Maybe it just isn't meant to be right now. You will find you a genuine person! Trust me, I know they are out there. Just think of it this way, if you are having a problem finding a good girl out there, when one finally comes along, she will be that much more desirable to you. Just give it time my friend. My partner and I were friends for 6 years before we realized how good we would be as lovers. Now, we have been dating for 2 years, and our wedding is next week. It is possible, you just have to be patient sometimes.

Answer 7

Been married for over 20yrs. Have 2 kids and 2 grand kids. Hubby still looks at me after all those yrs and says I still turn him on. I think today people lack respect and honesty and trust for one another! I am old fashioned in every way. Some friends have said that I am a door mat just because I have a home cooked meal for him every night when he comes home from work. I don't feel like a door mat because it is what I WANT to do, not what I have to do! he works all day, the least thing I can do is to have dinner for him when he gets home. Mom is the same way and it's worked for her for over 40yrs. I wouldn't change a thing in my life! P.S. the sex is still FANTASTIC! By the way, the friends that said I am a door mat, hey they are the ones, on their 2nd and 3rd marriages! LOL

Answer 8

Such people do exist my friend, but chances are you need more years of maturity to find them.

You need to spend whatever time you have now, preparing for that dream future. Make sure you have a great college degree, can afford to buy that house and support that family you so much want.

Get financially secure and focus on that for now. When the time is right, start looking in places that smart people hang. Try volunteering your time when not going to college.

Those that are sincere, act sincere, live sincere.

Good luck, stay focused.

Answer 9

those are the things i wanted a husband a house and kids i just prayed about it.....whats so strange is i was on my grandmas porch praying to have those things and right at that moment a car came around the road, little did i know that was the person i would marry, God works in mysterious ways...it will happen for you, theres nothing like having a family and being loved....

Answer 10

You seem like a well rounded young man and I feel for you. I am so glad that I am married because now days you all don't have much to choose from. This world is full of misleading people. I pray for my son and daughter that when they start dating that they find someone descent, with character, morals and principles. GOOD LUCK!