My son was suspended from school was this fair ?

Question

My son Who is 14 and in the 9th grade. he is on honorroll. Never been in trouble a day in his life.No trouble with the police. does charitable giving, Has overcome obstacles with aspergers .He is in mainstream class's.Every one who know's him say's he is the most well behaved teenager they know. he has maneruisms like you could Not believe. well A kid kept Calling him a Dago and a ***** and my son told him numerius time's please stop finally my son wooped his ***. the school "only' suspended My Son For 3 day's.We are sicilian and black. Both are racial slurs.The other child yes was white.i dont care if he was green.

i understand my son should take his share of the punishment but the other student recieved No punishment at all

The Question Was Not should My son be Punished .I stated yes my son should be Punished. I said was it fair .the other child recieved nothing for racial name caling.Not even detention.

Answer 1

You are Sicilian so I do not need to tell you how to handle this. Go to the principal and have a 'sit down' with him. Make it clear that your son has every right o defend his name and honor. Then seek out the boy and his parents and make the same thing clear to them

Answer 2

Charles Whitman was liked by everybody...
who had scored 138 on an IQ test at the age of 6, attended St. Ann's High School in Palm Beach, where he was a pitcher on the school's baseball team. He also took five years of piano lessons, served as an altar boy at Sacred Heart Roman Catholic Church, as a 12-year-old, he was among the youngest ever to achieve Eagle Scout. And in 1966 he shot and killed 14 people at the University of Texas.

Schools have to have a zero tolerance policy and they have to enforce it. Something similar happened to my son, but was only in jest with another student who was joking also. both were suspended for a week, because it was over heard by a faculty adviser who wanted to make a point. The best your son can do is learn from the experience.

Answer 3

They both should have been suspended, that's how it usually goes....fighting is against ed code. Does your son have an IEP? If he does, there are certain circumstances where a suspension is illegal, depending on how it's written, but it sounds as if your son is OK and without this in his IEP, if he has one. That is the only out you may have regarding his suspension. Unless you go to the school board and make noise about prejudice, but you know what? That's what happens with kids....sometimes you just gotta deal with it. Life ain't fair....ya ken? You cannot beat up everyone who makes you mad.

Answer 4

Well, it doesn't really matter what the other gets. Its not gonna change anything.

The most important thing here is that your son will learn not to get physical on others, even if the other person was so wrong, its not right for one to take things into their own hands, especially going physical on him.

No matter where you go, there'll always be this kind of people who love taunting others. Its not about going all out punish anyone who does that to you, but its about learning how to handle it in a mature manner.

I would be worry too if my son starts to get physically agressive on others.

Answer 5

You should totally go clear things up and get your kid back in school! But forget about the teacher lady, she obviously has some serious emotional problems if she didn't like your gift. Also, the smell on the pencil was probably due to the little troll we keep in our pockets. They sometimes spray stink juice on stuff to keep us forever alone.

Answer 6

Your boy "wooping his ***" was uncalled for. I know that the boy shouldn't have been calling him names but your boy did the wrong thing. He should have went to an elder and complained. That way, the situation would be reversed right now. This has nothing to do with race so that is out of the question. Teach your child to be the bigger person and go to an adult when there is a problem.

Answer 7

No, it is not fair at all. Being of mixed race myself, I know what he is going through because I went through it too in school. I got called names that made me feel like crawling under a rock. While I didn't get to the point of kicking someone's butt, I did curse a few people out and got detention for it--but did the namecallers get punished? Of course not!!! And yes, they were white as well.
I would definitely go to the school and talk with the principal or dean, or whoever and let them know that you do not agree with the suspension. Point out just as you have done here all of the great things about your son (honor roll, community service, etc.) and remind them that your son has the right to attend school and not be verbally abused just because he is of mixed race. If you get no favorable result from doing that, take it as far as the school board.
They say words can never hurt someone---how untrue that is.
Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

Answer 8

Not fair, appeal and threaten law suit. Have an attorney contact them now to aid in your appeal. You may still lose because your son did hit first. However, you could threaten to sue the school for not stopping a potential bully in his tracks. Being bullied has lead to many revenge school shootings throughout the nation. School administrators are highly sensitive to that issue.

Best of luck and Merry Christmas

Answer 9

unfortunately the schools do not look at the gray areas, they have a no tolerance rules now , my nephew who is also on the honor roll and never been in trouble was suspended for 10 days this past week for beating up a kid who spit in his face. The other kid instigated it, assaulted him and was verbally harassing him but since my nephew beat him up they had no choice but to punish him
fair or not those are the rules

Answer 10

Your son doesn't deserve to be called names by no means, but the rules at most schools is if you are caught fighting both parties are suspended. No exceptions. If you really wanted to push the issue go to the school board in your district.