Were your partners actions (or inactions) partially to blame? I've read that guys usually cheat for the sex & women cheat for the emotional side. Is that true in your case? So, looking back, is there anything you would have / could have done to change things (so the cheating wouldn't have happened)?
2007-12-17 01:00:53 · 9 answers · asked by Andy K 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I cheated because I was weak....regardless of the circumstances within the marriage. I was just too weak to say no. Plain and simple, I will not blame others for my weaknesses. Too many of us are so ready to blame other for our very own actions.
2007-12-17 01:49:56 · answer #1 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Men do not cheat for sex nor women for emotional reasons.
Cheaters, whether male or female, cheat because they either do not respect their partner or because they are running away from marital issues.
Those that lack respect for their partner tend to come from homes where one of their parents cheated or abused the other. They may also have been spoiled by one of their parents and believe that they should always get their way.
Marital issues are sometimes difficult to face and some people run away from the problem. They find it easier to be with someone that they do not have difficulties with rather than fixing the problems with their partner.
Take care,
Troy
2007-12-17 09:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I cheated because I was severely unhappy . And i wanted children and he couldn't have any . So i went out got drunk had sex and 9 months later had my baby boy . We stayed together till my son was 5 months then i left him due to the fact he couldnt give me what i needed . I feel the problem with our relationship was that he is 22 years older than me . We got tagather when i was 15 and he was 37. I gave him 8 long years.
2007-12-17 09:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by c_ann0522 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a brief relationship with a man that was married - why did he?It wasnt just sex, I listened to him and I got a clear impression that the guy (gorgeous 6' French man) felt 'left out' - his wife was so busy with her business in the city and he travelled a lot and worked from home and he felt sidelined - for a long time.He saw more of the childminder than his wife.
She was several years older than he and had gotten a little boring - not fun anymore. I think he was craving fun and attention and someone to take an interest in him. I think he found me young and fun besides the attraction he had for me (and vice versa). this was his first affair.
She was more succesful than he and for him to leave her would have meant a huge change in living standards - he still loved her though so he wasnt going to leave her.
He also wanted another child, a son and she was done with one child..part of him craved to have a son, still does I'm sure.
He could see that with me..younger..I could give him the kids he wanted and with me, he would be the more succesful one.
I stopped it and told him to try to fix his marriage and to come back to me in a year if things have changed. He's still with her and we are loosely in touch.
Does that answer?
2007-12-17 09:40:28 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never cheated on my husband although I had good cause to do so! He was physically abusive and an alcoholic but I was loyal until the day I filed for divorce. Then I considered the marriage over and considered myself free from my vows.
He says it was cheating since I wasn't actually divorced yet but we were living apart, emotionally it had been over for me for months, and I don't consider it cheating since I'd already filed for divorce.
2007-12-17 17:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Understand that monogamy is unnatural in the first place. More times than not you will loose interest in your partner, and the fact that most people don't want to address the issue early on causes problems. It ain't cheating if you partner knows, nor should having a different lover destroy your relationship.
2007-12-17 09:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by callawak2 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why you have to put us on Blast Andy? LOL
You know what a part of what you said is so true about women! I cheated because alot of what I am into and how I want to be treated it's just not in my husband, and he lacks even trying..... But I still love him and I would change somethings but not alot! He's a beautiful man and I've never ever cheated for love, I've cheated for companionship, and to go out on dates and be courted! My husband doesn't drink, and I do mildly! My husband can be somewhat of a bore at times and he's a really settled man! I appreciate that totally! He respects me and I do him, whatever I've done in the pass I've never let that issue effect my home or him! I know, I know, seems selfish but mildly something was missing in my relationship! But I love him and I didn't go anywhere and I would never consider ruining that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-17 09:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by rita_hiemy 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
I didn't cheat but I was cheated on. It happened because he didn't love me enough to respect me.
The only thing I could've done to prevent this is to put him in a time machine and let him see all the destruction and endless heartache our future will bring, if he cheats on me.
2007-12-17 09:14:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't dwell on that any more, but will say there is faults by both parties in my case.
2007-12-17 13:45:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋