A MILLION TEARS HAVE BEEN SHED, FOR WHAT WAS THOUGHT BUT NEVER SAID.
After my mum died i began to tell people how much i love them. Too late for Mum. I know now that she knew anyway but it took a long time to realise......
2007-12-17 00:13:21 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
yes, my mum passed two years ago, the last time i had seen her was a week be4, and she was in a bad negative mood and it was my bday. i wanted to be happy and her attitude was bringing me down, i just wanted her to be happy on my bday. so i left kinda irritatedly, and it was the wrong thing to do, cause i didnt go back over for 6 days. then when i found her she was already gone. i tell people i love them all the time now too. i dont want anyone to die thinking they were unloved.
2007-12-17 00:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by knowitall 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your pain. I think many people can. Mom would have known. Don't lay this all on yourself. Your raised a certain way also. There may be a reason you didn't vocalize it more with her. She may not have been comfortable with it. Try to take that & move foward like you have. Now you let the people in your life know your feelings. Many people think actions are louder than words & it's better to show than do. I used the links on http://www.webmd.com. when I needed more info. I was grieving over someone I loved but couldn't effectively communicate with. We had a language barrier. It was amazing how much I had wanted to say but didn't realize till it was too late. Hope this helps.
2007-12-17 00:27:35 · answer #2 · answered by Nice one 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
...I'm sorry about your mother... and I'm glad that you finally realize to know that she already know you love her...
I don't have any experience of losing someone that close yet but I think... I hope... I do understand that quote... when I was at high school my mom tell me a story about the last moment of her real father (she's adopted)... when her relative asked her to talk (about anything) to her comatose real father (she didn't know the truth back then), she called him "dad"--a slip of the tongue, her comatose father shed a tear, and she cried seeing him cried... one day after that he died... she said she was very, very glad she accidentally said that
I was crying when I listen to my mother's story (maybe because she was crying too)... from then on I keep in my mind that everybody close to me might be gone forever from my side one day, so I have to tell them what I wanted to tell them whenever I could before that day come... and from then on, on mother's day I always give my mother a card filled with my own poem or short story about how much she meant to me..
however, this year I was too busy with campus activities that I forgot... your question reminds me about it (in fact, I almost cry when I read it even if I'm not an easy-to-cry person)... I thank you, thank you so much for that... I guess I'll hurry and made her a special poem even if it's not a mother's day... =)
(sorry about the long answer... somehow I suddenly feel like I have to say what I wanted to say... I already modified it to be shorter though...)
2007-12-17 03:04:39 · answer #3 · answered by alarice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, my nan had a brain tumor and when we thought we were going to loose her we realised how important family is and telling them how much you love them. My nan made a full recovery and every time i see her i give her a big kiss and tell her i love her. Unfortunately two of my grandparents have died and i only wish i could have told them the same.
2007-12-17 00:26:18 · answer #4 · answered by Big Boobs McGee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can identify with it.I tell my mum and my daughters I love them all the time.(see? no mention of my dad!)My mum had a favourite greek singer.
Just before her dad died he managed to get her some (rare)tickets for a live concert,and when he offered them to her,she said she did not want to go,for one reason or another.
He soon died after that and mum still has not forgiven herself,for just been or sounding a tad ungratefull.
2007-12-17 01:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In some respects yes I can, there are people I wish I had told how much I love them, but you can't look back only forward, sometimes love is best unsaid, people know without you telling them, I always always tell those I love the most just how very much I do love them.
2007-12-17 00:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh plse don't i'm ready to start blubbing i was always brought up to not show my feelings but in the last few years of my mum's life(she died of cancer) we told each other we loved each other , more her really but it is a huge comfort to know you have recieved and given love when someone passes away.
2007-12-17 02:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh EJ. You have no idea what your question brings up for me. My mother was given 4 weeks to live; she held on for 12. I could never talk to her and I regret it so much now. She wrote a letter to me which I received after her death.
I wish I could have talked to her, told her I loved her.
I know that she knew; but I should have told her.
2007-12-17 08:40:09 · answer #8 · answered by Ilkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same with my Gran. I never told her how much I loved her and then she was gone. I always tell my family how much I love them now.....
at least you're starting to realise though, imagine you'd lived your life and on your last day here realised that.
2007-12-17 00:17:26 · answer #9 · answered by muggle 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're bringin back memories about my brother,I also never told him I loved him,but yeah I think he knew what I felt.
All I can say to you Honey just remember our loved ones
know we loved them no matter what,so I cling to that believe and so must you.Remember she loved you and she knew how you felt about her.
I hope you have a Blessed Xmas,and always remember your Mother's love no matter what.xxx
2007-12-17 11:14:45 · answer #10 · answered by Wonderstar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋