I have been with this woman for over 30 years. She has not put nothing into getting this place or paying for it. I wanted to refinace from a 30 year to a 15 year loan. She would not sign the papers, because she was not getting nothing out of this. I have owned the house for almost 5 years. She has not worked in over 5 years. She feels that I make enough money so she should not have to work. I have paid for her to get her degree, no grants. Now that she has it, she still is not working. What is a man to do? Do I just let her go?
2007-12-17 00:08:22 · 8 answers · asked by THOMAS P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes I do care about her, but love does not pay a bill. I did 20 years in the military, so maybe that is what she is after.
2007-12-17 00:34:11 · update #1
Just who is serving this time?
2007-12-17 00:56:14 · update #2
Who is "this woman". Do you mean your wife? The one you made promised to love, honor and cherish when you got married?
I think maybe 30years with a husband like you is probably enough of a sentence.
2007-12-17 00:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's that lazy and does nothing, then sit her down and talk to her. If you paid for a "degree" for her, then she should be working... that's why you paid for it in the first place. Let her know exactly how you feel. If after that she still say's she will not work and she does nothing to help you around the house... then maybe you need to see a lawyer. You don't mention if you love her or not????.......
2007-12-17 08:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by Racer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think getting rid of her will make you happy, 30 years is a very long time, i think she is just looking at the money issue, she probally hasnt found something that she really likes in work wise. I would sit her down and explain to her your side, the reason why it would be a good idea., good luck
2007-12-17 08:13:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it incredible that a woman decides she deserves to not work.
Degree, no kids, not cooperative about mortgage, no job, wants support, what does she do for you?
I would look hard at moving her out of your house. If she does not want to have any legal responsibility for it perhaps she should consider moving.
My first call today may be a lawyer.
2007-12-17 08:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't understand what you are getting out of the deal. Are you just lazy? If you are both lazy and can't be bothered getting yourself into a situation you really want to be in rather than complaining here and to each other then there is no helping you. Life's too short to carry other people who are more than capable of looking after themselves.
2007-12-17 08:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by CountTheDays 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wouldn't get her rid of her after 30 years court will make you give half and pay alimony--well then again might be worth it--lol--wont refinance make double payments or one and a half each month--pay off be just as good--her not working looks like problem been going on for years why worry about it now
2007-12-17 08:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by southarkansas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need her to co-sign on the refi if she isn't working. If that's what you want to do, do it. Unless, of course, you own the house in joint tenancy then you're stuck.
2007-12-17 08:18:10 · answer #7 · answered by Little Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
out she goes. If you are paying the bills and you want to do that you should. She sounds like a money grubbing biotch!!!!
2007-12-17 08:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by puglyparker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋