what does it mean when your jealous of other peoples lives & their happiness & you scowl at their myspace?

Question

profiles?

you feel bitter, angry because its never been like that for you.

im a 30 year old borderline personality disorder sufferer, whos known nothing but pain, suffering and injustice, bullying and victimization all through my life.

ive never been in a relationship ever....never been employed....never made any friends....live alone in a one bedroom flat on sickness benifits....i own no posessions except an old computer.

i have no carpets on my floor.

i find myself scowling and feeling angry when i browse people profiles on myspace.....jealous and angry at other peoples happiness and contentment.

angry at their rosy, fat cheeks full of contentment.....girls...guys......

i find myself clenching my teeth with anger....even growling with myself as i stare, angrily at the profiles.

especially at this time of the year when everybodies supposed to be having a good time with family and friends.

Answer 1

Why are you blaming them, for being happy, because you are not happy? It's not their fault, that your life has gone the way it has, so far...How do you know what is real out there, and who is lying and really sad themselves?...Go back and read what you have written here today...you are jealous of their contentment, but don't blame them that their lives are happy right now and your's isn't...Put the blame where it goes, and vent it out to the people who have done this to you, not innocent bystanders who are just minding their own business and living their lives...You have indeed been treated terribly, no doubt, but these people are not the cause or the reason, and you shouldn't get angry at avatars, myspace, or anyone else, except the perpertrators of the injustice you have been dealt. Sometimes, it is very healing to confront the people once and for all, and let them know what they have done to you...and don't be afraid of losing their 'love'...if they did this to you in the first place, they need to be told, once and for all of just how horrible they have made your life...but be realistic, and don't begrudge others, for having it 'good'...it's not their fault either, that life was and is different..we all get good and we all get bad things in this life, the Lord said He made it rain on the good and the bad...The more you dwell on these misplaced emotions,..the worse you will always feel...put the blame on the right place, and once and for all, them them know about it....God Bless,..you deserve to stop suffering, and have a smile on your face also..just like in the Myspace profiles

Answer 2

Oh honey! I was so touched by what you wrote, and you have my sympathy. I totally understand where you are coming from. I want to write an answer because your question touched me. Although I don't know if what I will say will help you or change you I hope it does some good, cuz I hate to think of someone so unhappy. Firstly can I just say well done in getting to 30! I think that shows you are a very strong person. There are numerous people who probably would have killed themselves by now going through what you have! You should feel an achievement in that and be bloody proud of yourself! That shows you have an inner strength that you may not realise is there! You need to only surround yourself with decent human beings. Anyone who makes you feel uncomfortable or victimized is not worth your time. Also bear in mind that most of these people are bullys because they have an inferiority complex and no conscience! As for browsing myspace profiles, people generally like to show off and make themselves look a different person on myspace, usually showing only what they want people to see. These are not proper real people they are just profiles. Dont get sucked in to it. Same goes for t.v! Also as some others have said, there is always someone "better off" than you, just as there is always equally someone "worse off" than you, its just that what you are surrounded with is pictures and images of all these wonderful lives, that you get a distorted view of the world. You dont look out your window and see starving kids in africa, or people shut away in their homes due to illness, depression, or disability. I would advise that you reach out to those who are worse off than you, as you will have more respect for yourself for being a kind person, and that will build up your confidence. Also by realising there are people out there who could do with your help, it will help put things in perspective and make you realise what you have got - a roof over your head, food to eat, the internet and a t.v etc. Maybe you could volunteer for the samaritans (you'd be working on a phone line and not in person) or do some charity work, or just even get involved in a charity that means something to you, and read up on their work. I really believe that when you give something out, it will come back to you. I am sure you have so much potential, everyone has a gift to give. Good luck and please don't feel too bad. I really hope you feel better. No one should have to feel that way.

Answer 3

You'd be surprised at how many people are not happy at this time of year. The "happy family" gatherings are a myth for many. Get help, then get out and meet people. Start small. Volunteer at an animal shelter. The animals there give unconditional love. Meet some people there. Happiness comes from the inside. Don't get angry, get active. You can do it! Blessing to you, and I hope you find contentment this season.

Answer 4

It is a natural human tendency to feel this way towards others who have never had to go thru the suffering you went thru and can't even begin to comprehend what suffering is.

I have been through some major s*** in the past and have spent time being angry at everybody around me...even towards total strangers but at some point I realized that I was the only one who can do something about my situation. Nobody is going to do it for me and no one will be willing to help me if I wasn't willing to help myself.

It's easy for people to just tell you to "get help" but sometimes you don't realize you even need help. I heard this from other people too and it's usually from someone who has never been dealt the hard hand before.

Answer 5

Sounds like envy. By the sounds of things you were given one heck of a bad hand in life. is it possible for you to move on? Why won't anybody employ you?

I spent the first 16 years of my life being angry at everyone, I got tired as I reached a point where there was nobody for me to be angry about anymore. Can't you do the same?

Answer 6

Well,it is good that you know some of what the problem is.If I were you I would seek counseling immediately.Maybe you could try finding a job to help get you on your feet,then you can do what you need to your apt,and also feel better about you.You will find some friends in the process,you just sound lonely and bored too.I wish you luck:)Merry Christmas to you!:)

Answer 7

Thank God 1) u've diagonsed your self
2) At least this ranting will help you a bit
Now you need to move on to action B, do something about it (Help ur self and get help too)

Answer 8

So, what action are you taking to turn your life around? Changes will not happen if you wait for them - you have to make an effort. Are you seeing a therapist to work through this? Are you looking for work? Are you trying to find a new hobby?

Answer 9

it means that you need to get help, you need friends and a life other wise how do you expect happiness and contentment to follow? you need to get up, find help, get a job, make friends and stop feeling sorry for yourself. think positively and stop being so bitter and cynical and pessimistic.

Answer 10

Are you being treated for your disorder. If not then go see a doc, people can at least try to lead a 'normal' life if they are recieving help.

Do you have family of friends you can get help from, then ask.

Give to others, less fortunate than yourself, go help at a local shelter, or charity.

YOU CAN be important to somebody if you try, no-one will come knocking at your door, you must knock at theirs.

YOu have all your arms and legs and a healthy heart, now go and get help.