Question Details: When a woman expresses her feelings freely and is not afraid to hold in her opinions,do men feel threatened? Why do some men avoid these women as if they had a disease?
2007-12-16 23:22:54 · 41 answers · asked by Ms. Logan 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
All my strong minded women friends have trouble attracting decent guys. men don;t like to be threatened in any way unless they are very secure in themselves.
2007-12-16 23:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what the women in the man's life taught him.
Really ... the strongest influence in every life is the mother. The first five years of our lives are the most formative. What did the women in the kids life teach him?
As for some men avoiding this? Well all I can say is that we two sexes have a different list of priorities. We men put the relationships at #4 on our list, whereas the women always see relationships as the #1 priority.
Freely expressing your feelings to a man is mushy! You know like a seven year old boy would be horrified if a girl kissed him? That kind of mushy and yucky. We don't like it.
Opinions of a woman? Well these days they seem to be warped for the most part and a man doesn't know where the hell he would stand in a room of women. The equality issue mixed with the respect issue along with the treat me like a lady demand is a very confusing social scene to us boys.
We don't know how to react so it's kind of like a " fight or flight" situation here. Usually the good guys beat a hasty retreat to the boys club for a scotch and cigar. It's the ones that are really afraid and hateful that will get up on his hind feet and strike back at some misinterpreted opinion. The wise men keep their mouths shut and just walk away from it.
2007-12-16 23:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by the old dog 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think a lot of Men (also women) feel insecure. This plays a big part in the answer to the question.
The thing is, insecurity is not a bad thing! It is what helps us to re-evaluate ourselves and our actions. However, as a by-product of insecurity, what a person looks for in a relationship is reassurance and support.
Society is wrongly teaching us to 'pigeonhole' people - and this includes the following: "People are either strong, loud and independant OR emotional, quiet, and reliable" What society doesn't teach us is that anyone can be ALL those things!
This is the mistake. A lot of men wrongly mistake a strong free minded woman for being one who will not always support them, reassure them, and be there for them emotionally.
What everyone needs to learn is that no matter how independant and free spirited someone is, once they have made a commitment to someone, they will stand by their partner and give them as much support to them as they want. In fact often, the more strong willed someone is, the more support they are likely to give!
2007-12-18 08:56:14 · answer #3 · answered by Powerhous 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a single guy I can answer this question for myself.
I`m not intimidated nor threatened by a strong minded woman.
In fact I like the type of gal who knows who she is and is willing to stand on that.
But sometimes I think women who consider themselves strong minded feel as if they need to go the extra mile to show that and then they come off as argumentitve.
I consider myself a strong minded person but if I felt like needed to try to beat people over the head with it then instead of bitchy for a female I`d be arrogant and thats the type of thing that neither a woman or a man is attracted to.
2007-12-17 11:42:15 · answer #4 · answered by Taylor 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that it is a little bit of both. A guy is going to feel threatened by a strong minded women for the simple fact that alot of men deal with women who don't speak up for themselves, i mean keepin it real an outspoken female is hard to come by these days. they are also intimidated because when they do cross a strong/outspoken women they aren't used to us speaking our mind and it can sometimes make them feel like less of a man. because honestly a man loves a women that he can control easily.
2007-12-18 06:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by Lil Miss Miracle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men, I suppose, need that feeling of control. They didn't get the right number of hugs or something, maybe mom stopped breast feeding too quick, I don't know, but anyways they just need to feel that they have utter control throughout every situation.
It's pretty sad really, and completely pathetic. If I was you, I would avoid these men like the plague. They are more damaged beyond your repair.
2007-12-17 19:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by Sam F 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Strong minded women always like to be on top in bed, this is why some men avoid these women as if they had a disease.Myself I love em
2007-12-18 15:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by loveem 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone gave good answers, from insane to thoughtful, but I liked them all, so thumbs up!!!
Like many folks said, it depends on the upbringing of the man. Most men who are afraid of women who are outspoken are, from my experience, potentially abusive, shy, insecure, or have some antiquated notions that they must dominate in everything. A real man knows who he is and is not easily swayed by anyone's opinion, whether it be a man or a woman saying it. Just strong-minded women must be careful as to not belittle or berate a man in public--that shreds his confidence and he will stay the heck away from that kind of woman.
2007-12-17 06:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by rrichards2k3 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I actually find those type of women very attractive.
For men in general, the problem isn't so much as the expressing of feelings and opinions, it's the WHEN part that pisses the men off. It's one thing to be in private, but when you make your man look foolish in front of other men, that can be very bad. Overrunning him in public can lead other men that witness it think he is weak. Once you do that, you'll forever be in your man's mind as a "bi*ch"
This isn't exact, but imagine you spent alot of time getting your hair done, nice clothes, fixed up sexy, etc to go out to dinner with your man. Going into the nice restaurant, you pass a woman you know leaving. Your man checks her out up and down - even turns his head to look at the rear end after she's gone by. She happens to look back and notice his look. She smiles at him and keeps going. You'd be f-ing pissed. Why? Because you got upstaged and she knows that your man - if only for a moment - didn't see YOU as number 1
So - be strong, be free-spirited, etc. Just remember, in front of other men, no matter how you feel, let him be the man.
2007-12-16 23:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by yankeefitness 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Most of the time they feel threatened because women usually are the ones that aren't strong minded. So to see a woman express their feelings is a set back to men.
2007-12-16 23:26:32 · answer #10 · answered by pnkprncess91 1 · 6⤊ 2⤋
This is a touchy issue and I have to say that it is also very cultural. The truth of the matter is that men will associate a woman's place in the power heirarchy of the family based on his perception of such in his own home.
Men who grew up in power shared or even traditional matriarchal families have absolutely no problems. They know where their position is in that heirarchy and can function quite easily.
Men who grew up from strictly patriarchal families will not be ok with strong women, will be resentful and uneasy, especially if the role of their women is mainly to serve the men.
So mothers, be careful how you raise a son, and how you raise a daughter as well.
2007-12-17 00:17:25 · answer #11 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋