So, is this how it really is ?

Question

I know, everyone has problems, but I realized, there's not anyone to tell or talk to. There's no such thing as real trust, or someone NOT being judgemental, or someone actually caring. BECAUSE EVERYONE else has problems as well. Including pyschologist./psychiatrist. sounds pessimistic but isn't this true? The idea of going to a psychologist just kills me. I have to pay someone to listen to me??...isn't that really how it is? they listen, make themselves care, and hopefully help you but in the end it's all b/c you paid them.

Answer 1

The reality is that no amount of money will make someone really care. People either care or they do not. You are paying for a professional who has hopefully learnt from all the time they spent studying and practicing their field. You are not paying for them to care, rather for their experience. It's the same as any other professional. There really is nothing wrong with getting counselling - like you say everyone has problems so they are nothing to be ashamed of.

Answer 2

Really psychiatrists and/or psychologists are not there to care they are there to show that understanding one may believe such as how you think no one cares they help you gain a better self understanding of the underlying problem and figure the best solution. I am not anyone like that I am just and average person with experience and your best bet is to trust your friends and family, it is hard to talk to some but just jump over the hurdle and ask your closest friend it makes things a lot easier.

Answer 3

Well, look, that may be true that some therapists are only there for the money but there are many who are there because it is their passion to genuinely try to help people. I think you are making a bit of a blanket statement there and while you are right that everyone does have some sort of problem happening in their lives I don't think it's fair to say that there is no real trust. I think you are having a down time at the moment and god knows we've all been there but what's the use of dwelling there? Does it hurt anyone to try to look on the bright side? I mean it's what Monty Python tells us to do. SMILE!

Answer 4

If you got health insurance, then you only need to pay the deductible. I saw a shrink one time, and after answering a series of questions, he explained and placed into a different perspective, why I think and perceive the way I do. Now, I would have said, after the session had concluded, that I got my money's worth on this one. But I never paid a penny; It was at the Veterans Administration Hospital, I got treated at taxpayers' expense. But before you prejudge and condemn these specialist, you should at list give it a try for 2 or 3 sessions, and see if your opinion changes or not from the experience.

Answer 5

You are RIGHT! That is not fair, in England it's not quite the same-we often get free counsellors & have you heard of the Samaritans - we have them. They don't get paid & they just listen. Friends should care enough to listen to you. What has happened to friends these days? Why are none of us very good friends anymore? It's not how it is everywhere, it's just where you are NOW. If you went somewhere else it would be different, it's an illusion - so change maybe essential to yr wellbeing. I would care for you & enjoy listening. Sometimes we have to shake up our whole life to be where we're meant to be. Do something different, speak to a different kind - or we stay stuck in things we know, that are so safe that they are smothering us!

Answer 6

Psychologists went to school to help people, so they naturally have some caring in them. They have trained and studied hard about humans, about what and how things hurt them. They also learn what is the best help for various problems. If you need to, give one a chance. They could do a lot of other things for money, but they want to help. Think of them like a mechanic for your emotions. And a counselor is the best person to 'trust' because they are objective and they are bound to keep what you say confidential (unless you are planning to hurt yourself or someone else). It's not as bad as you think it is.

Answer 7

That right.......its not fair to pay some one for getting heard...but just think it this way how many times people whom we love, care for, friends or even our won family truly listen to us without being judgemental. At least with a psychologist or psychiatrist you do not have personal relationship so it does not hurt even if they don't care. And mind it they are professionals and help you to heal. They are trained people to help each individual and connect with them but at the same time they are taught to get disconnected from their patients so that they don't carry the baggage of all their patients and become a patient themselves.

Answer 8

A psychologist has a lot of training to help you find the real cause of your issue. It doesn't always work, but it can help. They aren't just there to listen and pretend they care, your bartender can do that, they are there to help you sort out your own feelings. Sure, they're people too and have their own issues, but I'm sure you've helped out a friend somewhere along the way. Same thing, except these are trained professionals.

Answer 9

If shrinks had to actually "CARE" about everyone they saw, they would go insane. You PAY them to LISTEN and give advice based on what they KNOW should work - that is providing you are totally HONEST with them and TRUST what they say. Someone like yourself will never find any human "good enough" or "fair enough" to trust with your feelings, because you believe it is not possible. It is not because everyone cannot be trusted - it is because you have a very closed mind.

Answer 10

You got it wrong S, It is the time to get everything of your chest that is really bothering you, to unload. But honestly this is the best place as no one can see you and there are a lot of clever people on here (not me) who can help with almost anything. Give it a try ,what have you got to loose?