I tend to be overtalkative when in social situations, especially with new people. I usually do ok after I've known someone for a while, but I often don't get the opportunity to know people better. I've spent time tryint to study comedy and I am constantly trying to learn how to listen better, etc, it just takes time, like it took me about a year before I was relaxed around certain people. So, I try hard, but it just doesn't happen quickly, but people form opinions of me and they dont' give me a chance. Once people spend one on one time with me, they find out I'm a great person, but often this doesn't get to happen. I guess part of it is that I don't follow group conversations that well. as I've continued to improve healthwise I have gotten better. I'm not sure what more I can do. I really do try hard to focus on others, I try to listen, and I really seek to take an interest in others, I've gotten better, but people still tune me out. I read a lot of books to try to improve.
2007-12-16 19:30:59 · 3 answers · asked by art_flood 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i am a man and in general I relate to women easier than men, and I find that the overtalking thing is usually my way of knowing whether I'm comfortable with someone or not. I find if I am very uncomfortable with someone I talk way more than if I'm comfortable with them. if that makes any sense, so ...
2007-12-16 19:32:30 · update #1
I guess if the person is very impatient, abusive, etc. I don't do as well. if the person is very patient I do very well. I have had some people I've been comfortable with immediately. It depends on the person.
2007-12-16 19:34:33 · update #2
OK it seems you do OK ,at least you try to communicate so I would keep on doing what your doing as your improving.
Realising what your shortcomings are is a great attribute as some never can come to terms with results,all the best with your quest to overcome your slight anxiety Ciao ♥
2007-12-16 21:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like lookin' in a mirror, many moons ago in Junior high, I was still quiet and shy, and was branded "stuck-up" on the spot without anyone trying to get to know me at all. Sounds like your putting out a lot effort and trying hard. But the whole world doesn't hinge on total social acceptance. You need to look in the mirror and see that your not such a bad person. Brushing up on your social skills is great, but remember...you ain't gonna please em all..
2007-12-16 20:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by Resplonaspid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure I would call that social anxiety... You sound very nice and it is okay to talk. Too many men don't talk enough.
2007-12-16 19:40:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anji 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋