Heres my situation. My school, is a small private school, with pre-12.with a tolt of 19 high school students, with 2 senors. One of the senors, is this girl who i hang with. I like her, alot. Alot alot. Naive alot. The thing is, shes the type of girl whos tends to flirt alot, like alot. and theres this other friend of mine. whos hr frined also. And she knows i like her, well i think she knows. and she seems more interested to him. And all the flirting is killing me. Help. what do i do.
2007-12-16 18:55:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
First, you have a REALLY small school. That must really suck sometimes, and really limit your exposure to diversity and new people. In the end though, i'm sure you'll manage.
Now, back to your question. This special girl you speak of, what about her do you like? What characteristics about her are you attracted too? Does she make you feel something different inside when ever she's around? You need to first answer these questions to conclude on if she is really "worth your time?" If i read your question right, she is much older then you - i don't know how much older, but that doesn't matter either way - she's older and that is what is important. Women like older men and they always will. It's a maturity complex they have, and will always have. Older men provide more stimuli and they tend to talk more, have more confidence and these are basic traits that almost all women are ultimately attracted too.
Ask yourself this question now: what do you have to offer her? She is a senior, do you own a vehicle? Do you have funds to spend on weekend outings? Women are not all superficial but they like to entertained. A few dollars in your pocket can go a long way in keeping her by your side. This other boy, does he have more of what i mentioned earlier that women like in a man; is he confident, witty, social? If the answer is yes, then you need to answer my first question - is she worth your time?
People naturally flirt because of two major reasons; one, we love to be intimatelly social, and two, we love to feel attractive/sexy - we love the response. Other members replied that she will be a "slut" or a "whore" and such. Maybe they are right but everybody is naturally a flirt. To label something that is "normal" a negative label is meerley a poor reflection on our societies immature state of mind - and it's sad.
Regardless, if she is worth your time and really hope to attract this girl and draw her attention to this "other boy" back on you, i recommend that you grow some balls and be more confident, be more social, smile more. i remember when i was younger, my wise uncle once told me that women LOVE men that smile often and will always be the most attracted to them. i changed my strategy and *poof* it worked. Remember, a cool smile and smile that reflects that you enjoy the other persons company.
In conclusion: i don't think you really have a shot but maybe i'm wrong. The fact that you are in such a limited enviroment prevents you from seeing her flaws because you don't really have anyone to compare her too. If you have the time and patience to step up and maybe change her mind, you might be lucky.
i wish you only the best of luck and stay safe out there. Those private schools are a jungle sometimes. ;-D
2007-12-16 19:29:09 · answer #1 · answered by c.R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't say how old you are in comparison to her. Try ignoring her for a while. Focus your attention on another girl. If she's interested in you she'll notice and you'll get your answer on what to do next ask her out or let her go. You selections are limited at your school so look for other places to meet some girls....expand your horizons.
2007-12-17 11:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by rcButterfly 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok .....this is the part of your teenage period. You are not the only one who suffering from this but many of them. If you think the girl don't like you and she is not a good type of girl......just leave her and find another girl. There are many girls around the world .....so open your mind.And also start to make friends.
2007-12-17 03:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by shyyyyyyy$$$$ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Alot isn't a word.
Don't do anything. She is just playing with you. Some girls do. It makes them feel popular.
You're way too young for a girlfriend. Just bide your time.
2007-12-17 02:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by Goonhilda 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask her if she wants to get coffee at Starbucks after school.
Or wait 3 more years, and ask her the same question then.
2007-12-17 02:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're young, not much exposed to the world..
Dn't worry abt that girl.. Leave it.. Ther's better to come in your life..!!!
2007-12-17 05:00:16 · answer #6 · answered by Stranger somewhere out there!! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just enjoy the flirting but look elsewhere for a relationship - you will have less heartache that way. please understand that I'm not advising you to discard her as a friend, just don't try to go any further.
2007-12-17 02:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by monkey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it'n not good to have a flirtygirl get over her or talk to your other friend and ask
2007-12-17 02:58:58 · answer #8 · answered by Andrea 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Read www.laddertheory.com
2007-12-17 08:49:08 · answer #9 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Flirting alot = slu.tting alot
Find yourself a good girl.
2007-12-17 02:58:39 · answer #10 · answered by bROWNbEAUTY UDontLikeIt?TooBad! 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋