I do this once in awhile. On the positive side it is kind of fun to think about what might have happened if I took this road and not that one. Maybe life would have been better. My latest thought has been that I should have joined the Marines or Army Infantry when I enlisted at age 18. This would have given me better character, leadership abilities, and self esteem. Instead, I joined the Army Signal Corps at 18, became a radio operator, worked and lived comfortably, mostly inside, in Heidelberg, Germany, became a lazy, manipulting, conniving womanizer, fake and alcoholic for the next 23 years. Now I wonder if that decision to take the easy route was my first big mistake of many that limited my life and happiness.
Please don't comment on my experience, just say what you want to, about thinking back at the good and bad important decisions in life. Is doing this at all useful or is it harmful? What is your story (optional) of a good or bad decision made in the past?
2007-12-16 18:54:08 · 4 answers · asked by agreeableone 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
yes, a lot. and i know it is a waste of my time and energy.
I wish i could learn form those events and MOVE ON.
2007-12-16 19:44:18 · answer #1 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my i do it too! (Read my loooong answer)
Sometimes especially when i make a bad decision, how i wish to change it.
Sometimes when i am really down I think about the decision that i made and how it could turn out and most of the time i always think that the other way is always positive.
However sometimes things might turn out to be bad. I mean we can't predict future. I always think back what if i did it the other way around. We as human sets in mind that if one is bad than the other must be good. Might be both of the decision might turn out bad and lucky if both turn out good.
Like me for instance. i just recently changed my job because the old company management is corrupted and impose strict rules for nothing and you feel like you are in a prison. However I feel bad in the new company as i can't make friends yet and i always think back about my friends at my old job and how wonderful to be and work with them. i wonder if things would turn out better if i stick to my old job. But then again i do know that i can't stand the old company and might be if i stick around my friends will leave me for other better jobs. Currently for me whatever i decide both will make me sad
At times it is harmful to think about the decision that can't be changed expecially when you are in not so good mood. This will somehow lead to self blaming and you will be more and more negative. Later you will feel you stuck in a hole, everything is sad and it is hard to escape. However if your current decision is already ok and you still think "what if" then i guess at times it is pleasurable but again don't dwell in it cause i think later on it is hard for you to even make decision.
Hope this helps!
2007-12-17 03:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by noko 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the time. I think about how I should have been a mother who kept her promises to her kids instead of doing drugs with guys who at the time I thought were going to be a part of my life forever. YUK!!! WHAT WAS I THINKING!!?? And I can't take it back. Sucks.
2007-12-17 03:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by Willowjac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i relive a bogus trial 20 years ago almost every day....i quit thinking about it for about 1 year but it came back,,..."what if i said this?" "maybe i should have said that."
it really sucks...i wondered if anybody else tortured themselves with things they can not change....
2007-12-17 03:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by sissy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋