how do you deal with annoying "friends"? first off shes more of an aquaintance then a friend, you know people you just talk to at school or work, nothing more then that.so ive known "her" for a while.most people change throughout highschool better or for worse,in this case worse.A while back she use to be somewhat respectful person. now what makes her annoying is the fact that she is rude disrestful,does not answer you in a positve manner, and always has something negative to say,brags ect and just plain out annoying..ive told her already to change her attitude if she still wanted to be cool with me.i am a type of person that will not take any disrespect lightly for most cases, but since ive known her for a while i feel as if i should just take it lightly and ignore the crap she gives me. i have to deal with this each day due to the fact that i have her in a class. how can i deal with this situation.forgot to mention that she is not the "most flattering" looking girl either,may this be the reason of her attitude?
2007-12-16 18:25:26 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
she's obviously got her own problems, don't make yourself apart of them anymore if you dont have to hear it. she has other friends right? try to distance yourself without being rude
2007-12-16 18:35:45 · answer #1 · answered by leensi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's a suggestion, mind you just a suggestion.
Approach this "friend"... Be polite as can be & maybe think of one positive thing about her to start the conversation off with.
~ This is to open a positive door/gateway into conversation~
Then ask why things have changed in the way she speaks to people (in-general).
~ No details or examples of what she's doing wrong, it only closes a narrow mind~
Tell her that you really would like to remain friends only (this is the hard part now) YOU (yourself) are having some trouble communicating with her and ask what you could do to correct this. "How can I speak 2 you better, inorder for our friendship to return to the way it was?"
~ Taking responsability for the problem w/communication on your shoulders allows the other person to relax & not feel on the defence w/you.~
Last, leave her w/a positive memory of good times you shared or a good laugh you shared.
Consider it an experiment " I'd say in a matter of days she'll be apologizing 2 you for her recent attitude problem and want to open up & let you know what's really troubling her (inside)
2007-12-16 19:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by Chef April 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have already discussed her attitude with her, and told her that she needed to change to remain "cool" with you? Why then is there any question in your mind about what to do? You need to stick to your own words, and do not accept rude behaviors from her.
2007-12-16 19:03:08 · answer #3 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well u dont have to do anything nor r u obligated to put up with somone rude and obnoxios tell her about herself
2007-12-16 18:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by Psychologist In The House 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋