I recently asked a question about men having rights when it comes to a child. Women have a right to abortion, men have a right to pay child support. I got a few answers saying that men should not have sex with a woman if he is not prepared to have a child. Shouldn't women be held to the same standard?! If they want the right to chose shouldn't they choose if they are ready to have sex or not? Why are men held to higher standard than women?
2007-12-16 16:36:08 · 11 answers · asked by asdfjkl; 5 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I feel that women should really be held to the same standard as men. As someone said, women are the ones who have to carry the baby. They are the ones who will be birthing said baby and doing the feeding of that baby (if they choose to breast feed). For a man it can be over the moment his seed exits his body.
Both people should enter that intimacy agreement that if a child comes out of that union then it should be cared for by both parties. If one or the other party is not prepared to do this then their "Bits" should be kept to themselves!
Perhaps because of the fact that a man has the option to walk away after the initial act and go on with his life unaffected by a pregnancy is why men are held to a higher standard. A woman has two choices, both of which can be performed whether the man is about or not. Have the baby - which carries long term ramifications whether the child is offered up for adoption or not, or abortion - which carries long term scars whether is was voluntary or peer pressured. The pressure on the man is to stand up and be counted after he has laid down to be mounted...to put it bluntly. I guess people are trying to get men to be involved in being responsible for their actions as too many will use their option to bow out before the final curtain call.
Ultimately it takes two to do the horizontal tango and hence two should be held responsible for the life that gets created!
2007-12-20 12:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by Onyx ♠ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To some extent, I agree with all those points. If a woman is the sole legal participant who can decide whether or not she will have the child, then why isn't the man the sole legal participant who can decide whether or not he will support the child?
I'm all for men having more rights regarding the abortion itself, but I'm not smart enough to figure out a way to put that into appropriate legislation. With or without a court order, if a man wants the child and the woman doesn't, there is NOTHING that anyone can do to stop the woman from terminating the pregnancy however she sees fit.
I do hold men and women to the same standard, as I understand that both parties are responsible and that contraceptives are not 100% effective. If you aren't ready to raise a child, you aren't ready for sex, and it doesn't matter whether you have a vagina or a penis, or both if that's your thing.
But I suppose that as long as there is biological inequality, there will never be gender equality.
2007-12-16 16:41:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I recently posted this reply to a similar question...
I'm a woman and I agree that a man should have a say!!!
First and foremost, couples who engage in sex SHOULD know each other well enough to know how each other feels about having kids... If the one wants kids and the other doesn't... DONT HAVE SEX!!! But if a woman has sex knowing her partner doesn't, then SHE should take on the responsibility of having that child alone...
Don't get me wrong here, I believe that the woman should NOT be forced to get an abortion; IT'S HER CHOICE to keep the baby so she needs to be the PAYOR...period! Good for her for keeping the baby... but don't EXPECT support.
But on the other hand, if the father DID want the baby and she didn't, then she should NOT be able to have an abortion without the consent of the father... and he should be given the right to have a DNA test done to prove he is the father prior to her having the abortion, and he should be able to prove to a court that he is willing and able to provide for his child.
After all, she opened her legs knowing full well of what the consequences were...
Why is it that it's always the guy who was "irresponsible"...? What about her?
In both cases, I think that either one of them should have the RIGHT to sign away their parental rights including having to pay child support... no matter what everyone is saying. When a parent gives their child up for adoption, for whatever reason, they are NOT required by law to pay child support... The law requires the adoptive parents to do that... After all, they, just like the mother to be, DECIDED that they wanted the child.
People need to stop this nonsense of "blaming" and start making BOTH partners take on their responsibilities!
2007-12-17 06:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by ton221 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A great question that I have wondered about myself. Men are absolutely held to a higher standard. what's the saying to men? If you play, you pay. Men don't even get a say if a woman gets an abortion or not. It might be her body, but it's half my child
2007-12-16 16:42:16 · answer #4 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because thats the way its always been. Women have been the ones to bare children and take care of the house. Men have been the ones to pay the bills and make sure that the family unit is provided for. Its a dumb#$% way of thinking but the ones that make the laws have that "thats we way we always did it" attitude and are too chicken%^&* to change it. There are so many women that go out and get pregnant just so they can get more mone from the government and not have to work, which I think is bullshit. Then the men either work for **** cuz the child support is so high or go to jail. I think that both of them should have to pay, not just one. Thee needs to be some form of checks and balances, a better one than what we have, and make these people, both men and women, accountable for their actions .
2007-12-16 16:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by Big Boy 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well, both men and women are generally equally responsible for child support. Only if the man is making more will he have to pay more.
But yes, it does seem unfair.
2007-12-16 18:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
good question i keep wondering why women don't have to be held accountable for there actions. They pick these men and they turn out to be losers and they want the world to feel sorry for them all the time when its just as much there fault pretty much all the time there are red flags and they choose to ignore e them.
2007-12-16 16:40:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
they do choose to have sex there's no difference in either standard. Countless, women work their butts off to take care of there kids when dad stops paying child support.
2007-12-16 16:42:53 · answer #8 · answered by Citizen1984 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Women believe and are allowed to kill their unborn children by choice and the child's father can do nothing but anguish over the injustice and immorality of the action.
2007-12-16 16:43:17 · answer #9 · answered by Caninelegion 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No, because women are the ones who have to deal with pregnancy and giving birth. Some would say that's unfair, too.
2007-12-16 16:41:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋