Like if you see past friends or schoolmates you haven't seen in a long time, you don't feel like approaching them. Also they see you but they are reluctant to approach you and just ignore you. Why do people do this to each other? I'm guilty as well, when I see someone I knew from the past in public or whatever I don't approach them.
I'm a freshman in college and I see some people from my past middle and high school, I don't approach some of them because I either didn't know them well or I don't like them. Do you ignore people you knew? and why?
Thanks for reading.
2007-12-16 14:52:58 · 39 answers · asked by Closed 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Lol if your not gonna read the details don't answer, some of you are so indolent.
2007-12-16 14:57:51 · update #1
Because they fear they will not be greeted back..if you greet someone and they dont reciprocate it is very awkward and people think its better to ignore than to greet someone and get a cold stare back..its kind of degrading
2007-12-16 19:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by cat-octavius 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't approach them because you don't remember what they are like and you are afraid of judgment. This is true in everyone. Believe me when I say this: If you approach them, they will warm up to you and "recognize" you almost 100% of the time as you would most likely do so to them. Also, life is too short and opportunities are too few to debate a possible friendship so try to be more open and accepting and go out of your way to invite and greet these old acquaintances and you shall be remembered as a good person.
2007-12-16 14:58:46 · answer #2 · answered by Supermario871 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Because you don't feel like all the catching up, I mean lets face it if it were really someone of importance to you - you'd keep contact. Most of the time it was someone you didn't hang out with or you decided to stop hanging out with them for some reason or another so, when you see them in passing and stop to speak you go through all the phony stuff, people often feel they should exchange numbers they talk you to death about stuff you honestly don't care to hear, you may have even forgotten there name or vice versa and now you're standing there looking crazy trying to guess or watching them try to guess or pretend to remember. Its easier to pretend not to see them - hey the fact that you saw them walk/drive pass says there ok.
2007-12-16 15:01:06 · answer #3 · answered by Monie N Da Middle/where she at? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do. It's like a natural reaction I guess. But then I always feel bad that I ignored them later on, and I wish I had approached them. Sometimes it's just because I don't feel or look my best and don't feel like talking. Or, maybe because you're not expecting to run into someone and you're just not mentally prepared. Whatever the reason, don't feel bad. Lots of people do this.
2007-12-16 14:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by true blue 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I usually say hello as I pass them.
If I don't really like someone, I may ignore that person, or I might be extra nice just because. Hello, how are you doing?
I would do that to someone every day because that person would never say hello back. I thought she was just being contrary. I found out that she was afraid of losing her job if she talked to anyone. She didn't have a car and rode the bus and walked her small child to a babysitter nearby work. You never know that persons story and you may brighten their day by a simple hello.
2007-12-16 14:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I didn't really feel like I made real friendships in high school. There was a lot of pretending, and now that I'm in college, I'd rather be alone than have to deal with that superficiality again. I ignore people because I don't really feel the need to put myself in that position again. I don't really like friends who "come and go". You know those fair weather friends.
2007-12-16 15:00:30 · answer #6 · answered by Old Soul 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
i am guilty as well. =(
but i think it is the fact that i just don't really know who they are anymore. people constantly change for some reason. i once remembered a friend for liking a certain sport so when i approached her 2 years later..and tried striking up a conversation about that sport...she didn't take to it and was like "umm gotta go bye" and it was akward. i don't really approach people anymore after that cause i just don't think people know what to say. it's like the old person you used to know isn't them anymore so it's weird.
2007-12-16 14:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by Brittany 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't recognize. Feel don't know anymore. You have to break the ice and get to know each other again. If you went to school with them for several years and didn't get along why try now. But some people still have feelings and need to try to heal. If you are really interested go meet and if they are so immature to reject you, find others that have confidence and feel good about themselves.
2007-12-16 14:58:24 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't approach them usually because I don't want to feel like the weird person who can't let go of the past or something like that. Also, a lot of times I recognize them but don't remember names. I don't like looking foolish.
2007-12-16 14:58:15 · answer #9 · answered by Amy J 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
For girls, I had drama at my school it wasn't involving me but it affected my relationships with some of the best friends I've ever had. Also, sometimes just drifting apart, and maybe there was a rumor or something bad happened. You never now, just remember to keep a smile on your face and be nice, no matter what happens.
~hope this helped!
2007-12-16 14:57:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think they just weren't as close or never were really friends with them. Maybe they are afraid that person will say, "I'm sorry do I know you?" Then they will be torn apart and look like a fool. Some old friends just act like they don't remember you.
2007-12-16 14:57:05 · answer #11 · answered by J~Me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋