I have a sister that has been the most miserable jerk to me over an extreme jealousy issue. She is so hateful I will not speak with her anymore. I just found out she is coming to town for Christmas. Now I face not going to be with family because she will ruin my holiday. What would you do?
2007-12-16 14:02:22 · 11 answers · asked by a2z_alterego 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
Ok, what if she is the one you bought your house from and see constantly tries to evict my family over every little thing. She wants the house back and all the equity I built up in it. My own kids have heard her talking bad about me and has upset my kid's. My ex wants to pound her head in. She is unstable.
2007-12-16 15:03:14 · update #1
i assume your family knows of feelings towards your sister? If so, why not talk to them and schedule your own little get together after the holidays when she isn't in town?
2007-12-16 14:07:03 · answer #1 · answered by whispurrr_on_a_scream 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not know what the issue is, nor do I know your ages, but in general,I would suggest that you send her an sms, or an email and tell her that this issue must be put aside for the benefit of the rest of the family over Christmas. Tell her that if she cares at all for the family that she will do this, or if she can't, she should stay away.
Do not get pushed out of your family for Christmas, that would upset your family. You should both be mature enough to put this aside for the day at least. Be civil to each other, do not enter into any discussions that could lead to a disagreement, and if this isn't working, then try to avoid each other as much as you can.
Perhaps it is time to be the better person, and put an end to the issue yourself. If you were 'right', you always will be, and knowing that should be enough.
Be strong, you can do it.
2007-12-16 22:18:12 · answer #2 · answered by Noel J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's entirely up to you, but here is what I would do.
Let your parents know why you are not coming, and don't go. You are already certain she will ruin your holiday. Then, what is the sense in going? I would imagine, you can see your family other times of the year? You can't change how anyone else does, but yours.
This way, you will protect yourself and everybody else. The worst possible outcome would be for an altercation to take place and ruin everyone else's holiday. If this is to take place, no matter who is right or wrong, everybody loses.
2007-12-16 22:12:59 · answer #3 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say don't let her run your life. Act like an adult and spend time with your family. If she tries to start anything with you just walk away and go spend time with other family members that you do get along with. Don't give her the pleasure of a battle. Be the bigger person. It's childishness behavior that keeps many families and friends from dealing with the issue and finding a middle ground to agree on. If neither of you can be adult enough to work it out then just don't talk to each other and go about your days as if neither of you were in the same location. That way you don't force the rest of your family to be dragged into your own personal problems.
2007-12-16 22:11:55 · answer #4 · answered by dragon_slayer79 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go and stay out of each other's way. Maybe even try to work things out while you're there. It's Christmas and she's still your sister, and it's highly doubtful all the fault over your issue is entirely on her side.
2007-12-16 22:12:51 · answer #5 · answered by Mel G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit everybody down and turn on a bootleg version of This Christmas. Lolz. No Whats Your Problem
2007-12-16 22:06:36 · answer #6 · answered by marfournineninethree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let her ruin your holidays! Go and if she's there ignore her who knows she may want to patch things up. Either way you shouldnt let her determine whether you get to spend time with your family, thats letting her win.
2007-12-16 22:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by Miss G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would go and spend time with my family regardless of the situation. if you sister wants to start tell her this is not the time or place and that you respect your parents not to cause a scene.then be the bigger person and walk away!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-17 02:08:36 · answer #8 · answered by auntdscronies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only have one family, and who don't you just go, be with your family, and avoid her? You can be the grown up, and do the right thing here.
2007-12-16 22:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by gogirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though it might sound uncomfortable , i would still go and have a nice time. just stay out of each others way.
2007-12-16 22:07:11 · answer #10 · answered by drethegreat88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋