I've finally found a guy that shares my faith and morals, and I am very happy about that. I have been to his church a few times, and honestly I don't like it. We tend to agree on most things, but I just don't like attending his church. He is very committed to this church and it means a lot to him that I go. What should I do about this? Can the relationship work out?
2007-12-16 13:36:59 · 8 answers · asked by a modest girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Try shopping another church.
2007-12-16 13:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not say why, is it that you do not like about your Boyfriend's church. Is it because he is of a different faith? or because they do not do the things you do at your Church? when you want an answer to your question, Please, add some information to it, and I think that I, and the rest of the People who answer the questions will be able to understand your point of view. But, I will try to help you with it, I think that you like your Boyfriend, a lot and you want this relationship to go forward and see if there is a future between you two. I can only tell you that this relationship is not going to last, if you think that faking the way you feel about his Church, will help the relationship go forward, you are mistaken, he will eventually find out the way you feel, and he will end it there. so, try to find someone else, before the breakup happens.
2007-12-16 13:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it can work out. My brother in law and sister had this problem because he was born and raised southern baptist and we're pentacostal. What they did was they made a list of what they are looking for in a church that will make them comfortable and not have a negative impact on their beliefs. You two should do the same. Talk about what type of qualities you look for in a church and just go from there. I'm sure you two can find a church that suites the both of you. Good luck.
2007-12-16 13:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by macsdfan8 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he go to your church with you sometimes? There's nothing wrong with being comfortable with different churches. How about a compromise. You don't always have to go to church together. But when you do, why not go to your church half the time and his the other half?
By the way, it definitely can work out. My parents who've been together 35 years like different churches. My father is Catholic and prefers the formal Mass while my mother is not Catholic and prefers to go to churches that are more informal and heartfelt in the moment. Sometimes they'll go to my dad's church. Other times they'll explore other churches like my mom likes to do. It's a compromise that's worked for them over the years.
2007-12-16 14:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to attend the church of your choice and still have a good relationship.
2007-12-16 14:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by Jai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he can go to his church without you. As long as you don't interfere with his church attendance, then he should not feel he has a right to force you to attend something you don't like.
2007-12-16 13:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but it sounds like a pretty big problem. In every r/ship you need to compromise. If neither of you are willing to compromise on this, I don't see how it can work out. Talk to him about it and try to come up with a solution that works for both of you.
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2007-12-16 13:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time if you still don,t like it you can go to another one. even separate chruch,s.
2007-12-18 02:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋