2007-12-16 12:58:56 · 29 answers · asked by schfiftyfive1138 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I guess i should have added the details to begin with. She is 19 weeks today and i love her dearly, if she turns me down i get sad but i don't pressure. The obvious answer of Masturbation comes to mind, but she is 100% against that, saying she should be able to satisfy me... I don't want to go behind her back but i think that may be the only answer... :(
2007-12-16 13:14:45 · update #1
I'd also lie to add that I completely have the utmost respect and wonder for what my wife is going through, it may seem selfish that i am asking about my needs, BUT i'm trying to solve this issue without hurting her feelings, out of respect for her. I don't want to put her under anymore stress than what she is under. Thats why i cam to Yahoo! :)
2007-12-16 16:20:44 · update #2
I'd aslo LIKE, not lie...
2007-12-16 16:21:14 · update #3
Take the matter in your own hands!!!
2007-12-16 13:02:41 · answer #1 · answered by Peachy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how far along she is but the books say and I can testify, in the 2nd trimester that gets alot better. If she is already in the 2nd trimester than sorry but go with what she is feeling. This is not going to last forever and then it will be back not too terribly long after the baby is born. If she does want it more in the 2nd trimester, be prepared it may go back down in the 3rd. By then, she will be getting really big and probably be pretty uncomfortable alot of the time. You are not the only guy to have ever felt this way. Love her through it.
2007-12-16 21:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by Abundant Life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from a womans view. I am currently pregnant and i do not have the drive for sex or making love is how i put it. Pregnancy plays around with our body a great deal. I suggest you and your wife discuss the problem and try to come to a comprimise. If you feel like you need it but she does not want it well I think you can think of a way to satisfy that need.
Hope it helps.
Natalie
2007-12-16 21:04:41 · answer #3 · answered by calebandchloesmum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand, I am 32 weeks and my husband and I have had sex about 3 times this whole pregnancy and I know that's really hard on him. He masturbates and if he's really wanting some I will give him a "helping hand"
I just can't get in the mood for sex, but I have no problem helping him out either orally or manually (sorry if TMI).
Try talking to your wife, don't make her feel guilty about it, but talk to her. You may be able to reach a compromise.
2007-12-16 21:15:41 · answer #4 · answered by Diann C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God, I wish this were my problem. Mine is the opposite. I'm 37 weeks pregnant and have wanted sex all throughout this pregnancy but HE doesn't. I think we've had sex maybe a dozen times in the past 9 months. Arg! Frustrating!
You need to be understanding of your wife's situation though. Being pregnant is tough work, and it's understandable that she doesn't feel up to having sex. Just take care of it yourself, and know that things will probably pick up a bit later, after the baby is born.
2007-12-16 21:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by Joanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to help you, yet doesn't what sex, have you asked her to masturbate you? That way she's present for what is going on, and you still get pleasure and she doesn't feel like she has to have sex. If she doesn't want to do that, and you don't want to go behind her back I suggest trying to think about other things, or perhaps just masturbating without letting her know.
2007-12-16 21:16:05 · answer #6 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 10 weeks pregnant and I like your wife dont have that much sex drive anymore. I feel bad for my husband. But I explained to him that I'm extremely tired and dont feel good most of the time. Sometimes he takes it personal and thinks I'm not attracted to him as much anymore, but that not true. I just been so sleepy. You should talk with your wife so she can understand what u are feeling.
2007-12-22 22:36:00 · answer #7 · answered by Tori's Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you what. I'm 19 weeks pregnant and have no sex drive at all. DO NOT try to pressure her into having sex. Or continually tell her/yell at her that you think she is cheating on you. Satisfy your needs by masturbation, if it honestly means that much to you.
My boyfriend always accuses me of cheating on him and gets extremely pissed when I turn down sex. It makes me feel like all he's in this for is sex, so don't make her feel that way! It makes me really upset, it really does.
I hope that helps.
2007-12-16 21:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My BF is feeling the same as you right now. I am 40weeks pregnant and have had no sex drive my whole pregnancy!!! He has suffered this whole time. Ive told him to masturbate and you better do the same I guess if you dont want to go mad. Try asking her for oral sex when you get really 'randy'. This should help. I try to give him sex even though I dont feel like it but sometimes he goes weeks without it. So goodluck and remember you can always please yourself
2007-12-16 21:05:26 · answer #9 · answered by Jayde A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she won't have sex with you and is absolutely against you masturbating what does she expect you to do. Masturbate behind her back if you have to. Otherwise ask her would she do the honors. She's got to understand what you're going through.
2007-12-16 22:10:04 · answer #10 · answered by keishound122 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 35 weeks pregnant and know for a fact that intimacy by massages, bubble baths, nice dinners, or just laying together the bed together can be just as intimate.
Try to be creative and she will appreciate it, as much as you do.
2007-12-16 21:24:49 · answer #11 · answered by Jurismei998 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋