this week has been rough, and i usually try and stay positive but this time i just cant seem to shake this. i found out the guy i liked was using me until the girl he really wanted came back from another country. then i found out that my ex only told me that he cared and missed me b/c of problems he was having w/ his current gf (they're fine now, so he doesnt speak to me). i also got fired from my job, where i was making decent money, right before the holidays. then to top it all off, the aforementioned guys work at the place that i am now currently employed full time. my heart is being torn up and my bff told me that i "deserved it" because i let myself fall for these men. (meanwhile, she's engaged to the first guy she ever really dated). i hate playing the sympathy card, b/c i know there are so many worse things in the world. but i just cant seem to pull myself out of this pain. any useful advice please?
2007-12-16 12:31:54 · 4 answers · asked by Britt 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
u will move on when u decide to grow up. pain is a natural part of maturity. wise decisions usually come from some sort of loss or hardship.
exercise, eat well, and make someone else's life a joy. that is the secret to self fulfillment. do not dwell in your pity. that is a dark and lonely place.
come out of the darkness and warm your heart by the fire of humanity. u will find it burning brightest where u find peace.
2007-12-16 13:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by ab dominance 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on getting a new job so fast.
Living well is the best revenge.
You have to put on your big girl panties and get on with it.
Have a "strictly professional" persona while at work. If any of these guys tries to pull some junk with you, there is always the HR office to talk to (ever heard of sexual harassment?). Just behave as though you are the cat that ate the canary and they can't mess with you.
Thank God that these guys showed themselves for being the finks they are before you married or had any children with them.
If the new job doesn't upgrade your pay soon enough, use that reference as a springboard to another job.
2007-12-16 21:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart you are going through the pain of love lost. if you still had the love nothing else would matter. thats the bad thing about love, if you give your heart to another you take the chance of it being ripped apart. i'm sorry to say that only time will help you, take one day at a time and it will slowly get better. the harder you love the longer it takes to heal. but i'm here to tell you that you will heal and things will get better, and you will be happy again. when your down there is only one way to go and that is up
2007-12-16 20:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you have a choice to make. Drown yourself in self pity or say today is the first day of the rest of my life, and make your best efforts to do something with the opportunity. Above all, count your blessings.
2007-12-16 20:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by Matt D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋