long distance relationship..help..?

Question

I am in a long distance relationship, and we have been bf and gf for few weeks now. He calls me almost everyday. The thing is he keeps saying he wants me to go there and visit him, but the only problem is that my parents don't let me go. I tried talking with my mam, and to let me go for couple of days but it didnt work. So I have told him that they dont let me go, and he didnt really say much about it. I do want to se him and everything, but I just don't know if I could do it sence my parents don't let me. He is 22..and I am 19. I just don't know what to tell my parents..they will think am crazy. All I want to do is visit him..and thats all, not move in with him, or ran away from home. What should I do..help me?give me some advice please.
The only thing is I am not sure if I trust him, because he did kiss a girl once when he was really drunk in a bar.
Also we have never really hang out as bf and gf before.
Also he dosent call me when he says he would, he just goes out and drinks

Answer 1

You have never hung out as bf and gf before? If that's the case, what have you done together? If your relationship is purely sexual he may just be trying to use you and bring you over there for sex or intimacy or whatever. But you cannot assume this for sure...what are your telephone conversations like? Does he show genuine interests in your life and how you feel? Can you tell that he really cares about you? If he goes out and drinks instead of calling you then that's a bit of a bad sign...
I think the best thing would be to tell him that frankly you can't visit him and that he should come visit you and when he does he can meet your parents and show them that he is a good enough of guy for you and that you should be able to visit him. If he refuses (without legit reason) to visit you...then...don't visit him. How long have you two been seeing each other? If it's been less than a few months or so, then the whole situation seems iffy....
The point is, tell him to visit you, see his reaction, take it from there. Often parents have good instincts when it comes to stuff like this though, so don't completely ignore their advice.
Good luck!

Answer 2

well it might be really hard to start a relationship without being able to talk when you are supposed to. you need to talk to him and tell him that he should make the time for you when he tells you he is going to-- and that distance doesn't mean a lack of responsibility. a cheaper way-- and you get to stay home-- is maybe you two could both get a video chat thing set up. i have been in a distance relationship for 3 1/2 years now-- and we both have MACs and are able to video chat over iCHAT. there are cameras and stuff you can buy-- they are really great because you can actually see the person as you are talking. it makes you feel much closer than over the phone. if you can't go visit, maybe you need to suggest to him that he could come visit you-- after all relationships are give and take. if its meant to be it will work out!!

Answer 3

I've been in two. One did not work, but I think it was less because of the distance and more because I was 18 and not feeling like being tied to one person. The other actually worked surprisingly well until after almost a year we finally lived in the same city, lol. Again, though, that one ended for reasons completely unrelated to the distance, because by the time it ended we were living less than two miles from one another. edit: lol @ Siar

Answer 4

Uh... sounds like he is trying to use you.
He is stringing you along.
If you go out to him, he will think that you are there for him to have sex with.
His social life is centered around drinking and carrousing. He is probably not being faithful to you.

Tell him to come out to see you. That will show his real intent. If he won't, then move on. Period.