im gonna run away, i cant live like this?

Question

so im just gonna pack and leave, because mainly of my moms new boyfriend he hits my mom and me allot but when i say something to my mom liKe "LEAVE HIM" she just makes excuses like "hes gonna get better" or "he doesnt mean to do what he does sweetie" YES HE DOES he beats the sh*it outta me and her i get so mad ..like the other day he was drinking and being a jerk about the way my hair was so i told him to get off his lazy *** and get a job, but he flipped and grabbed my hair and pulled me to the ground so im trying to hit him back and he sat on me and held my hands down and said (exact words) "awww look at jess's face.,. are u scared of me sweetie"and he spit in my face. hes hit me and stuff befor but this time he really got to me (i think because he spit in my face) what can i do? i dont want to call cps because they will get my mom in trouble i just want my step dad in trouble. if i take my little bro whose 4 1/2 with me if i runaway will or can i be charged with kinknapping?

btw the jerk is 39 hes like 5'11 and fat and im 16 5'3 and 114 i cant fight back i try but he always wins WHAT CAN I DO ...i dont want my mom to get arrested..just him btw he doesnt hit my little bro

Answer 1

Running away wont solve the problem here. The problem is him. What he is doing is illegal and he needs to be punished for hurting you and hurting your mother. YOUR MUM WILL NOT GET INTO TROUBLE! Trust me! You love your Mum don't you? Well you need to ring CPS. They will help. You and your brother and mother will be taken somewhere safe.

If you run away, your mother will be lost.. She wont have you there to help her through this and she will be alone with your step father.

I promise if you tell you'll be safe.

Please.. If you run away if your brother, most likely the police will get involved and you'll get into trouble as well.

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Answer 2

Calling CPS is the worst thing you could possibly do. If you think you are being abused now, the abuse will be much worse in CPS.
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You need to start making a lot of adult friends who can help you establish yourself independent of your rents over the next year. Figure out a way to make money, get a roommate and have your own place. Trust only yourself.
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That is the answer. Blaming others or revenge will just cause you trouble. Don't feel sorry for yourself, get to know a lot of adults and learn how to be an adult who can take care of themself.
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Sorry it is a rough world.

Answer 3

You're mom is being abused too, tell her you can't take it anymore and unless she accepts that he'll never change, and decide to move out, that you will either leave or call the police. I know you don't want to get your mom upset or in trouble, but if you don't show her that you're right, everyone will get hurt. Your mom is going to get hurt either way, only if she stays and you do nothing, she'll never get out and the pain will only get worse, if you do something about it, it will be difficult at first, but in the end, it will pay off. Please save yourself, your mom, and your little brother, that creep deserves to be in jail. Whatever you do though, don't run away, especially with your brother, that will only cause you more problems. I'm sorry that you have been put in such a situation, good luck.

Answer 4

You need to tell a responsible adult right away, a counselor at school or CPS. He may not be hitting your little brother yet, but it's only a matter of time and he's not big enough to do anything about it and can get injured or killed easily. Your mom is not seeing clearly for whatever reason-people who get hit often think it's their own fault and she may feel quilty that she "made him do it". Men like him use threats to keep people from reporting him, but once you do, his threats will be meaningless. Right now you have to think of yourself and your little brother.

Answer 5

your mum is probably as scared as you, maybe she hasent realized it, or she thinks she can change him. but the truth is he won't. what is happening is terrible, and will scar you, your mother and your little brother for life, so this cannot keep happening. None of this is your fault it's his, and one day, when your mum leaves him, he will carry on and on and on until someone has the guts to stop him, make that person you and your family. so you need to call the cps or whoever. and one day when you have your own family you can look back and be prowd. but in order for this to happen you need to stop him, get you mum, when he's not around, and tell her everything, about what you feel, whats happening, what you want to happen......... and both be honest. get her to listen to you no matter what. ask her what is she getting out of this? your mum will not get in trouble for this, they will put that man in jail and support your family. What you can do which will help is get a small tape recorder, hide it, and tape the times he is abusive, this will provide evidence to show to the cps. think about when he moves onto your brother, or it gets more serious, like death....
PLEASE can you contact someone from these websites, they will help you and get you through this,
and remember your not alone.
i truly wish you get through this, and you will if you work at it.
but it would help if you get the support from your mum,
don't be scared
and good luck. xxx

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http://children-mom-need-to-leave-abusive-husband-dad-he-has-all-the-m.app-mom24gr8kids-1.aidpage.com/
http://www.queendom.com/advices/advice.htm?advice=677
http://www.crisisclinic.org/main.html
http://www.kidscape.org.uk/
i'm adding you as a contact
i'd like to know what happens so could you maybe email me,
thanks.

Answer 6

Okay how can your mom get in trouble? She's probably been threatened and he probably said if you call the cops .. I will w/e it is. So call child protection or cops. Trust me nothign will happen to your mom , sweetie. Dont worry jsut call them , please dont run away. It will cause a bigger mess. Just tell the cops! You step dad will probably end up in jail or charged BIG time! Good luck! Just avoid him and convince your mom he's bad. Say what you told us and everyhting you feel to her. Say if she dosnt leave him then you will run away. It will make her leave him! Just tell her that and say that he's abusing me and stuff! Aww , Im so sorry your going through thsi! Good luck .Follow my advise and go to the cops. Wht if somthign happens to your mom ? Or you?

Answer 7

I had a distinctly ruff infant hood i were abused whilst i grew to become into little via a family individuals member and concept it grew to become into all my fault to. i attempted working away. I promise it is not the respond you wil be chanced on and it will basically make issues worse. you need to tell them the way you experience and that it extremely bothers you. i comprehend it form of sounds like it wont artwork yet interior the tip you will land up speaking approximately it anyhow. Why not bypass forward and commence speaking because of the fact that comunication seems to be a controversy then working away and having to describe that too. in case you experience like that would not or won't artwork then bypass to a grandparent or to a distinctive family individuals member. in the event that they are abusive the college is often an selection yet i could go away that for final reason each in specific situations it basically makes issues worse. i desire issues get extra desirable and that i visit desire for you. Please dont run away. It basically makes your issues worse and makes it take extra time to fixing them.

Answer 8

why dont u report him at ur local court??
im 17 and till you turn 18, you will not be able to do anything cause your parents still have the consent thing or whatever... plus, im 17 but im graduating college already so i have education even if i decided to run away right now, i would be able to support myself.

and you? 16, probably like a sophomore in high school... i dont think so.

so wait till ur 18, graduate high school at elast, and leave for college.

Answer 9

Well, either you call the cops & get your mom into trouble or you don't call the cops & your mom & you end up seriously injured or dead. It would be easier to call the cops than to raise yourself & a 4 yr old. Seek couseling in school or someone you can trust. Best of luck to you!

Answer 10

I would run too, and take your little bro too. go to a safe relitive's house. However, it will make your life hell, becuase the *** hole you speak of will find you and probably hurt you worse than he is now. call the cops next time he beats you in conclusion i dont recomened running