Giving birth???

Question

please describe the bad side of it. the pain and terror part. how do you describe the pain?

Answer 1

Your body kind of eases you into labour. Its almost never very sudden.
First you have cramping, and then that turns into period pains.
Next you have the contractions. If you have ever been doubled over due to a period pain, thats pretty much what contractions feel like when they start, and they just get stronger.
When your contractions get stronger, your body goes into denial, which brings out swear words, and sentences like "I cant do this." and "somebody help me" even though there are 2 midwives and a doctor in your room already. (plus your support person.)
The best way to deal with that, is when you feel a contraction start, acknowledge it, and say i can do this, i can do this, and remember to breathe. Not he he ho ho, just normal breathe.

When my contractions got too strong, i had pethadine, which is the shot in your thigh. It's not quite the epidural, so i'm told, and it doesn't work for everyone, but it worked wonders for me. In the beginning, i couldn't stomach the gas. It made me sick. But after the shot of pethadine, and when i needed to push, the gas was a good thing, if only to take my mind off the discomfort of trying to poo out a 36cm head. (which is exactly what it feels like.

The second stage, When you're pushing, it just feels like you're constipated and really need to do an enormous poo. Go with it. (Unless of course the doctors tell you you're not dilated. Then they'll give you something for it.)

In the third stage, i felt my baby's head pop out... literally. It wasn't until they had to stitch me up that i was told i had second degree tears. i had no idea, because my body was kind of numb from the pethadine, and it naturally numbs it from the shock of labour. They didn't cut me... i'm happy about that, because my tears didn't actually hurt at all, except for when i was sitting up, and had heaps of pressure on them.

Answer 2

The contractions are like intense squeezing of your insides it will depend on if you feel them in your back more or your abdomen as to how you would describe it. Crowning I would say is like a Chinese burn (twisting 2 hands around your wrist in opposite directions) about a hundred times worse so burning stretching pain. But I swear you will forget the pain when you see that baby. I had gas an 2 pethidine shots works good.

Answer 3

I would describe it as the best pain EVER! When you get to see the most amazing little person that comes out of all that pain.. it is seriously totally forgotten about..
YES, it is VERY painful, at least for me it was.. BUT every woman is different and have different thresholds of pain..
Epidurals are great :)

Answer 4

Giving birth is very painfull but try to focus on the positive side the baby at the end its worth the pain.

Answer 5

There was no terror...terror is a very strong word....I felt perfectly safe with all the proffesionals there with me....the pain was like....a period pain amplified by about 100 times...but in shorter bursts...so I had an epidural...problem dealt with...lol.

Answer 6

Im not a mom ,,yet///
But my friend gave birth couple of months ago . When she was pregnant she said they are going to have 5 kidz...
After she gave births she said : THERE IS NO WAY THAT IM having another baby.... it was the most excrutiating pain I ever had in my life..
Wow I was shocked..

Answer 7

Just think about the worst pain you have ever felt and multiply that by like 100. Or just imagine crapping a 7lb watermelon.

Answer 8

i havent had my baby yet so i cant Answer this. im very scared too but there is no point asking people on here because some people will tell you all sorts of horror storys. the best thing to do is take any pain meds on offer and give it all you got :)

im 33weeks pregnant with my first so i know how you feel

Answer 9

giving birth is painful at the time but afterwards you forget all about it. after all it for something really special and its worth it!