some time ago i found something in my teenage son's room, when i was cleaning it up....it was a photo of me, that he had obviousely taken sectretly while i was changing in my room and the door was a little open. it showed me from behind, bending over, in only a thong (and a t-shirt)....and recently i even found one of my own (worn!) thongs besides his bed. i know he has lots of pictures on his PC, mainly of women's behinds in thongs. he obviously has a thong-fetish....but with all the pics from the internet, why does he get turned on by MY butt? is his brain turning off, as soon as he sees a female butt in a thong?
i know that teenage boys can be very much influenced and controlled by their hormones. so i decided that i won’t talk to him about it, cause that would embarrass him too much and be just terrible for him.
but i'd just like to understand....why does he masturbate looking at HIS MOM's butt, when he can look at any other girl's thong/butt?
2007-12-16 10:47:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well there are two possibilities. 1) You’re right he's peeling the banana to your luscious buttocks or 2) He's selling or distributing these pictures to other people (On the internet or locally). Either way he's using your body for personal pleasure.
Now let's get deeper. Consider this, most pleasure brings about others pain; it's a common concept. Pleasure is a primal instinct, it usually runs parallel to anguish of others, but it cannot be helped. The body needs what the body needs. Sure imagining that he is beating it you being pounded from the back is seriously disturbing (but I wouldn't mind downloading that video) but in the end is it physically hurting you? No.
Let him go through this phase, eventually he'll realise that instead of being the handy-man every night he could be using his energy more productively elsewhere.
But to answer your question; your son most likely has developed a Oedipus complex, due to a natural desire in all children to love and adore their mother (who gave birth to them) a child is often susceptible to certain mental flaws in the human psychology. His brain has mixed the perception of maternal love with spouse love and as a result his body is becoming inclined to literally demonstrate his love for you. However like most people, who aren't borderline insane, he still has a rough concept of what is right and wrong, or simply what is socially acceptable and has chosen to "attempt" to secretly pleasure himself without causing any actual trouble or dismay to you publicly. (I say attempt, because he failed seeing as how you not only found this evidence, but it's apparently troubling you.)
Sure he can be viewed as a pervert to society, but to me it's simply affections taken to the extreme and unless he actually does something to you that you consider harmful, this problem should wither away as he grows older. No offence to you, I just mean to say he'll most likely find a suitable mate eventually that will erase these fantasies.
Now for that incredibly detailed explanation, I believe I deserve a reward. The picture would be suitable payment.
2007-12-16 11:22:56 · answer #1 · answered by God Gundam the Heaviest Gangster 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He probably imagines that its someone elses butt or something......and maybe he like the fact that he took that picture bimself and its a real butt..lol, maybe you should give him a thong for christmas.
2007-12-16 10:59:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be proud of your butt and your son to. *** is ***, all normal guys are interested in chicks thongs, most of us start with our mothers. It's a good sign that he likes women. Leave him be, your doing fine, he's normal...
2007-12-16 10:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by frijolero 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. I never looked at my biological mother sexually. One time she talked about her appearance and I looked at her physical features as if I was a guy checking her out. I told her she does not have a problem getting guys. Are you his biological mother? If not then I can see why he might be sexually attracted to you.
2007-12-16 10:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by robert f 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be more private, and dress the way you know is the correct way for a mom with a teenage son.
2007-12-16 10:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by Bratso 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
welll..... obv. he really really needs help..... masterbating to pics of his mom in a thong is abnormal...... really mayb you should talk to him
2007-12-16 10:57:12 · answer #6 · answered by Doc. G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is probably because he thinks you are an attractive female. email me.
2007-12-16 12:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know .. you must be pretty good lookin .. turn around ,, let me see ~ ~ !
2007-12-16 11:24:31 · answer #8 · answered by darkcloud 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
; ) ur son is funny
2007-12-16 10:54:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
make him seek help
2007-12-16 10:49:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋