How can someone watch you struggle in pain and NEVER get up to lend you a hand?

Answer 1

yeah your bf

Answer 2

I've never understood that, why anyone would not help someone in need like that. Several years ago I was walking one night after dinner and it had gotten dark. I was wearing my walkman and was walking pretty fast on a sidewalk. I tripped on a piece of the sidewalk that had been lifted by tree roots. I fell pretty hard, my walkman went flying and for a minute I thought I had broken my arm. I rolled onto my back clutching my arm, waiting to see if I had really broken it and I was probably moaning because every appendage hit the concrete hard. The worst part of it was, there were 2 men standing about 15 feet away from me, leaning on a car talking. And playing around them were a bunch of little boys (8-10 year olds) in little league uniforms who all saw me fall. NOT ONE of these people offered to help me up, or even asked me if I was alright. I even heard one of the men try to stifle a laugh. After I determined that my arm was not broken, just sprained, I got struggled to get up, found the pieces of my walkman all over the place and limped back home. I'll never forget that and my kids are being raised to NEVER act like those men and boys did.

Answer 3

Almost everyone who senses their sleep paralysis has severe nightmares. Some people dream there is something very heavy on their chest, for example. The nightmares are almost always extremely frightening. What you think is a demon is just the way your nightmare is happening. When you sense that you cannot move, you mind makes up an explanation, and usually it's not at all nice. Your dream just fill in the blanks in a creative way. Be amazed at the power of your mind. Appreciate how complex you are. And laugh at your "demon" because it isn't real. Your dog can tell when you are upset, and being a pack animal, he cares about his pack members, particularly an alpha person. That doesn't make it supernatural, either.

Answer 4

as someone who has not had a day without pain since feb. 23, 1998 (with a brief reduction following back surgery until i was in a car accident 1.5 years later) i think i can speak to the subject. i first broke 2 vertebrae, amongst other injuries, and the doctors didnt believe i was in such severe pain since i was so young. they also wouldnt give me any medication, even when my nerve pain/damage became 90% of my pain compared to my back which was breaking and setting and breaking again for 2 years until i finally insisted on surgery. that kind of lack of help made me VERY angry, but they were operating in a certain paradigm of unclear diagnostic tests for 2 years after my injury. so that kind of lack of 'lending a hand' while i was clearly struggling is inexcusable.

then i got yelled at by a lady at walmart because i parked in the handicapped spot (which i rarely did) and forgot my window permit. i tried to explain my situation (this was before my surgery) to no avail, but at this point her need to police the world was no surprise to me and didnt bother me.

now i sometimes walk with a cane due to my nerve damage and some people will seem rude to me if i dont get out of the way, or some similar situation, then when they see my cane they treat me like i am crawling on the ground without a wheel chair. this bugs me. i can manage, and have struggled long enough to take comfort in me doing things on my own. i understand how they react, and why they do what they do, so i have no animosity toward them. the same goes for people who dont pick up my cane when i drop it in line, or show no sympathy when i have been standing for far too long. i dont expect any one to help me, i am reassured in humanity when they do, but i enjoy doing things on my own much more now then i ever would have had i not gone through the last decade of struggles that i have.

we all have struggles in life, dwelling on those who dont help you with yours just adds to your own struggle. you dont help everyone else who is struggling all the time, so expecting anyone else to seems a bit self centered to me. any one who does help, is a bonus, someone who doesnt may just not understand, may not be aware, may feel you can handle it on you own, may not want to infringe on you independence or self reliance. or they could just be mean, but there are many other reasons. your perspective may be clouding your perception of others actions. when we are in pain, it is easy to become angry at others for their seemingly easy lot in life (which is most certainly not always the case)

so i would say dont take it personally, and the more you are offended by the people you see as having a duty to help you the more you are going to be disappointed. we cannot control the actions of others, and if we think we can or should it can only lead to disappointment. be zen-like and realize the only person you can direct is yourself. and be christ-like in searching for the wisdom to know what things you can change and what you cannot. or any other moral paradigm that is applicable to the situation.

i wish you less pain, and a good day. :)

Answer 5

Some fear helping a stranger, cause they don't know how the stranger will react.
Some are plain heartless.
Some just don't know how to be supportive.
Some, aren't ummmmm tuned in to others pain an don't realise they could help.
Some like my self want to be left alone. When I had my bypass if my oldest son or wife tryed helping me move around they actually caused me worst pain than doing it on my own.
I could type all nite bout this.(:(:(:(

Answer 6

i don't know. i have a rare central nervous system disorder which is very painful, but also makes me clumsy. i stagger, run into things and fall down occasionally. sometimes people even laugh. i guess they think i'm drunk. there are nice people out there too, though, because it's hard for me to stand up once i've fallen, and they help me. but, sometimes i even laugh at myself. i don't want people to feel sorry for me, so humor is a defense system.

Answer 7

I'll lend you my hands, and try to help anyway i can!




But if you want to grab more then my hand that's all good too ;)

Answer 8

I don't know. I got in a bike accident and was knocked unconscious and someone sat there and didn't help me out of the street!

Answer 9

Revelation of the darkness in ones heart!

Answer 10

I dont know how someone can do that. It is very mean. All people should help other people. But maybe they have problems of their own.

Answer 11

It's called having a lack of compassion.