2007-12-16 10:36:03 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
or would you fake the formalities with relatives and friends till after the holidays.
2007-12-16 10:36:41 · update #1
If yes, where would you go?
If no...?
2007-12-16 10:42:20 · update #2
know your rights before u leave, i wouldn't go anywhere if your married its your place too. as for going with your spouse to relatives, i wouldn't bother, but don't leave your home, let them leave. being married u have certain rights. but i would be making plans because its obvious they don't love u.
2007-12-16 10:48:26 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It happened to me with my husband he told me in nov.that he wanted to move out but he would wait until after the holidays. Know one knew what was going on not even our son who was 15 at the time. We got through the holidays without anyone knowing what was really going on. At first he ask me to move out and after thinking about it i said no way was i going to leave this house. If i would do that it would be over for good and i wasn't about to lose my husband and my home at the same time. I loved my husband dearly but he didn't love me and there was nothing i could do but let him go but I'd be damned if i was going to lose my home to.
If my husband didn't love me anymore that was his problem and he was the one who had to move out not me. This was my home and our sons and just because he did not want to share my bed wasn't a good enough reason for me to walk away from everything i grown accustom to. Also i knew he would have to pay all the bills if i stayed in the house because good credit was very important to him and i knew he wasn't going to let us go hungry. I had a job but i didn't make the kind of money it took to maintain this house and everything else.
After 2 1/2 years he moved back home and he realized that he didn't stop loving me it was buried so deep in him, it took us dating again and having fun the way we use to before we let other things get in the way. That was 10 years ago and we are still in love and happy,well as happy as two people can be after 28 years of marriage. Don't get me wrong we do love each other and are best friends but the fun we had you only get that once in the very beginning of a relationship and we had it twice so I'm not complaining at all.
2007-12-16 19:20:35 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No.
If he wanted to be on his own, he can leave the house. I would be staying home for the kids. I am the one who does the most for them, so I should stay. I wouldn't consider moving out with the kids. It would just be easier for him to go.
And no, I wouldn't fake it for the relatives. I'm just not that good an actor.
2007-12-16 18:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, that isn't NEARLY enough notice to be able to move out. And why spoil Christmas for everyone else? Wait until after the New Years. It's only a matter of weeks, it won't kill anyone to wait that long.
2007-12-16 18:47:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would wait till after the holidays
2007-12-16 18:43:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
depends.... is there children involved????? my husband and i separated and he's been out of our house now for almost 5 months.... i am moving to my parents with my kids but "after the holidays" i don't want them to be inconvenienced or stressed out any more than they already are.... he wants the house so bad, he can have it... but he'll have to wait till i'm ready... so i agreed to after the holidays... now if their are no kids involved and you can't even stand to be around each other... than yeah.... why not... get out.... if you really don't want too and your house is big enough... hang out in another room till after the holidays....
2007-12-16 18:50:08 · answer #6 · answered by me 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have had to stay in places where i was not really wanted, because I had no other options. It sucks. You feel useless. Christmas or not, I would never go through that again.
2007-12-16 18:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by primalclaws1974 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! I've busted my buns to get this house! I did all the work, I made all the sacrifices. If she wanted to get out, I would get her a bus ticket "THAT" day! But if she told me to get out, I'd just laugh! Then give her some advice about long walks off a short pier.
2007-12-16 18:41:27 · answer #8 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's easy for others to say yes or no, but they haven't lived it.
But for me, No way.
Be fake. It'll be way bad memories if you don't.
Plus who knows if you get back together!
2007-12-16 18:53:04 · answer #9 · answered by Queenie` 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell no. Its your home too.He/ she can leave if he/ she is uncomfortable and wait untill your ready ( If and when YOU decide IF you want to move out. Take care of you and dont worry about what HE/ SHE wants. It takes two to marry and only one to divorce.
2007-12-16 18:57:43 · answer #10 · answered by perservarence 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋