Ladies, how bad did your first time hurt?

Question

I keep hearing many things. I want to know the truth, how much pain did you feel when you lost your virginity? Were you sober or drunk? Did it get better fast or keep hurting a for few more times? Details would be nice, if you are not shy.

Answer 1

I really have no basis for answering this question, because I am still a virgin. But, I have wondered this myself and have talked with a few people about it, so I thought I would pass on their advice to you.

Before you ever have sex, it would be a good idea to talk about it with the guy you're planning on having it with. Talk about his being gentle and not just thrusting it in and getting too eager! Let him know you will need him to take his time with you!

The first time, take things very slow. Don't rush through foreplay to get to the actual sex. Play around. Make sure you're physically *ready* for him. I would even suggest using a personal lubricant, just to make it easier!

Answer 2

My first time didn't hurt hardly at all, although a year or so before I had sex I had a full pelvic exam at the Gyno which hurt like hell! So I think that the doctor "broke things loose" for me. I was completely 110% sober. It wasn't really painful, just more or less uncomfortable. The next time I had sex was 2 years later with my fiance. It hurt a whole heck of alot worse than it did the previous time. Their size was different, which made a difference, I guess. The pain went away after the muscles relaxed a bit.

I think that if I hadn't gone to the gyno before and had a pelvic exam, that the pain I felt at the doctors office I would have felt during sex. In which case I would have stopped it. The pain was so unbarable that I was crying. Who knows though.

Answer 3

I can't even remember if I had pain from him actually entering, because I was already in pain because he was abusive. Mine was not good a good experience.

It *will* hurt at any time of your life if the guy just charges in when you are not aroused at all.

If you are thinking about getting drunk to loose your virginity YOU ARE NOT READY. Wait until you are in a stable relationship and feel comfortable with him.

Then you will want to remember it, be able to, and have good memories to look back on.

Sex can be a very bad thing, or the best experience of your life. You seriously need to be sure before you get into it though.

Answer 4

Sober, felt a little like someone was pushing a bruise down there but after 2 minutes when he was all the way in it felt wonderful and he was able to go as fast as he wanted. However it all depends on the person, the size and whether they are gentle. Love helps. Good Luck!

Answer 5

It did not hurt at all. Of course, I was in college and the man is now my husband. We were quite sober. It was the first time for both of us. I will say that it was not what I expected it to be, but it has gotten much better over the years.

Answer 6

Sober, hurt a lot, enough that we didn't finish nor did he get in all the way. The first few times I was very sore also. I did not bleed.

Answer 7

This is the truth; it hurts when a guy does not know what he is doing. That is precisely why teens should not have sex, they aren't physically or emotionally ready at all.

You don't get drunk and have sex either, very immature thing to do.

This is something that is between two people, mature, who are in a committed relationship.

Answer 8

I had no pain at all my first time,but everyone is diferent

Answer 9

I lost my virginity at age20 with a man, and that hurt, but felt good.

Sex is something weird. It hurts, but it feels great.

Now I'm dating a girl, and having sex with her is a lot better then any man.