Basically we went out to a nightclub. And even before anyone was drunk , he starts grabbing my a**.
I move his hand as quickly as I could. And tried to keep my distance from his but he kept following me - with her.
I am unsure if she seen him but today I'm hungover but its kiiling me. How or what should I say to her ?!
2007-12-16 08:58:21 · 15 answers · asked by 1 Love 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok ... I'm not sure if everyone got this ::::::
but this all happened BEFORE we were even drunk.
So that is no excuse.
2007-12-17 04:05:11 · update #1
It's a bad situation but you're going to have to come forth to her and tell her what happened.
A good friend wouldn't let this thing go swept under the rug. Instead, you should let her know so she can be aware that her husband has crossed the line with her own friend.
Even if she doesn't believe you, you're doing the right thing by informing her.
2007-12-16 09:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you assess your relationship with your friend. If she is really a friend, then she will be able to handle your telling her. I think that you should describe your situation to her, but use the 3rd person, "I have a friend who..." Find out how she reacts to this hypothetical situation. Then you could go from there.
I believe that in the end you'll have to tell her. The guilt will eat you up if she comes to you later with news of what her husband did to some other women all the while knowing that he did it to you also. At that point in time you cannot reveal what happened to you previously. That would be unfair.
All the best ;-)
2007-12-16 17:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by cute and clever 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can do one of two things: Don't say anything or let your friend know what a freakin' scumbag, jerk she has a for a bf. This happened to me too. My ex sister in law's bf came on to me one time and flat out asked if I wanted to get some "side action". I was like uhhhh GROSS! I marinated on the idea of telling her for about a week. It was pointless. She stayed with the a.s.s.hole anyway and I was the TEMPTRESS...LMFAO. Gimme a break..Oh but let me add that he also came on to HER MOTHER. So I think if your friend is a BRIGHT girl you might be safe telling her and she'd appreciate the heads up, but if she's gonna be a moron and stay with him anyway,,,just zip it. It's not worth the headache.
2007-12-16 17:06:38 · answer #3 · answered by grneyedgrly 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all, it sounds like all of you are drinking too much, and that you go out specifically to get drunk, which is a really bad idea. It almost sounds like he is interested in a three-some, but either way, that is disgusting. You might want to ask discreetly if she noticed how her husband was acting - to see if she fills in the blanks and says anything - but I don't think you can go out with the 2 of them again, and you have to say way the heck away from him. He sounds like a complete jerk, an aggressive ****** at best, and a potential rapist at worst.
2007-12-16 17:09:45 · answer #4 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you should talk to him, don't tell him you'll tell his wife... tell him you will call the freaking cops on him. Pervert! and try not to go out like that... next time take a guy with you... or another friend.
2007-12-16 17:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by BitterSweet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground with him, let him know your not interested and if he ever does that again let him know your going to tell your friend. But on the real you should tell your friend as soon as possible.
2007-12-16 17:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by riggie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh gosh! That's a bad situation...but everyone seemed to be drunk..why not let this one slide and if it happens again..THEN tell her..maybe he just got confused..theres no reason to ruin a friendship or marriage over a drunken mistake.
2007-12-16 17:00:57 · answer #7 · answered by Jacky 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I don't know if I would say anything to her. It depends on your friend. She might be the type that appreciates the info but she might lash out, think you are lying or be mad at you.
2007-12-16 17:04:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing happened but before you go out again with them tell him hands off or you will tell her......
2007-12-16 17:02:54 · answer #9 · answered by jossieray 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hate to ask tis....but are you sure that she doesn't know? Maybe THEY thought that you'd be a fun addation to the bedroom
2007-12-16 17:01:18 · answer #10 · answered by Brandi 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋