well i am pregnant and i am only 15 and the father of my soon to be child is 18 and if anyone finds out about him being the father he is going to go to jail and i need him so i can provide things for my child and i am in love with this man and i need someones advice on how do make it so he wont go to jail and if he does how to get help to provide food cloths ext. for my child please help me i dont know what to do=(
2007-12-16 08:34:00 · 8 answers · asked by cotton_candy_kayla2000 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
okay i am reposting what i just posted well as you know i am pregnant and i am 15 and i dont want the father to go to jail and i did talk to my parents and they kicked me out of the house so now i am living with my best friend melissa but i am now 4 months pregnant and well melissa's parents want me out so i am going to have to find another place to stay and i am very limited on money and abortion is not an opinion and adoption well i was adopted and i had a hard time because i would always think it was my fault but yah and i dont want my unborn child going through that
2007-12-16 08:59:25 · update #1
get an abortion seriously im tired of this pro life crap the baby will lead a bad life with teenage parents just get an abortion or adopt
IM NOT KIDDING GET AN ABORTION A KID WILL RUIN LIKE 10 PEOPLES LIVES HERE URE PARENTS URE SELF THE FATHER THE KID THE KIDS KIDS URE JUST STARTING SOMETHING BAD
2007-12-16 08:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by asaf 2 · 1⤊ 13⤋
Okay first of all you have to talk to your parents or at least the one who you can trust the most. Explain how you feel about the guy and I'm sure your parents will be a bit upset that you are pregnant at such a young age but they will want to take care of you and protect you. Don't listen to all these people telling you to have an abortion. Its your descision. You have to seriously think about this and how it will affect your life. Bringing a baby up isn't easy for anyone and its going to be hard if you're only 15, but just because you are a teenager doesn't mean you can't be a brilliant mum and bring up a wonderful son or daughter. Having a baby is the hardest thing you will ever do but it will not ruin your life as many people will tell you. Of course you will struggle for a few years and maybe a baby will hold you back for a little while but you can still follow your dreams and be who you want to be even with a baby on tow, but its going to be a whole lot harder. Follow your heart
2007-12-16 16:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by Alison S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You refuse to tell everyone the father's name until the statute of limitation has run out (I would think 3 years when you are 18). He can still provide for the baby and you, you just don't tell where the money comes from.
Of course, you could allow the baby to be adopted to someone who dreams of raising a child.
TX Mom
2007-12-16 16:47:32 · answer #3 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents choose to press charges, I'm sorry, but he will have to go to jail. He really should have thought about that before having sex with you. Instead of worrying so much about him, you need to worry about talking to your parents so that you can get the care that you need, in order to keep your baby healthy, and figure out your plan.
When you start going to the doctor's to get prenatal care, ask them about government assistance. You may qualify for EBT (food stamps), along with WIC (which will also provide formula after your baby is born) and other government assistance programs if you qualify. As for clothes, I recommend going to a Goodwill or Salvation army, or a children's consignment shop for used, cheap clothing. Will your family be having you a shower? You usually receive a lot of things that you need there.
Good luck. Again, I know it seems that your boyfriend is the most important thing right now, but he's not. Quit worrying about that, and worry about the unborn baby that you are carrying.
2007-12-16 16:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell your parents.
They will help you.
My daughter 16 got pregnant at 15 also. Now she has a lovely 3 month old daughter. It was hard & is hard. Her boyfriend the baby's daddy is still very much in the picture. It's almost like a fairytale to tell you the truth. lol...
Email me if you have any questions. I know this has to be very hard on you. God Bless. Ella
2007-12-16 16:46:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww..I was in the same situation i am 16 years old and i am 14 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend is 19.. I was afraid to tell my parents cuz i didn't want them to put him in jail. Where do you live? It depends on the age of consent like in ohio they have the 4 year rule. I don't think your parents will put him in jail because then they would be responsible for helping you and i don't think they want to do that. It took me a lot of courage to tell my parents..They eventually found out when i kept checking out of school cuz i was so sick..So write me back ...
2007-12-16 16:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by heather 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your parents.
They can grant permission for you to move out of their house and be with the father of your baby. Be sure the father is ready to provide for you and have him accompany you to tell your parents.
2007-12-16 16:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by its_victoria08 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to planned parenthood and get an abortion.
You can't afford it, so it will have a terrible life.
Many kids put up for adoption don't get adopted either.
2007-12-16 16:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by Spongeluv11 5 · 0⤊ 7⤋