You help your friends all the time but when you yourself are having problems, you don't think any of them could do anything and you don't turn to them for help?...
2007-12-16 08:30:56 · 7 answers · asked by Olga 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The problem is, I have a lot of friends... and two or three really close... but I don't think they will be able to help me... you think it's still worth discussing this with them?
2007-12-16 08:45:44 · update #1
smartypants#1
my friends trust me, I know it... they tell me their secrets and are always there to help me...
I just feel like I am stronger than they are, maybe...
2007-12-16 08:54:22 · update #2
Tahini, I can easily relate to what you've written here... :)
2007-12-16 09:32:00 · update #3
That's in some people's personality, I'm afraid. I'm exactly the same way. I practically live to make other people happy, go out of my way and spend my own money to help them at times when it's really inconvenient for me, sacrificing things I'd reallly rather be doing, only to hear through the grapevine that everybody considers me a selfish, introvert oaf who isn't interested in other people and tight with everything. Makes me want to become that kind of person, ha.
That's how nature works:
Those who habitually give are accepted by the community as those whose role that is, and community won't thank you, because it assumes you're only doing what's convenient for you, too. Well, tough if that isn't the case. I guess there is nothing out there for us do-gooders in terms of gratitude or reciprocation.
If that's what you want, you need to communicate to those whom you are helping before you help that you expect something back - not sure if either you or me for that matter could be that heartless.
The other option is to just keep investing without hope for return, just for the feeling of having been a better person than would be expected... consider it your "Karmic Insurance Policy".
2007-12-16 09:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by Tahini Classic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to give your friends a chance before you think they can offer you no help. More than likely you feel that way because you are always the one helping them, you seem to be the strong one of the group. I will offer you this, your friends turn to you because of what you can offer them and they are your friends because of a bond you all have developed.
You will never know what they can offer you unless you open up and talk with them.
2007-12-16 16:43:08 · answer #2 · answered by Just Life, Trying To Live It. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to try to make new friends cuz the ones you have now kinda sound like they are just there and don't really do anything.
maybe they did something to you a long time ago and you still can't gain their trust.
maybe you feel--deep inside--that they won't help you
2007-12-16 16:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by josephine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah this has happened to me actually.
But when I did actually give it a shot they could help me.
U should try to turn to them cause u never know how much of a help they could be.
<3 Me
2007-12-16 16:44:44 · answer #4 · answered by deathlysoul666 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that happens to me before.There's always at least 1 person thats my friend ...that helps solve problems.
You have to turn to them for help since friends helps each others.You never know until you ask.
2007-12-16 16:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it happens to me all the time. Some of us are just more mature than others.
2007-12-16 16:42:39 · answer #6 · answered by Me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well u should ask the friend u trust the most. and if u can't ask a family member.
2007-12-16 16:35:47 · answer #7 · answered by Elise G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋