One of my ex's told me he loved me after a few short weeks. I was totally freaked out & turned off by this. That's actually the reason why we broke up, he was too clingy & was moving way too fast.
I think I told my husband after about 6 or 7 months when I REALLY felt it. When do you all think it's the right time to say those powerful words??
2007-12-16 08:24:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it is something you shouldnt say until you really truly mean it. For some people a few weeks is early, but no matter how fast it is you cant expect someone to say it back until they really are ready.
My husband and I had only dated a few weeks before he told me he loved me. At first it freaked me out but I still really liked him but I was detrimend not to say it until I meant it- because to me the words "I love you" was like a promise that if we broke up it would be breaking an eternal promise- which is something i wasnt going to do. Anyway I made my husband wait for another month or so before I returned the "I love you" I do think it is important that until you are ready to say it back you shouldnt act alll freaked out just because they said those words. If you like them still encourage them. Also you shouldnt give any pressure to the other to say it back- becaust then it is forced and loses its sencerity.
2007-12-16 08:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by Emily R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't a set time to say I love you. Your ex wasn't wrong when he told you he loved you, but he was obviously with the wrong girl. If you had felt it as much as he did, it would have been really romantic, but alas, another broken heart.
I have learnt myself to never say that until I am really really sure my partner feels the same. That could be after a few months, could be a few hours, depends if the magic is there.
Love doesn't happen between two people simultaneously much any more, and most of the time, one will fall in love with the other faster. Most are just after company and will be freaked out when their partner says those words. Maybe the person just after company will never want to love their partner, and its the poor girls and boys that fall in love with them that I feel sorry for the most. They find someone they like spending time with, they start a relationship, they spend a lot of time with them, they fall in love, and the other just gets freaked out and runs.
I've been on both sides of the coin, and it's just life I suppose. I won't be giving my heart away too easy I tell thee, and I let my partners know that right from the beginning. I will have to see signs of love coming from my partner, and I know what to look for, and feel now. Thats a lesson for all the insecure folks out there, don't ever fall in love too soon, and if you do, never say it until you are very very sure they feel the same back.
2007-12-16 08:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ugh! I have played games with the phrase. I have said it describing intense sexual passion. I have said it because he was unavailable and I considered him a challenge, I have said it when I knew I didn't mean it, but to be nice. And finally, I didn't say it when I felt it. Only time showed me which one was real and which one wasn't. Those who I truly loved, I still love years later. I have used and abused the phrase, but hopefully I'm experienced enough to have a better understanding of different types of feelings. I'm more careful now and would rather say it later than sooner to make sure I question, test and re-test the validity of it beforehand. It's really hard to know what's passion, being in love, challenge, infatuation, momentarily weakness, need, void, and true selfless love. I'm not too big on timelines. I usually go with the flow, although I have a logical minimum timeline for things in mind... having sex, moving in together, having kids etc. Sometimes you need time to really observe the person in different situations to draw a balanced conclusion. Another question is, how do you know if you really love the person or the ideal picture of the person?
2016-05-24 05:59:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I told my boyfriend I love you after about only 2 months. Luckily for me this didn't freak him out because he felt the same way. In fact he was saying things prior to that hinting around to telling me he loved me. I guess too, we're not kids so we both knew what we were feeling (29 at the time) I think if you're truly in love with someone you know it. Our 3rd year anniversary is tomorrow and we're more in love than ever.
2007-12-16 08:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by grneyedgrly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better Than Never Saying I love you Or Never Even Hearing I love you
I don't think there is a timeline for that i don't know it just depends on the person
2007-12-16 08:40:03 · answer #5 · answered by rebel_angel031 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boyfriend I dated in high school before I dated my husband, said 'I love you' on our second date. I never could say it back. I would answer, "I like you." I KNEW it wasn't love. After the cheating bastard and I broke up...I started dating my now husband. He told me that he loved me after about 1.5 weeks. I said it back. I just knew I loved him. Now...we tell each other those words a dozen or more times a day.
2007-12-16 12:39:02 · answer #6 · answered by Wolfy 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I felt compelled to say it to my partner. Situation called for it; thought I meant it at the time; came to regret it later on finding out that I really didn't love her. I was saying it to avoid not saying it, rendering it meaningless. So don't say it too soon, nor all the time. Say it when you really mean it.
2007-12-16 12:58:45 · answer #7 · answered by dominia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love you means so many things for so many people. I love everyone. So he could have just meant that he loved you like a friend and wanted the best for you. It depends on if he meant that he wanted to marry you when he said I love you. Most people don't mean that when they say it. It's pretty meaningless for most so I don't look too much into it when someone says it. :)
2007-12-16 08:27:57 · answer #8 · answered by oremus_fratres 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are honest just say what is in your heart ! Honesty is a very good thing if people are frightened by it then they must not be the one !
2007-12-16 08:42:29 · answer #9 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people mistake attraction for love and they act on it, but if your a rational thinking person when you feel it you should just say it but be warned that the person receiving that love may not be feeling what your feeling.
2007-12-16 09:37:36 · answer #10 · answered by riggie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋