I like to have a few glasses of wine each night with dinner. I work full time, take care of my husband, my children and a household and never miss a day of work. My husband told me he thinks I have a drinking problem. What do you think?
2007-12-16 07:50:46 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
labout 2 glasses--maybe 3 on a friday nite
2007-12-16 07:57:20 · update #1
What do you mean, how big are those wine glasses? How big are wine glasses? They're not 20 ounce goblets!!!
2007-12-16 08:05:18 · update #2
ahhh forget about it sweetheart sounds to me like u just need a good drinking buddy ;)
2007-12-16 08:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by maxhighlife 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless your drinking habbits cut into your responsibilities then there is nothing wrong with it. Now if you find you cant control your drinking, and feel like you need to drink everyday then you may have a problem, and should seek some kind of help before you really loose control of your drinking habbits, but if you feel you can control your drinking try cutting it down to at least only one drink a day to make your husband happy. I know a lot of families who drink a glass of wine each night with their dinner, and there isnt anything wrong with it. Some people are just like that. To me an alcoholic is someone who feels the need to constantly drink. I mean they can drink all day long if they had that much free time, and their lives basically revolve around drinking.
2007-12-16 16:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And on your days off?? Do you drink more than a couple of glasses of wine>I had a friend she drank a 1/2 gal of vodka in 3 days>Passed out every night>Never missed a day of work up at 530am>So it's your call> Stop drinking and see how bad you crave the wine> That will tell you for yourself>If family members see a problem than there is a problem>
2007-12-16 15:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you husband thinks you might have a problem, it is now officially a problem (whether you are officially an alcoholic or not, it doesn’t really matter at this point because it is affecting your life). Simply stop drinking for an indefinite amount of time; if you miss it a lot, you have a problem. If you replace the wine with some kind of fruity tea or something and you don’t miss it, problem solved. If you are fine without it for an indefinite time period (more than a couple of months), feel free to enjoy a glass of wine with your husband when he suggests it and with friends, but since the idea of alcoholism is in your marriage, the only way to get it out is to prove you don’t need it one bit (to both of you).
2007-12-16 16:06:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are starting to look forward to those glasses of wine every night, then you are on the road to alcoholism. It sneaks up on you...one day you are a social drinker, the next you are an alcoholic who cannot and will not go a day without a drink. I drink a glass of wine now and then before dinner, but not every day and not every week. I do not desire it..it may happen if we have guests over for dinner. The wine can stay in the liquor cabinet for months without touching it. I would take a good look at myself and ask yourself if you can go a day without alcohol...If you can, then you are not addicted, if you cannot..I would stop the every night drinks.
2007-12-16 18:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well...do you get sh!t faced? Do you get abusive? Too happy? If it's just 1 or 2 glasses, and you're pretty much the same as you are sober...I don't see the problem...
BUT!!!! just because you go to work every day, with or without hangover, does not mean that you don't have a drinking problem...There are a whole range of different alcoholics...weekenders, nighters, dayers, only when depressed, only when partying, only when happy, the list goes on and on and on.....
you say a few....what's a few? 2? 3? what kind of glasses are you talking about? itty bitty glasses? globlets? I've heard the *I only want 2 beers* lots of times...not 12 oz cans....but 2, 32 oz. bottles...big freaking difference...
Best thing to do? Talk to hubby and try to see how he sees you...maybe there's something there that you're missing...
best of luck to you!!! I hope I wasn't too harsh....
2007-12-16 16:02:33 · answer #6 · answered by tayeloquin2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have a few glasses of wine does not nessarily mean you are an alcoholic. When you just can't live without that drink, then there is a problem! Now, also just because you go to work and take care of your family, that doesn't mean that you are not an alcoholic. That is just a "functioning alcoholic". I have a brother in law like that. Now, if you find yourself needing that drink then it's probably time to seek some kind of help! But, sounds pretty normal to me, I have a glass of wine almost every night. They say it's good for you!
2007-12-16 15:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by Briana 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I would think tht if you were a alcoholic you would have trouble functioning in daily life, your husband loves you and may just be concerned about you which isnt wrong if he cares about you see if you can go without the wine for a couple of weeks not because your being told to do so rather you know you can then ask your self.
2007-12-16 17:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by zoro 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a recovering alcholic, and I don't want to sound like I am preaching, but if your routine is to have even 1 glass every day, it considered alcoholism.
Get rid of all of the alcohol in your house and see if you can get through one week without. If you can, great, but if you can't you definately need to get some help.
I started out having just one beer after work at night with dinner and that led to two and so on. After two years, I needed rehab to get off the booze.
I hope you don't have to go down that road. It was awful for my family and health.
Greatful that I am sober now. Good luck!!!!!
2007-12-16 16:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by LAK 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"I like to have a few glasses of wine each night with dinner". How much is a "few" glasses? You probably don't, but I would make sure a "few" doesn't turn into 20 glasses each night, then you have a problem.
2007-12-16 15:56:12 · answer #10 · answered by rosezz50 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it could grow into one...but there is no problem with a few glasses of wine in the evening. Helps ya relax an let go of the day!
2007-12-16 15:57:45 · answer #11 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋