2007-12-16 07:45:26 · 17 answers · asked by edie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes...sometimes having different backgrounds.. can be good.. you learn new things.. try new foods...my bf is half mex.. a different back ground from me.. and believe me since we have been together i tried a lot of different things.. and learned a lot of things from him.. the same with him
2007-12-16 08:01:56 · answer #1 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you hold the same Beliefs? Everyone comes from different walks of life, even if you grow up in the same area-- but nothing in common and no common interests is going to be EXTREMELY tough. It will take serious commitment from BOTH of you.
2007-12-16 16:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by SWEETYPI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They absolutely can succeed together. My husband and I are living proof.
The family I grew up in was struggling financially, did not have a single college graduate. (My father had only finished 8th grade. I attended public high school and was the first in my family to graduate from college - a public state college.) Mine was a family with a genealogy involving immigration from Europe only 2 generations ago on one side and honest-to-goodness hillbillies on the other side. For the past three generations, my family, on both sides, had a history of being torn apart by divorce.
My husband's family was relatively well-to-do, owning businesses, summer homes, etc. and EVERYONE in his family for many generations had graduated from college. My husband attended a private, exclusive prep school and an equally prestigious college.Divorce in his family was unheard of - the word was never even spoken. His family pedigree dated back to pre-Revolutionary War in this country and he knew his family history in Europe back into the 1500's.
Needless to say, his mother was horrified when we began dating seriously in high school and through college. When we became engaged, she was enraged. The first few years of our marriage were great for us - as long as we worked to pacify his mom. Once our children were born, she finally began to accept that I wasn't going anywhere. He was by my side, defending me whenever needed. Eventually she and I made peace and are now actually friends! It was easy - we both love the same man, just in different ways.
My husband and I dated for 5 1/2 years and have now been married for 35 years - and we are happier and more in love every day.
2007-12-16 18:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible.... From my personal experience I dated a guy who was my total opposite and was from India. The cultural differences were what broke us up. His family didn't approve of him dating me, or anything. If you have someone who is willing to work around background differences and put a good effort into the relationship then it would probably be fine. It didnt work out for me, but everyone is different.
2007-12-16 16:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by Riley's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of your respondents so far have suggested ":no" but none have really told you why.....
Couples succeed when they share lots in common, not lots of differences.... same religion, same politics, same values, same educational level, same ideas on how money ought to be spent, same cultural backgrounds, etc., etc. When there is less to argue about, the relationship is more successful...
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2007-12-16 15:54:00 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other you would be surprised at what different backgrounds the two of you can have...... You will have a lot of different ideas on things and a lot to work out...... But people from the same back ground still have a lot of issues to work out and a lot of people don't make it..... So the real issue is do you love him and will the two of you try hard to work it out.... That's what matters...
2007-12-16 15:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by jossieray 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
very hard question to answer..... my ex-husband and i had/have nothing in common and it seemed to work for us for awhile.... the whole "opposites" attract thing.... but after 11 years of marriage and two children later, it became a huge problem..... the way we loved, disciplined our kids, music, food, priorities... all of that and more were so far apart.... its ended our marriage.... so my advice to you, is if you have a strong communication with him and you can talk thru all your differences, i believe you have a chance.... if there are issues in the way you communicate and you have alot of differences, your heading for disaster at some point..... my personal opinion of course...
good luck
2007-12-16 16:23:32 · answer #7 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are a couple, they must have had some common interests in order for them to have been attracted to one another.
Are you asking if opposites attract?
Anyway, with any relationship, it's all about the willingness to meet each other's needs.
2007-12-16 15:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my wife are almost opposites. I am quiet and consevative. She is outgoing and liberal. We have very little in common. We have different hobbies and interests. We have a fantastic marriage of over 20 years.
2007-12-16 16:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing in common what does that mean to you?
2007-12-16 15:50:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋