bf and I have not been getting along and both agreed to a break. together for 6 yrs. He has always been above board with me and I do not feel this is an excuse to "cheat" we both realize that once we agree its over its over and want to be sure before a hasty decision. I have come to a desicion and would like us to get back together but he is not sure. I do not want to push and have not asked him for a time frame but would like to ask you guys out there how your thinking works, if ever been in the same situaiton and how long it took and how did it work out for you.
2007-12-16 07:42:16 · 7 answers · asked by Patty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been through this. A couple of times, and I didn't go back. Then, the lady that I am married to now, and I split up for about 6 months. I could not stand to be without her, so I married her. Set him loose and if he comes back he loves you.
2007-12-16 07:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in this situation for 4yrs with a gf. i didn't agree 2 break, she just walked out saying she just couldn't b with me at this time. after she started dating and found out all she was going thru was mid-life crisis and she wanted back.
my answer, no.
look, and everyone listen 2 this very carefully...when u can't work out ur problems together, that is can't or won't, and weather its a mutual decision or a one-sided one and someone leaves, u can NEVER get back what you two had, it will never be the same. it will never be "better than it was", it will only dredge up bad memories and questions on both minds of what it will take next time (and there will be a next time) 4 one or the other 2 bolt...again.
what exactly does committment mean anyway. if nothing then y does everyone say they want one.
y oh y is it so hard 2 stop, think and work on a relationship instead of tossing it and walking away "for a while". walking away is the easy part, staying and working on it is the hard committed part.
u don't have 2 push him, its over, u just can't see it. you're too close.
2007-12-16 08:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by junkyarddogfan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better. There's no excuse for someone to cheat if they truly care about you. And if he's bored with you, what makes you think it won't be the same? Don't you want someone who has fun with you and brings out the better in you? You're just settling it seems because you like the idea of having a boyfriend, and since it's been 6 years that's all that you know. Thus you don't realize that you deserve better. So get out there, and meet some more people and become your own person without relying on someone who really doesn't care that much about you.
2007-12-16 08:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by Consultant 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has given you his answer>My Ex and i parted were best of friends but that's it>So hoping to rekindle the romance>He doesn't seem to interested>Part do your thing if he comes back then see>But waiting for him to make up his mind not so good of an idea>He might not want to say it's over do you> As 1 of you have to make a decision>Just my thought>
2007-12-16 08:33:46 · answer #4 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never got back together after a break up with any girlfriends. Find another hottie!
2007-12-16 07:54:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has been my experience that if taking a break is an alternative to easing stress in the relationship then your partner is not the one for you. when you find that special person they will not get easily bored. Thank God you hadn't married him and in a calm manner go your seperate ways and find that person who is right for you
2007-12-16 07:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by john d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO absolutely not! he is obviously tired of you, let it go and move on it will never last.
2007-12-16 07:48:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋