are in their 20's...and have two small children to consider....is SEVERELY BRAIN DAMAGED....he does not know who she is...etc.,....NOW I FEEL she should not have to stay with him...it is CAUSING HER DEPRESSION AND he is NOT a HUSBAND anymore...(but you know how people WILL JUDG E HER FOR LEAVING HIM AND PUTTING HIM IN A HOME)...cuz you know how some people are...She went to several counselors...and each one told her she will have to WHITE LIE in order to NOT be judged by them...such as say when asked only..'HE WAS IN A FATAL ACCIDENT...AND if they ask anything else...which they will do....just say..."i do not want to talk about this...it is NOT good for me to re-LIVE IT...Now remember ..WE ARE NOT IN HER SHOES AND WOUld never want to be...I have seen him so i can understand...I feel that is alright to say...because it was fatal to his brain...(the children are afraid of him)..with good reason...
2007-12-16 07:34:39 · 3 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree that she does not owe anyone an explanation. They have no right to judge her. They do not have to live her life. She should not lie to them. Eventually they will find out the truth. It would be easier for her tell them to mind their own business if the question her more than she is willing to tell them. She needs to do what is best for her and her children. She cannot take care to two small children, a severely brain damaged husband and support all of them. If were her I would tell them that the accident caused extensive brain damage, that he does not recognize them, the kids are afraid of him and that he is dangerous for them to be around. If he has not been dangerous he can be. He does not know them and can become combative and agitated at any time. She should not feel guilty about this. My husband and I have discussed what we would do in this situation. Neither of us wants the other to stay if the other does not know that we are there. It is no way to live and no way to raise her kids. Be there for her.
2007-12-16 08:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O M G this has to be the ultimate damned if you do damned if you don't...... she may be best by leaving him in the institution and dating ....heck with the white lies . tell the new guy up front what the deal is. there must be a supportive man out there.
2007-12-16 16:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is not obligated to stay with him or answer peoples questions-she does not owe anyone an explanation and she should move on if she is not happy
2007-12-16 15:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋