Can a 37 year old mom., and a 52 year old grandma stop a 22year old daughter from marrying a 60 year old man

Question

Grandma and mom say shes too young to be marrying the fiance
The wife a year ago divorced a 20 year old who got another woman pregnant after she supported him for two years
Her new 60 year old fiance has just bought them a house to live in once they are married
He said he will stand by her until he dies
Mom and grandma says she needs to be with someone about her own age.
They say they will try to get a restraining order against him if he tries to marry their daughter and granddaughter
I say, the daughter is an adult and she deserves to try to have happiness. Age has nothing to do with it.
Grandma and mom says he will die soom
I say, if she has found happiness let them live together in marriage as long as either can live
The sixty year old has never married. He wants children. So does she/
Grandma and mom says im stupid and their child and grandchild is much too young for that man
Isaid do you have aman They said no.
I said nothing.

I say as a friend that the mom and grandma cant get a restraining order to stop the marriage.
I further say, the day she turned 18 yeatrs old, theres nothing they can do to stop those two from marrying.

Its their mom and grandma, not mine

He makes 40 000 a year but beleives in love
her ex husband whom she supported was 20 years old
She told me shed rather live with him for 20 years in love than a hundred years with the 20 year old ex husband
The house he bought is a two bedroom house.

Answer 1

well really they can't do anything...n i would try to explain to them that if they keep pushing the situation n won't be too long before she decides to push them out of her life...all they can do is let her make her own decisions and give her a chance to make her own mistakes...or maybe they just want her to be lonely like they are...misery loves company...

Answer 2

As long as the 22 year old understands that she will most likely out live her hubby and that any children will be left without a father at young ages, it is no ones business. Love comes in all forms and at all ages. And there really isn't anything the Mom or Grand-mom can do. They have made their feelings known and should leave it at that. Would I have wanted my 22 year old daughter to marry a man that much older than her? I'd have to say no but it would not have been my decision. After telling her my concerns I would have let her make her own decision. Give her this advice; Life Insurance and a good Will. After that, go for it.

Answer 3

I feel that 22 years old is too young to commit to such a realtionship...Is she looking for a father figure?...It may make the older gentleman happy but a it's too big a commitment for a 22 year old! I feel that the Mum and Grandma are right about having an issue and are doing the right thing by not encouraging her in this marriage....She will meet someone one day far more suited to her and to have children with her...She doesn't need someone her exact age, but maturer and wiser which seems what she is looking for. She should get on with her life...take up some new interests...get herself into a good space and then maybe find someone to settle down and marry.

Answer 4

Your mom and grandma needs to look at the father situation. If she's marrying a 60 year old man, she's looking for that "fatherly" love. But love is love. And she's a grown woman. And she can do what she wants. So, if she wants to marry someone that's 60, then wish her well. Besides, your mom and grandma don't know when he will die.

Answer 5

Nobody can stop her from marrying if that is what she wants to do. A restraining order to keep someone away from an adult that wants to be around them? I do not think that they will give one for this. If this is what makes her happy then I would marry him. Why did she say he will die soon? Age does not matter.

Answer 6

Personally, I believe both mother and grandmother should stay out of it. All though there is a great age different it's up to the 22 yr old to make her own decisions and mistakes in order to learn about life.

Answer 7

The is no way the 37 YO mom and 52 YO grandma can prevent them from getting married. Even if they are BIG contributors to political campaigns they couldn't do it without denying someone's human rights or doing something seriously illegal and unethical.

Answer 8

Personally I think thats disgusting... I'm 22, and cant even look at man older than 30 ...... no way would i be attracted to them and live with a man thats older than my father or anywhere close to my fathers age.... thats just me though, some girls are just in it for the money and the attention this guy gives her, I think thats where she is stuck . . . cuz she knows she wont get what she is getting from a guy whos her age. The more they tell her not to do it, the more she's gonna want to do it, its just how it works, so I say let her go and let her find out on her own.

Answer 9

By my calculations, both mom and grandma gave birth at age 15. 22 is old by those standards. Marry the guy and be happy! They cant stop you.

Answer 10

You said; He said he will stand by her until he dies.
Well, that isn't that much longer is it?
Is she only marrying into money?
I believe that the girl is too young for him. She should date someone her own age. However, it is her decision.

Matthew 6:24
"No one can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and Money.