what was the final straw?was it a difficult decision? how did you tell the people close to you? how did you break the news to your kids?do you regret your decision?
2007-12-16 07:07:32 · 16 answers · asked by boohoo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i decided divorce was the only Way out of a bad situation after he admitted a few months after abandoning me that there was indeed another woman, he tried to hide it for such a long time. i gave him a choice of therapy because it had been a long term marriage, he refused, so i had no choice but to file for divorce and get out of it with as much dignity as i could. i don't regret it because had he loved me he would have chosen me over her. i was just honest with everyone, when i realized what my plans were. it was a difficult decision because i loved the man it tore my heart in two, but when your not loved u can't stay and have any hope.
2007-12-16 10:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what was the final straw? When he drew back a fist and attempted to hit me.
was it a difficult decision? Why would it be a difficult decision?
how did you tell the people close to you? I just told them the truth.
how did you break the news to your kids? My daughter was there, she headed for the phone to call 911
do you regret your decision? Oh hell no.
2007-12-17 00:36:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you come to answers for answers>Yes it's difficult if you don't want to>You have to want out>Tell they will fine out or tell them they probity all ready know something up>tell the kids together if your still talking> Best if you can make the break kind as the children are the one that get hurt>No I should of did it in the beginning not 12 yrs later> best of luck>It's not all bad being single>Peaceful>
2007-12-16 15:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I woke up each morning crying, couldn't get a sentence out to the guy without screaming at him, and realized my soul was dying and my life depended on it. I agonized for a long time because of my children and because I felt guilty abandoning him. I was also afraid my family would freak out because they are so against divorce, but in the end it was either them or me and I chose to save myself. I do not regret my decision, and my kids are happier living in a home filled with love instead of arguments.
2007-12-16 15:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by Marina 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
For me it was when my nerves were completely frazzled. I was no longer to function correctly. He was so emotionally and verbally abusive. It was difficult to actually seperate, and it was hurtful for both. Now we are the best of friends and divorced. I just could no longer live with him. I dont regret it now, but when it was happening, I second guessed my decision a lot...usually when I was lonely. Breaking news to family is also hard, sometimes they even take sides. Just dont listen to everyone else's 2 cents. You will know when it is the right time. Listen to your gut insticts, they are always right. Good Luck...its a tough decision.
2007-12-16 15:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by mlock123 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When he made me give up everything I had. In a final ditch to save my relationship I left my job thinking we would live off his salary Instead he wanted me to eat away my share of the house. I could foresee that he would keep me hanging on until he had 100% of the house then leave me penniless (thankfully he never realized he could not legally do that as I held 50% of shares and I was not going to sign those away)
So when I was offered a good job straight after I took it, against his wishes, and left
2007-12-16 15:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by MissE 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am divorced. I don't regret my decision. I did everything I could to make that marriage work. No stone was left unturned. I knew I had to go when I became upset when I was driving home....knowing I was almost there, I would turn down my street and start to cry because I didn't want to go there. It was awful.....I left and haven't done that since. I wish you the best.
2007-12-16 15:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by Ali C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was actually the one who GOT left.
It must have been a tough decision for him, because he waffled back and forth, repeatedly stomping on my heart for TWO YEARS.
I was relieved when he finally made up his mind....at least I KNEW and could move on.
If he had had the balls to be honest, I might still have respect foer him, but all I have is red-hot hatred. I hope he dies young, in a painful way.
I am happily remarried, though---FAR more happily than I EVER was with the ex-hole.
2007-12-16 15:13:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
for everybody is different.. some live in an abusive relationship or with a drunk,drug user ,ect ect with these there would be no issue leaving them. regret hardly not.. but if your in a realtionship that is fine but your just not happy or bored but you get along well that becomes more difficult. yes I believ you have second thoughts . ( I Am) that is what mine was like, after awhile you second guess yourself) so Yep I struggle with it...
2007-12-16 15:17:31 · answer #9 · answered by mitchey 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When I couldn't stand to watch him eat-the way he chewed his food just grossed me out-then there was the way he breathed that bugged me too!In fact I asked him to stop breathing !But he didn't-so I left (just kidding LOL)
I left when I couldn't stand it anymore-maybe because he had gotten a 17 year old girl pregnant -not sure-but I am very happy and so are my kids and so is my family
2007-12-16 15:13:39 · answer #10 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋