Lets say they met at work, and became friends there and started going out to lunch together/dinner/movies what not.... and he did introduce u to her but still hung out w her alone. . . and swore there was nothing between them but friendship
2007-12-16 07:03:09 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thats not okay becasue if he wanted to jsut be friends iwth her there would be no reason why u cant all hang out together. my boyfriend has some female friends but we always hang out in groups and that makes me trust him more because theres nothing hidden... girl you better check that situation out!!!
2007-12-16 07:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, I'm not a lady but I can offer the advice that I've been on the other side of the coin. My ex-wife was the one who found she enjoyed the company of her boss so much she spent her free time with him while I worked my buns off paying for all the baby sitting expenses. Finally I said no more. Then she said no-more, to the marriage. I cleaned up in the divorce and she has never stopped regretting it even though all the kids are grown up. Was there cheating. She says no, but, as a very wise counselor once said, why create the appearance of a possible affair if you really love the one you are with. I would never even let a woman drive in the front seat with me in a car that wasn't my wife. If it barks like a dog, and acts like a dog, it's probably a dog!
2007-12-16 07:14:54 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No! I'd remind him that he's a married man and is too old to be playing playground games.
Men hardly take their girlfriends or wives to the cinema, so, taking a female colleague should make you suspicious.
If there's nothing going on now, there will be in the future if things keep going on like this.
I'd have none of it.
How would he like it, should the shoe be on the other foot.
I bet your last penny he wouldn't!
2007-12-16 07:24:33 · answer #3 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh hell no! That would be completely unacceptable...and I know that my husband wouldn't condone me going out with a male that I met and became friends with....Your husband swore that nothing is going on? How about an emotional affair?
2007-12-16 07:08:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
GIRL!!!! You better wake up,right now,and see all those RED FLAGS! I had a boyfriend like that once,and it turns out he was the biggest cheater in the whole world! I suffered a lot of hurt that could have been avoided,had I only paid attention to those red flags. You have to ask yourself,are YOU ok with this?Because,there are a ton of guys out there who would NEVER do something creepy like that.Besides,if he is doing this now,then he wont stop,later on in the relationship.I remember how hurt and unimportant it made me feel,and my heart goes out to you,honey.Lose this creep,before he hurts you any worse. Good luck.
2007-12-16 07:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by CC 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get the H*** out of the relationship now..... Run do not walk away from this.... This is cheating I don't care if they just went to movies or not men in relationships don't go out with other women period..... That is why when you start dating you go out together and hang out with friends together..... If she wants to bring a friend and go to the movies with the two of you than see how that goes......
2007-12-16 07:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by jossieray 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, it wouldn't be alright at all. Not AT ALL! There is no need for my husband to start forming friendships with new women. The fact that you met this woman means nothing---it could be that he begged her to meet you so that it would lessen your suspicions. No way in hell would I trust what's going on with them! HE IS DATING HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Why aren't you two going out to dinner and movies and such?
2007-12-16 07:09:34 · answer #7 · answered by Marina 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Lil one no, no, no. I would not like that. First of all you should be the woman in his life he goes and does things with. I guess it would be a different story if he knew her as a friend before you two were together. It sounds like this is not the case though. You need to ask him straight foward and tell him you need to have an answer because this is hurting you, ask him why he feels the need to have this extra woman in his life. I am sure any answer he gives you wont be a good one because there should be no reason for it. Hun, just try this and see what you get. Good luck. Oh by the way and what kind of woman is she to hang out with someones man. She should feel like a fool. If you talking to him doesnt help and you want to stay with him why dont you contact her and ask her if she can step back out of your relationship tell her how you feel w/out being mean or angry. If she does and he wont back off well then there is more there and you may need to say goodbye. You deserve better. Hope this wasnt to harsh and good luck.
2016-04-09 07:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alone s kinda weird.... my friends have done that to their gf's they worked at the spectrum and the block and had quite a few girls they went out with and said they were not doing anything but one day their gf's decide to go to the spectrum or block and see them with their hands around each others waists and stuff.... one of the girls took the guy back and the other broke up with hers. my man doesn't see them as guys or girls just friends... he doesn't know why it's such a big deal to point out that they're girls and guys, friends are friends.... i think you should be trusting until he does something to lose your trust.
2007-12-16 07:10:22 · answer #9 · answered by Tano A 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He's dating her and odds are he's sharing his heart with her during their outings!! Frankly, the 'just friends' thing is a lie! He needs to man up and call it for what it is - an emotional affair! I wouldn't tolerate such behavior! You're worth some basic respect! If he can't give it to you, then maybe it's time to move on to someone who will!
I'm sorry, you're having to deal with this! It sucks!
2007-12-16 07:12:43 · answer #10 · answered by Lover of Blue 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋