Bascily, got married at 20, been married for about a year and a half and have had sex maybe 10 times. When we first met we had sex all the time, and then we had a preggers scare.. sex slowly has died down and like now its been at least three months. It's certainly not because I'm not horney, but when it comes to my hubby, maybe the sparks are just gone? I'd rather do it with anyone else. Its just not as exciting or i dono.. now I am finding more and more I am putting myself in compromizing situations with guys.. tempting myself, more and more without a reason not to go through with it.. I know that sounds terrible, but I am a good looken 21 year old who feels like I am wasting away some of the best times of my life. Dont get my wrong, I love my husband, hes deff like my best friend. But I feel like we've become room mates. And the passion is gone. Like theres nothing, if you met us 2 years ago we couldnt keep our hands off each other in public, now we dont even hold hands.. help
2007-12-16 06:53:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its not that we havnt talked about it, We make comments to each other about the fact that we never do and it doesnt change anything. I agree with the being a parent thing. Neither of us want kids till we're 30. But we're on BC now which we wernt when we were younger, and he always pulls out, so i dont think thats the big issue.
2007-12-16 07:02:53 · update #1
I really dont think hes gay n I dont want a divorse. I lov him like crazy its just I dono we dont work n the sack or our timings always off were never n the mood @ the right time w/ each other. B4 we got married I cheated on him a few times, well not hard core cheating, I never had sex w/ anyone else but just like cheating nevertheless Anyways I find myself talkin to those same guys n I just want to have sex w/ someone else just to try it I know this sounds so trashy & unloyal & i guess it is. But all of a sudden its like my husband & I resent each other, we hang out in opposite rooms were pissed off I just dont get it. This is so not me, and im so sick of being bored, unentertained & competing with every electronic for attention. & its not attention for baggering him w/ chores. Its sexual attn. & mayb I am the same way w/ him & dont realize it. I mean its a 2way street i gues n i dont need a therapist to tell me im gettin attn. from other guys bcuz i dont get enuf from him..
2007-12-16 07:31:22 · update #2
Marriage shouldn't kill your sex life. You should be more committed and open to sex. Sometimes life becomes routine and couples put sex aside. Discuss your feelings with your husband and tell him you miss having sex. A lot of couples say sex is the reason that their marriage failed but that's never really true because it's usually something linked to sex or an issue outside of the bedroom that effected sex that can hurt a marriage.
2007-12-16 07:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by Rockit 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, it's that old preggers scare! Only now it is even more real. I would guess that you have been talking about wanting a baby. The best way to make sure that doesn't happen is to not have sex. Talk to your husband about this. Also, make sure your financial situation gets better. Sometimes that takes the spark out of a marriage when there are financial problems especially with a 20 and 21 year old!
2007-12-16 07:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Fame can be a stressful thing, with the pressure to keep producing material better than the last in order to maintain it, not to mention the pounding celebrities of all stripes get from the paparazzi and tabloid media. For some reason, musicians seem to succumb to this stress at a greater rate than other entertainment figures. There might be psychological causes for this, but that's a little beyond my expertise; or maybe the nature of the business makes it easier to obtain drugs and alcohol. I remember several years ago watching a program on the life of the country singer Keith Whitley, how once he got started as a teenager, the people around him basically enabled the emerging bad habits which ultimately killed him, plying him with free booze and other things which he readily imbibed; as he grew older, he tried to break free, but he had become locked into a self-destructive cycle from which he could not escape, with tragic results. The same story could probably be told countless times, substituting the names of other stars--Kurt Cobain, Jim Morrison, Jimi Hendrix, Janis Joplin, you name it.
2016-04-09 07:25:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have youtold him you have needs ?desires ?that your having thoughts about his love for you changing ?you need to tell him how your feeling.and if he cant find a soloution some how that you will.look your twenties are never going to come back .either tell him to hit thecg spot or youll go elsewhjere.do not waste your time.but defenitly tell him how you are feeling first.try everything possiblemaybe some erbs tio make him more horney.when is the last time you got freaky ?????i mean were naked when he came home?bought a skimpy little thing just for him?but when is the last time he said i love you and you felt it ???????some major issues /look though if it does not work im a one woman man and i cose to loveit first thing inmorning come home for a snack at lunch and want you at front door wearing nothing but a smile at night.ill think of you all day .first thing in am last thing in pm.so tell him to tighten up or i will lol lol JAY
2007-12-16 07:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by jayhawker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sucks to say, but it's not marriage, it's just monogomy in general. It's a really hard thing to do sometimes. But if you can make it work, it can be the greatest thing. Find new things to do together. Make up new hobbies that you can do together and bond over. Try some risky stuff, like having sex outdoors. I know how you feel though. I am only 21 and I have been married for two years. It's really hard sometimes, especially when you're this young.
2007-12-16 07:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by Alicia 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sucks seems like one person in the marriage always false advestizes before marriage. The give lots of good sex then the wedding day and after that it's done. I'm in the same boat my wife never is in the mood and dosn't really care if we do it or not. nor does she care that I want it. Talks do nothing. It's bull crap
2007-12-16 08:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by Answerman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is, holy crap! i know ur young, but u guys are elligable for marriage counselling.. i know if i were in that situation, id be asking myself if i wanted to save my marriage and what lengths id be willing to go to to save it if i did. so thats an option...
or... if u guys havent already, u could introduce some toys to get kickstart ur sex life again. believe me, im the same age as you, my huband and i have had preggers scares, but it hasnt affected our sexlife. what i think the issue could be, and i stand corrected if im wrong, but it could be that ur not getting what u need from eachother, ur sexual and emotional languages must be different and u need to learn them... or learn how they changed.. and then act on it.
or maybe u guys need to separate to review ur situation, and have a clear mind to see where things are really going, but in doing so, maybe some marriage guidance would help the process, and it would help u two to find out new things about eachother..
well, thats my angle, and its what would go thru my mind if i were to find myself in a similar situation.. i hope u find the answer ur looking for :)
all the best for ur marriage
2007-12-16 07:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by thatchica! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dude has major issues. Most likely, he has realized he is gay.
Get out now.
You should be having sex 10 times a week, not 10 times a year. I'm not joking.
Cheat on him.
2007-12-16 07:05:33 · answer #8 · answered by charbatch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your hubby just isn't ready to be a father yet and has gotten afraid of that hapenning-be sure to get some fool proof birth control-maybe without that fear things will spark up again.
2007-12-16 06:57:44 · answer #9 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's could be the preggers scare>Children>It happens after marriage>Mine happened the wedding night>Different person before than> i do> she don't>Talk with him it might be over i his eyes>Don't cheat as that will or could haunt you for ever> End it first>Have a clear consonance>Best to luck>
2007-12-16 07:08:30 · answer #10 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋