ok my husband and i have always had differant sex drives mine being the stronger one, but lately he will say we are going to do it after a tv show or after im done doing somthing liek dishes or what ever but then when the time comes and we are in bed he says hes to tired or lays there and talks to me(which i love that we talk, but he does it to just kill time) till its to late to make love we both have very early scheduals ive sugested some times in the after-noon but for that to happen the electric has to go out lol he is 3 years older than me im 20 and he 23 so is this differance supose to be happening after only 6 months i dont think he is cheating but do other guys out there around this age have this problem? is there any thing i can do to help him or should i just back off? im more worried that this maybe a med. problem.
2007-12-16 06:41:51 · 5 answers · asked by Mrs T. 2009 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe his sex drive is just changing. My fiancee is 23 years old and he can't seem to get enough.... He wakes me up twice a night on a regular basis... So I really don't think that age has anything to do it. Also I will be turning 23 in less than a month, and my sex drive is VERY healthy... I'd go to say we're in our prime, sexually...
Talk to him about it, maybe something is bothering him, or maybe as you suggested it's medical...
If he denies it being something emotional then ask him to get a check up... Although I highly doubt that it is medical... I'm assuming it's probably stress, or something on an emotional level.. Stress can deeply affect one's sex drive...
By the way did ya'll get married already? I thought you weren't getting married until 2009?
2007-12-16 08:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by Meggie Smalls 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At age 23, I doubt this is a medical problem. I would sooner guess that he is stressed about finances and tired. See if you two can work on a budget and stay on it. I think if you get your fianancial situation on a good road, he will be much more spontaneous for sex. He is worried right now. Try this and see if it helps.
2007-12-16 14:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have him get a physical. I would think that it is medical. If he is cheating he would still be having sex with you. Stress can cause this sometimes. I do not know why men are afraid to just be upfront about it. Ask him what the problem is and make him talk to you.
2007-12-16 16:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him to the doctor. Could be anything. But ruling out medical problems is a first, then work on the stressed out part. If he admits to the stressed out part, then see if the two of you can't work on that part. Ask him if he is happy. Ask him if money, work, or something else is getting to him.
You are both far to young to have this problem. Get some professional help--it is so worth it.
2007-12-16 14:54:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him to the doc. he shouldent have any issues at that age I'm doubled his age I have no issues . yet:>)
2007-12-16 14:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by mitchey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋