My ex and I were together for 3 years and I broke up with him. Don't get me wrong, I still cared for him, but it wasn't working. We have been broken up for around 7 months now and I never think about him, he's moved on and I've been actively dating and looking for a new man. However, in the past couple of months I have had several dreams, and by several I mean atleast 5 every week in which we are back together or I am trying to get back with him. In reality I don't want to be back with him so I don't know why I am having these dreams. I don't even know what I can do to make them stop, but it is really starting to stress me out. Is there any medications that can put you in a deep sleep to where you don't dream? Is there any hope for this stopping? I've broken up with several men in my life and this has never happend. Also, there is no hope for us getting back together/nor do I want to, so please don't suggest that.
2007-12-16 06:37:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
when you dream about someone/something that means you are thinking about them. i wouldn't put myself on medication just because of that. maybe the dreams are telling you something. i would just let it go on and see what happens.
2007-12-16 06:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by Beautiful Disaster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of your mind still cares for him and so that part is with him in your dreams.Just be with him in your dreams and let that be that.It doesn't mean your life will co-operate and fall into place so that everything will work out between the two of you so don't feel like your dreams and your life have to mesh together.Think of it as cheating w/o the consequences.Get lucid and make him do the dishes or something.
When my mom and dad died I dreamed @ them for quite awhile b/c they were part of my mind,so to speak-their thoughts and attitudes "informed" how I am .Maybe it's similar for you w/ your ex.
Perhaps there is still some need for closure & maybe this is your brain saying "Hey,there's some answers I need" in which case I recommend recording and thinking @ those dreams until you feel better.
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2007-12-17 05:02:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my adventure with desires, some thing occurs certainly which motives you to have the dream. needless to say, your relationship with this guy or woman has replaced over the final month. and that's the reason you're having this dream. Do you have faith him?? Did the sentiments of mis-have faith come before or after any thoughts of lack of self assurance/jealousy? persons are so rapid to accuse somebody of being jealous and insecure---the folk in this dialogue board do not even understand you. And, there are valid motives for feeling insecure and jealous. My advice to you is that this: set up on your strategies no remember if loss of have faith or lack of self assurance/jealousy got here first. If, for regardless of reason, you have been insecure/jealous...the sentiments you have been having would have been the catalyst (inflicting you to behave in any different case in direction of your fiance) which brought about suspicion/loss of have faith. although, if the doubt/loss of have faith became into the preliminary feeling....then you definately've reason to experience insecure approximately he relationship. extra effective to artwork by those subject concerns now than to marry the guy and extremely have issues later. Are those issues some thing you desire to stay with for the remainder of your existence?? this is the question!!!
2016-10-11 10:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dreams are your subconscious minds way of dealing with loose ends, ie; unresolved issues.
Of course you care for him and probably wish it had worked out.
That is normal. However, you know it can't and you don't want to so just hang in there and do what is best for you and yours! You will discover that as time passes, this hurt will heal and you will move on to a better situation!
LEARN from mistakes--DON'T REPEAT THEM!
If this didn't help, get professional help.
2007-12-16 07:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by mr.richie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we mostly dream about the last thing we had in mind before falling asleep.
because when we sleep we stop thinking and the last thing we had in mind before sleeping become image that will create characters whether is in good ways or bad ways, it all depend on what you had in mind before you fall asleep.
Another thing about dream is that we dream also about things we are fear about which can turn to nightmares. Sometime we dream the we had sex in the dream it's because you had that in mind a lot.
Some of us can be gifted and some of the dream we make can be deja vu. which mean that we dreamed about something and it comes real in real life. some of us can see that but not all of us have that gift.
dreams are mostly what we had in mind a lot that are likely to appear in dream like music. You might relate to this one, you sleep and wake up and you have a song in mind the whole time and you don't understand why. it's because you attract that song to you until you fall asleep and you got up with it. the same way when you think about something too much and you sleep with it
i do things that make me happy like going to the movie which i love doing and i change the channel of my thought.
You wouldn't watch a channel if you don't like what their showing right?
so inset of thinking about the thing that is upsetting me i simply change my thought and think about what is my goal for next year or where i will like to travel too. inset of upsetting myself.
one the thing also that i do is that i tell myself that I AM IN LOVE WITH MYSELF AND I CAN'T LET THIS AND THAT MAKE ME MAD OR WORRY. i say i am too good to abuse myself and when i think like that i get the power to do anything to have a great day today and tomorrow and until i died.
I don't to upset myself and i won't that's it.
you should try.
the thought we hold on to are the thought we attract the most.
if you think about a guy or girl you like you will get more of that thought in your heard and
if you hold the thought of not liking someone, or things you don't want, you will attract more of that thought to yourself.
everything will be that I DON'T WANT AND I DON'T WANT.
if you say I WANT AND I WANT it's what you will get from your thought.
I suggest you change the channel of your thought and think about something that you thinking about it make you feel good and happy inset.
2007-12-16 06:51:25 · answer #5 · answered by frenchi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be u haven't really gotten over him though u have made up your mind u don't want him anymore. search your heart very well and see if u will not take him back if something u seriously detested about him changes for the better
2007-12-16 20:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by shasta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋