birth certificate - father's name?

Question

Hi all, I hope you can help me. I am 27 weeks pregnant, and my baby father and I are unfortunately no longer together. He is in no doubt that he is the father of the baby, but is unwilling to put his name on the birth certificate. He says he does not know what he is signing to by putting his name down. I find it very sad, as I would love nothing better than for him to be on there. How can I go about this? He wants full involvement with the baby, and has made plans to do so i.e. buying a cot etc for his house. I have tried to explain I do no want his money, I am goin back to work full-time so I can fully support the baby myself.

I thought the father had to be present to sign the birth certificate, as were unmarried.

Answer 1

I know that if your in the UK the father has got to be present if you are unmarried but maybe you should remind him that if his name is not on that piece of paper he has no parental responsibility. In other words he will not have very many legal rights to that child.
To be honest he sounds like an **** hole anyway what sort of man wouldn`t want to be on his child's birth certificate?!

Answer 2

The only thing you can do is try to reason with him. The father does have to be present in the UK to put their name on the birth certificate, but try explaining that if he intends to be involved in the childs life, the child may be upset that its fathers name is not on the birth certificate. This may make the child feel that its father did not want it etc I dont understand him saying he doesnt know what he is signing up for, he signed up for fatherhood when he got you pregnant and if he wants to be involved, it should be all or nothing.
This is such a sad situation and I hope he will take the responsibility of fatherhood seriously and I hope you sort the problem out, good luck :)

Answer 3

I don't understand his reasoning for not wanting his name on his child's birth certificate. That's sounds so hurtful...and so unnecessary for you to go through. I had a similar situation. However, the father does have to be there to have his name on the birth certificate. He may also have to sign an Acknowledgment of Paternity form 1st. Check with the hospital medical records to fully find out exactly what you will need to do about the birth certificate. And once you have the baby, the hospital will give you all kinds of info and paperwork on obtaining the birth certificate, establishing paternity, etc. while you're in the hospital. Good luck to you and I hope everything works out the way you'd like.

Answer 4

IN THE UK WHICH IS WHERE WE ARE!
THIS IS UK YAHOO ANSWERS ALL YOU AMERICAN PEOPLE ON HERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sorry about that. Right in the UK the father has to be present if you are not married there are too many young girls trying to get pregnant and putting just any ones name down depending on bank balance my poor friend had to find that out the hard way when some silly little girl accused him of getting her pregnant so he bought and paid for every thing for her and her child then when the baby was born it looked nothing like him at all so he insisted on getting a dna test done and guess what folks baby not his poor guy after being fooled into spending thousands of pounds. Sorry rant over!
I am married so my husband didnt need to be there but he did come with me cause he is great! I am not sure what goes on the birth certificate if your ex does not go.
I think you should just explain that its not for you but for your child what is he/she going to think when he/she is older and sees his/her birth certificate? Is the child going to have your name or his name? I think if he wants his child to have his last name then you should insist that he goes with you to register the birth! Its a very difficult situation and i think he is just being an idiot and needs to get a bloody grip!!!!!!!!!!

anyway best of luck and i hope you can get this sorted out xxx

Answer 5

He wants full involvement but doesn't want to be put on the birth certificate?..that means he will be around when he wants to be around and won't have to fill a legal obligation of paying child support. He intends to support you and give you money and be there but he has an out when he doesn't want to be there. ( by not being on the birth certificate.) I know this must be very hard for you. If he doesn't want to claim his child then don't let him. You will have the say in everything, HE will NOT and he will not be able to fight you on anything. But you can't put him on the certificate without him there, I guess and if he doesn't then he doesn't. I really hope everything works out. It sucks when things don't work out but you will be a great mom. good luck and congrats!

Answer 6

It kinda tricky when that happens. My daughters real dad didnt want to have anything to do with her when I was pregnant so I know how that feels. The thing with putting his name on the birth certificate is that they have to be present you can put him on there but if he isnt there to sign then your only option is to take it to court which if he was a real man he would want to do whatever to make sure that your child is taken care of. As far as not wanting his money you are entitled to it because babies are expensive and you didnt make that baby alone and its not fair for him to have all the privleges of a father but yet he wont pay you anything and he dont want his name on the birth certificate and also let him know he dont have to be on there for you to collect child support so he cant dodge that bullet unless you allow him too. Hope you are wise in you decisions and stay stong it will get better I know Ive bee there done that.. Take Care :)

Answer 7

that happen with me, the only thing u can do is get a court order but it is hard,first i was going to do this but then i started to investigate more and decided not to do because he would get parental responsability and i dont want that.do u really believe he wants to be part of ur baby life?if he really wanted he would put is name in his birth certificate, all that happens to me and now nothing,if u guys are not married the only thing u can do is get a court order,but believe me is not worth it because then even knowing he is the father he will say is not and u will have to prove he is the father,he thinks that by not coming in his birth certificate he would never have to do anything towards the child, like paying or anything.Is not worth it because u will probably have to go through DNA test ,Im going through that because i contacted the csa,first i didnt want his money but then i thought, no he is the father he have to be in his life in one way or another, now he is so upset and even though he knows he is the father now he is saying he is not.good luck whatever ur decision is

Answer 8

If you are unmarried the father of the baby has to be present when the birth certificate gets signed for his name to be on there.
Also if the father doesnt want his name on the birth certificate there is not much you can do the baby will automatically go in your name
good luck with the birth

Answer 9

alright hunnie, heres the thing... my sons father isnt on his birth certificate either and i took him for child support. the name on the birth certificate really means nothing in the sense that if you wanted his money, you can do it anyway. so tell him that. and also, if he signs the birth certificate, it entitles the baby to survival benefits of his father tragically passes away. it entitles the baby for social security if his father is on it and he dies. it helps the baby out a lot actually. just explain to him that it has nothing to do with money or anything like that. so good luck and hope all goes well for you.

Answer 10

When you go to register the birth you will give them all the names - yours, his and baby's. Decide carefully as it is very difficult to change later and if he wants to add his name you have to produce a marriage certificate! I was told this by a council officer.
On another note - do not make such strict plans about going back to work because you have no idea what will hit you when baby comes! No words can describe it and prepare you.
DO not reject his participation and also he may change drastically.
Ideally put his name on the birth certificate it is your baby's right. I agree it would be too sad to have a blank space.

Answer 11

It depends where you live. In the UK where i live you cannot put the father,s name down on the birth certificate unless he is present.(Unless you are married) I don't know what the law is in USA or other pleases. You should tell him that putting his name on the birth certificate means that he has parental responsibility and the right to help make any important decisions with baby's upbringing.